[Tikitia]

My husband LOVES getting a blowjob. Loves it. I love complying, getting him all excited and working him with my mouth. The problem is I absolutely cannot finish. I am disgusted by cum. I can't handle the thought of it in my mouth or throat, even worse my stomach. It's bad enough having it inside me after sex.

Certain textures make me vomit- yogurt, pudding...cum.

I have vomited all over his penis while giving him a BJ.

I am bothered by the texture and the fact that it is living fluid. I know sperm makes up very little of cum, but I am totally grossed out by the idea of tons of wiggling, tiny sperm being in my digestive system.

I know that semen is actually beneficial to swallow. I just can not do it. When I start to reach that point when I know he's going to come, I put my thumb on that point near the base where you can block the flow, but even then I am already gagging and I pull away too soon.

His birthday is coming up, and I desperately want to give him a start to finish blow job that I know he wants. He's very supportive and understanding, but I want to be able to handle cum without vomiting.

Advice, please!

[Swiftus]

Easy....

Start with a little oral.
Then take a break and go with the hand.
Back to the oral.
Back to the hand but now ask (in a dirty fashion) to be warned when he is going to burst.
Back to oral until the warning.
Go back to the hand and have him finish on your chest.

Trust me... that would win me over.

[Abi]

If you have an aversion to things of similar textures, maybe it is an issue that could be cleared up with hypnotherapy or counselling?

Or practice swallowing that yogurt or pudding down without gagging, until you are so used to it the gag reflex doesn't kick in!

[Tikitia]

Easy....

Start with a little oral.
Then take a break and go with the hand.
Back to the oral.
Back to the hand but now ask (in a dirty fashion) to be warned when he is going to burst.
Back to oral until the warning.
Go back to the hand and have him finish on your chest.

Trust me... that would win me over.

I always instruct him to give me warning when I really want to go for it, but it always ends the same. I pull away too soon due to gagging or psyching myself out, and it distracts him.

I haven't thought of switching back and forth though...that could work?

[Tikitia]

If you have an aversion to things of similar textures, maybe it is an issue that could be cleared up with hypnotherapy or counselling?

Or practice swallowing that yogurt or pudding down without gagging, until you are so used to it the gag reflex doesn't kick in!

That's a good idea...I'll definitely try that (hubby likes the idea too).

A big problem is still my disgust about the semen being partially alive...

[Hopeless Dork]

Its all in the mindset tikitia, it really is. When my boyfriend comes in my mouth I do NOT think about all the living organisms in his seed, lol.. noooo that would probably make ANYONE feel uncomfy, really.

If you can work on changing how you see what it is that is coming out of his body into something way more positive and desirable it will help you a lot. I think of it as getting to taste his orgasm, his pleasure, its like the pat on the back of job (no pun intended) well done. Its like getting to the center of that tootsie pop. I like to watch his reactions and focus on how good he feels. I actually enjoy his taste, I've gotten so use to it over the time we've been together that I actually have cravings for it , as weird as that might sound.

If you find the taste and texture really too much to bear, swallowing hard and fast will get it off your tongue quickly , like medicine and you wont taste or feel it anymore. Pushing him to the back of your mouth while he is coming will also reduce your contact with the flavor since most of your taste buds are up front.

You could also, not spit... but let it fall out of your mouth back on to his penis in a sexy way. Or like the others suggest suck on him until he is about to pop and masturbate him onto your breasts. It is much better than just ducking and dodging his flow lol.

Think of yourself, and how you feel when he provides you with oral. He is tasting your fluids the ENTIRE time, not just when you come. They are getting all in his mouth and the sides of his face, if he had an aversion to your fluids and lick licked, pulled back with horror and disgust every time he came in contact with your wetness, would that make you feel sexy and loved?

I am not saying you have become semen swallower extraordinnaire or anything, but changing your mindset is going to be the biggest step to progress, and to making him feel good and you as well.

Along time ago , before the boyfriend I am with now, the thought of letting a guy come in my mouth disturbed me. I never did that. I thought it would be the grossest thing on earth. But after spending some time alone, giving oral sex became one of my favorite fantasies, probably because it was the one thing hard to re-create through masturbation.

When I met my boyfriend, and decided to open myself up to him sexually - lets just say he became the luckiest man on earth :-) in regards to oral pleaures. My feelings about the act changed, not the act itself. My feelings for him changed the way I view ejaculate.

I don't like pudding or custard either, or anything of that texture and I know the feeling you speak of on those things where its just kind of gross. But his come is not gross to me, its beautiful. Its all in how you think about it.

[Abi]

OK, I have one more suggestion.

With anxiety disorders in general - which I think is what you have with regards ingesting semen - a common technique is a series of activities that increase your contact with the thing that cause you anxiety, while using relaxation techniques, until you are able to contemplate the issue without stress.

Simply put - start out by, say, relaxing and deep breathing and feeling calm. Let your husband touch and stroke you, and then let him cum on you. Maybe just on your belly or breasts. Then another occasion, again feeling relaxed and at ease, move up to him cumming on your face. Then maybe on your closed mouth. Then without you sucking him off, just let him cum over your open mouth, or lick a small amount off your fingers or lips. Or have your husband taste his own cum and then kiss him while it is on his lips.

Build up to performing full on oral sex, taking each stage slowly and remaining calm, using relaxation techniques or mentally imagining you are tasting something that you love, until you are finally able to perform the act with no aversion as you become desensitized.

I hope you find something that works for you!

[Tikitia]

Thanks you guys! With all advice in mind (and a cup of pudding later), I was able to succcessfully give my husband his birthday gift.

[WildChild]

If he tastes bad do a search on the taste of semen. Apparently a lot of people have made quite an effort to deal with this and you can find lists of recommend food to eat or avoid.

[kessie]

I'm also somewhat freaked out by the taste/idea of it, I swallow as fast as I can, almost like I'm taking a shot. Sometimes I finish with my hand, but usually I don't need to. AND DEFINITELY DONT THINK ABOUT WHAT IS IN IT. I agree with what was said above--think about how much pleasure you are giving him, and what a gift you can share together, that you can make each other so happy. Good luck!