[kelren]

I caught my husband masturbating to me while I was asleep. He had removed my underwear and was looking at me while pleasuring himself. I have been awaken to this a few times. is this normal? I feel violated. What should I do?

[WildChild]

Well, personally I'd invite him to cum on inside. But that's me. There has been discussion about this before and it seems to come down to what your boundries are. Sounds like this is outside yours. How would you feel if he was doing it looking at porn? Obviously YOU turn him on. That's a good thing. See if you can find a way to work with that works for both of you?

[GlitterAndStuds]

Well, personally I'd invite him to cum on inside. But that's me. There has been discussion about this before and it seems to come down to what your boundries are. Sounds like this is outside yours. How would you feel if he was doing it looking at porn? Obviously YOU turn him on. That's a good thing. See if you can find a way to work with that works for both of you?

I was waiting for someone else to respond to this. I agree with this though, especially the part about him masturbating to YOU as opposed to something/someone else. I would say it's possible he wakes up with the feelings, but doesn't want to wake you up and disturb you. Although I'm not sure if the part of him taking off your underwear ties in with that logic.

I would personally be pretty flattered, but that's just my preference. Obviously it makes you uncomfortable if you're feeling violated, so I'd say to just tell him that. Let him know that you've noticed he likes that, but it makes you feel a little weird. If you don't mind some action in the middle of the night, let him know it's okay to wake you up if he's feeling like some midnight nookie haha jk

[Kallygirlie]

I have to disagree here. Tho it is a good thing that he is turned on by you, it just seems very creep to take a womens underwear off and masterbate to her. I've been woken up to my boyfriend coming into bed, taking my underwear off and climbing on in. I woke up in pain because obviously I'm not to turned on while sleeping and not really wet. I just laid there stunned that he was doing it. Faithful committed relationship or married, either way you aren't his object. I finally got up the never to tell my boyfriend that he made me feel very violated and like a toy to him. Needless to say, he hasn't tried again. I would in a way be flattered for him to rather look at me over porn but still, your sleeping. Can he not possibly wait a few hrs until you are awake. He needs to learn a little self control

[Joy]

well I don't know how long you've been together but my bf will wake me up if its late and he is in the mood and its all good! I may be a bit groggy for a few mins but I'd much rather have my man waking me up or pleasuring himself by looking at me then some random pic on the pc or some other chicks fb pic's.

we all have different tolerance's to what is ok. Either tell him it creeps you out or stop wearing panties to bed

Personally if I woke up gaged and bound by my bf that might be a bit creepy but to each their own :0

[Guest]

Can he not possibly wait a few hrs until you are awake. He needs to learn a little self control

Ok - think about what you just said.

If that were true, you are essentially saying that no one in a committed relationships should be masturbating.

[Guest]

I caught my husband masturbating to me while I was asleep. He had removed my underwear and was looking at me while pleasuring himself. I have been awaken to this a few times. is this normal? I feel violated. What should I do?

Personally, I think that is awesome. He wants some, but you're sleeping.

What's the next best thing?

And quite considerate if I might add.

This is your husband, not some peeping tom.

Be happy that you are the object of your man's fantasies. This, unfortunately, is far too uncommon.

[Guest]

Can he not possibly wait a few hrs until you are awake. He needs to learn a little self control

https://www.womens-health.com/boards/sex/17651-anyone-know-libido-inhibitor.html#post107758

[LanaBear]

Meh - I don't really see a problem with it... That's just me though. The stripping of your undies while your sleeping, a little odd, but again, he's your hubby.

I'm a personal fan of middle of the night, half asleep, can't keep hands off each other fun , so I'll wake up him and vice versa. But if I woke up to him going to town with himself, I'd get turned on and join in on the fun.

[Guest]

Either tell him it creeps you out or stop wearing panties to bed

LOL - well said.