[SoConfused217]

You should explore how to pleasure yourself ON YOUR OWN. Don't depend on him. I don't know how to pleasure myself sexually, i admit to that fact, but I am old enough to know how to deal with it. (For me, all it takes is a bar of Dark chocolate, and a great book to read!)

But since you are in the age where hormones are wild, you have to learn to get off on your own. Or else, you will end up sleeping with different guys just to get off. Also, get vaccinated for hpv, go to your family doctor and ask to get you an appointment with an OB-GYN. You are sexually active now, so better be responsible with your reproductive well-being.

I DO know how to pleasure myself on my own. I'm just saying that having my boyfriend join me is a lot nicer. And I'm not a . I wouldn't sleep with another guy for anything. Another thing is that my boyfriend and I only do foreplay things. We're not actually having sex until AFTER we're married.

[WildChild]

I'm going to venture a suggestion that you get the book, One Hour Orgasm or Extended Massive Orgasm. They focus on teaching methods that use only your hands to bring your partner to orgasm. It would be a great education and allow both of you to feel more competent and satisfied without involving intercourse or oral. One Hour Orgasm has instructions for the Venus Butterfly technique. Both teach you how to arouse either your partner or your self and bring them to a more prolonged level of pleasure.

[feelmyfury]

dude. that sucks. big time. but i completely understand both of you. honestly- it's not your fault but he might just not be ready for that yet or he just might not like it. my man loves giving me oral so much that even if we don't have intercourse- he just wants to do that. it's his thing- but i am not into giving it back. he complains and tells me he feels bad about it so i've tried to enjoy giving it but even though i do-i just don't enjoy it like that. so it could be he just doesn't like doing it or he's just not ready. i can't tell you but if there's a relationship in between all this- there has to be better communication about this or anything that would even upset you. my man talked to me about it and it's helped me a lot because the simple fact that i know its going to make him feel better makes me want to just for him. it doesn't disgust me in the least bit- maybe i'm just lazy....

or maybe...it's time you do find yourself a new man....someone who's going to be into you just as much or more.

[SoConfused217]

Just As An Update

While I was visiting, he did try licking me. He didn't like it, but he thinks that maybe later in time, he will change his mind about it. He was instantly scared about me getting hurt again after he told me what he thought about it. But I wasn't upset. I was just so happy that he tried it for me. I just smiled and wrapped my arms around his neck and kissed him deeply. I just recently thanked him for doing it and I told him how it made me really happy. Thinking about prom night still hurts but I don't think I'm so afraid of him being down there now. Thanks everyone for all the advice you've given me. It helped out a lot.