[SarahSue]

My hubby wants to try anal sex, but it sounds kind of gross to me. Is it better than vaginal sex, and is it a dirty as it sounds?

Thanks

[WildChild]

There has been a lot of discussion on this here. Why not do a site search and read some of the threads? I think you'll find it's all been covered!

[SinisterUrge]

But to quickly answer your two questions...

1. To him probably, if he likes it tight. To you not so much, no G-spot stimulation or anything.

2. Yes, its a messy procedure. You'll want to void your bowels first (an enema would be even better), then using LOTS of lube, first stretch yourself with some fingers before the big event.

[Rosebud85]

It definitely isn't better in my experience, at least for the women. I can be a little masochistic when it comes to sex but I can't see how you would like it if your not.

[The Orbess]

If you're goona try it, buy Astro-glide or any water based lube.

Have him gently massage your anus with one of his lubed up fingers, then have him slowly slide it in and work in and out in a slow gentle manner. Making sure the butt is lubed up as well as his fingers.

After you get that good rythm going, have him add another finger (like he's holding a cigarette) and do that for you to get used to the size and motion.

Then have him slide himself on in and go from there.

Contraray to popular belief, spit alone does NOT do it.

If you want it to be fun and comfy, use lube.

Also, if done correctly the orgasms are incredible!

-Orbess

[The Orbess]

Also, side note: poop first. MAke sure you don't eat anything that'll make u gassy.

You'll want a clean shot with this

-Orbess

[HALFNOTHING]

) lol.. i heard a lot about this thing but not tried it yet and this is not good.. you will have your anal open and on the other side, you may not control things going out.. lol..

i suggest, only gay to men sex allowed to do this..

speaking of orgasm? I don't think, you'll feel any orgasm in it.. knowing that the orgasm of the girl is on the little thing in vaginal canal. female won't satisfied without entering to that canal..

[SinisterUrge]

you will have your anal open and on the other side, you may not control things going out.. lol..

Thats a myth. your poo-holding ability will not be hindered from proper anal sex. If you don't lube and you tear something it probably won't be pretty, but thats why you stretch first.

[Steph33]

We've never had anal, but if lubed proper and you also hand stimulate during it there can be a mutual major orgasm. Only came with past partners a couple times, mostly because the guy came to fast.

Took 3 years to get my guy to release in my mouth with oral sex, and that was a major undertaking. Doggy style vaginal sex is my favorite but it does zero for him because he can't see my face in that position. That's a big for him, don't understand but respect that's how it is for him. So he gives me what I want in that position till I cum, then we change positions

But he thinks anal is dregrading for a woman even if she can cum. When we discuss it I can tell that's just how he feels no matter what I say. I've asked him to several times as a special wish or favor. But he lost his erection whenever he tried, so mentally his feeling it's showing a "bad" towards me effects him.

But if the time ever happens I can just get some small part of him there, I know he's a perfect size and shape to get me off big time. I'll take control and have all of him in me in an instant.

[Iseulda]

It definitely isn't better in my experience, at least for the women. I can be a little masochistic when it comes to sex but I can't see how you would like it if your not.

It doesn't hurt me one little bit - I love it from a purely pleasure point of view. We all have slightly different physiologies. As with any kind of stimulation, sexual or otherwise, we respond to sensations differently. For example, some people just love having their feet tended to, others can't stand it.

) lol.. i heard a lot about this thing but not tried it yet and this is not good.. you will have your anal open and on the other side, you may not control things going out.. lol..

As another poster said that's a myth - while the anus is not designed for penetration, like the vagina is, it is still elastic and regains it's form quickly.

i suggest, only gay to men sex allowed to do this..

Allowed? Well for a very long time it was illegal for both gay and straight couples, I was aware of various rulings formally legalizing sodomy but I wasn't aware it didn't apply to heterosexuals

Being serious though, you're right that it is different for men - women do not have a prostate to stimulate - but there are plenty of nerve endings there and those on the front wall of the rectum are shared with the vagina. Also, there are plenty of straight men out there who enjoy anal play, but only when given by a woman. There are also plenty of gay men who do not like anal sex. We're all different. That's one of my favourite things about humans.

speaking of orgasm? I don't think, you'll feel any orgasm in it.. knowing that the orgasm of the girl is on the little thing in vaginal canal. female won't satisfied without entering to that canal..

Orgasm is a strange thing - when I'm turned on enough I can orgasm from the small of my back being lightly stroked. I certainly do orgasm from anal sex, delightfully.

To the OP - some people love anal, some hate it, some are indifferent. Try anal stimulation from something smaller than a penis before you try actual penetrative anal sex. Let him stimulate you with his finger(s) or a thin vibrator or dildo. Lube is important, as is being clean - but you don't need to make a big deal about it. As long as you do not feel you have a bowel movement pending and you have had a good external wash there is generally no problem. It may hurt a little the first time - you need to relax. If your muscles are tight it will hurt. A good trick is to tell your body you are about to let something out (if you know what I mean) - push out a little - this will relax the muscle group and allow penetration without pain.

Good luck - and remember, if you don't like it after a couple of good tries then it is not for you, don't do it.