[Guest]

Hmm.. okay, many thanks for all the posts, I was just wondering if it's common for someone to think like this.

No. I do not like the idea of another man or men trying to or pleasuring my girlfriend. I wouldn't call that normal.

[NDNICEGUY]

I dont either

I am currently/recently divorced and this is part of why. My wife never really wanted sex often, did not like giving oral, or anything else that was somewhat different/taboo. Well come to find out that she had a different lifestyle that I was unaware of. After 12 years of marriage a friend mentioned he thought she was cheating on me and after some checking and following I found out she was right. My wife was involved in group sex and when I confronted her she admitted to having sex with other men and even 3 men at one time often. I was shocked but not as shocked as when she told me that she was addicted to sex and being treated as a when with these other men. It was disgusting to find out that one night she got drunk with a girlfriend of hers whom I did not care for as I felt she w as a bad influence and I was right, they were involved in what I would call a gangbang as each one of them did 8 men in one night and were even with each other a few times during this. As far as penis size, I am not what I would call small, 7" with good girth but some of the men according to her were much longer and considerably larger girth. What makes a woman do this? Is there something I do not understand, why would you want a man well to put it bluntly in each hole at the same time? Can anyone give some insight on this?

[Kallygirlie]

honestly I think its just like anyone having a fetish. they are wierd and no one understands them but they make complete since to the person who likes it. I personally with you on the disgust part of it

[NDNICEGUY]

Question

So why is it she was willing to do these things? I never really pushed a I did not feel it was right, but I would have enjoyed several other things that she said were gross but she did them with complete strangers or I think they were strangers anyway. Is it normal for a woman to want to feel 2 men or 3 in her at one time? In the 12 years of marriage I bet I received 2 blow jobs as she did like or want to do it but she wanted and asked for oral on her almost every time we did anything, and anal sex was a "NO WAY" thing for her. Right now I am just trying to understand what happened, did I do something to push her into doing that? I read a lot of articles/responses in this site and she has done just about all of the things and a few that I do not know if I should even mention.

[Guest]

So why is it she was willing to do these things? I never really pushed a I did not feel it was right, but I would have enjoyed several other things that she said were gross but she did them with complete strangers or I think they were strangers anyway. Is it normal for a woman to want to feel 2 men or 3 in her at one time? In the 12 years of marriage I bet I received 2 blow jobs as she did like or want to do it but she wanted and asked for oral on her almost every time we did anything, and anal sex was a "NO WAY" thing for her. Right now I am just trying to understand what happened, did I do something to push her into doing that? I read a lot of articles/responses in this site and she has done just about all of the things and a few that I do not know if I should even mention.

Bro - a person cannot help what they find sexually arousing. They can, however, control whether or not they act on these fantasies.

Why would she marry you and withhold the very things she did with other men- who knows? You'll probably never know unless you ask her. Even then she probably won't have a straight answer.

[Kallygirlie]

I'll agree with OTYA. She cant help what she likes. Why didn't she talk to you about these things? maybe she was embarrased of them. If these other guys were strangers, maybe she just had the "I'll never see them again" feeling. Its really hard to say. Like OTYA said, if you ask you prob wont get a straight answer. As a women, I know I have never wanted 2 guys at once. I've seen it on movies and its just nasty to me but alot of what I do might be nasty to others.-

[NDNICEGUY]

wondering

I sent her a e-mail asking questions, not sure why, do I really want to know? I also wonder why she did not say anything or how I could not have known. the hardest part is her not doing any of those things with me ever cuz they were gross or she did not want/like it but doing them with whomever else she flet like it. I am not sure if she wil give me an answer or tell me anything, maybe I am hoping for an answer so I can put my mind to rest or something, either way it is difficult to comprehend, why first and then in the back of my mind I ask how long has this been going on and how many men/women have there been during our time together?

[WildChild]

Wow, I hope you got tested for every STD under the sun. She probably can't explain this. Just know that she is very unusual and you are extremely unlikely to encounter another woman who behaves this way.

[NDNICEGUY]

never had to

I have not been worried as we never had sex without a condom as she did not want children. Poses another question did she have sex without protection when she was doing this? Why, if I dare ask, would this be a fantasy or something a woman would want? I have read articles about things like this and seen it in movies but not for real. Let me ask this question, how many women think about (fantasize) or would want to be with even 2 men at one time. or be with another woman and a man? Women let me ask you this question, do you enjoy giving oral to your man or do you do it because he does oral on you?

[nightqueen]

I have not been worried as we never had sex without a condom as she did not want children. Poses another question did she have sex without protection when she was doing this? Why, if I dare ask, would this be a fantasy or something a woman would want? I have read articles about things like this and seen it in movies but not for real. Let me ask this question, how many women think about (fantasize) or would want to be with even 2 men at one time. or be with another woman and a man? Women let me ask you this question, do you enjoy giving oral to your man or do you do it because he does oral on you?

Wow. Sorry to hear the situation. It's not strange to me that she would want group sex, or more than one man at the same time. This is a turn on for lots of people. The strange part is that she was so distant with you. I really don't know. But I can say that being in a loving marriage, for me, means that I like to please my husband, and he pleases me. We share our fantasies together. I find it strange that she was so cold to you, and even made you use condoms for 12 years! Anyway, sounds like being divorced might turn out to be much better for you.