Please give me advice
My boyfriend refused to give me oral sex one night and now I don't want him to even touch me down there. I feel sick when I think about it and it always ruins "the mood". I still want to do things to him, though. I told him how I feel and he got upset. He said that he wants to pleasure me too. We have a long distance relationship, but we get to see each other again next month. Can someone give me advice on how to get over this feeling so that way he can pleasure me again?
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Was this the first time you had oral? -
It would have been if he would have done something. This was also the second time he refused. He thinks it's "disgusting".Comment
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If he thinks your girl parts are disgusting I'd tell him to take a long walk - back home. Why would he put his penis someplace he thinks is too disgusting to put his tongue? Sounds immature.Comment
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He doesn't think my "girl parts" are disgusting, it's the thought of it that disgusts him. I've told him that I don't taste bad, but he still refuses to do it. He also refuses to lick his fingers after fingering me. Also, we haven't had sex yet. We are waiting until after marriage to do that. We just do foreplay stuff.Comment
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Try fingering yourself, licking and sucking on your fingers and then kissing him.Comment
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He fine with that. He just doesn't want to fully taste me and it makes me feel bad. I cry when I think about the incident. What hurt the most was that he promised he would lick me and then he refused. It just makes me wonder what is so wrong with me / that area.Comment
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it is absolutely not you! It is him - he sounds immature. Maybe he just isn't ready for that yet but doesn't want to admit it.Comment
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But that's the only thing he doesn't want to do. He'll do everything else.Comment
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My guy always claimed he wanted to do that for me (oral), but when it got to the point, he could never do it. And I only knew one guy who HONESTLY enjoyed. I think it is just hard for some guys. Just like some girls don't like doing blow jobs. Maybe he will get over it in time.
But I am sorry to hear it. It sucks I know.Comment
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