[WildChild]

Does his frequent masturbation ever create an enviornment where you feel unecessary? I know that most men will say sex, oral whatever... is far preferred to masturbation.. but I myself know that masturbation can be a pretty good orgasm and if it weren't the need for the intimacy I might not require sex as much as 'alone' time.
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We don't share a home so that changes things but yes, there are times it makes me feel, maybe not unecessary but certainly less desired. The flip side is he shares his day, his frustrations and successes, daily. There is far more between us than sex. I'd could do with every day though.

OTYA, I see two side with this, I can do the straight sex thing but not long term. It feels too much like using a man as living toy. If I am attracted enough to have sex with him on several occasions there has to be more than just sex for the attraction to continue. Just like many men have said that a woman's looks may initially attract them but the attraction can end as soon as she opens her mouth and turns out to be shallow and insipid.

If the attraction is more than sexual, then the emotional aspects of the sexual relationship become much more important. It's much more than just a body to body thing. When the deeper connection is there, the sex gets better because it has so much more depth to it.

[Hopeless Dork]

sexual relationship become much more important. It's much more than just a body to body thing. When the deeper connection is there, the sex gets better because it has so much more depth to it.

Couldn't agree more, and it works that way for both sexes. I remember a friend of mine introduced me to a guy she USE to date that she dumped. He was one of the more beautiful looking persons of the male species I'd seen in person. Her new boyfriend was no where near as outwardly attractive and I asked her ... what is that all about it... meaning why she dumped the guy... she said oh you'll know why...

So when she introduced us he began to speak and the more he talked the less attractive he became. He was not very bright at all... sweet guy, but smart as a rock... He would have been nice to have on the arm at a shallow party but nights in at home would be torture i'd imagine lol..

Men will put up with that more than women will it seems. If a girl is hot enough they can take less meaningful conversation, but even then -- it gets old. Beauty really is only skin deep. Of course attraction is necessary, but I'd much rather have someone I can love in the privacy of my own home, and respect... to someone I tolerate just to show off in public.

[njman2008]

ha, when I moved in with my g/f I thought i was going to get to have sex more often. I was really wrong...I could and would have sex at least once a day, given the chance. I hope it works out for you.

[WildChild]

nj what do you do to help keep her feeling sensuous, sexy and juicy?

[njman2008]

I am constantly commenting on how good she looks (she wears a lot of dresses and skirts). She already looks really sexy everyday for work. When we are both home together after dinner, I rub her shoulders or her feet and we try to fit in some showers together. Although she does not have a sexual desire like mine, we try to be "intimate" in other ways and be sexual when shes in the mood.

[Alba23]

I just wanted to say thank u all for ur opinions and answers to my questions and concerns...it feels good to have ppl relate to me (njman) and who are able to tell me that hey it is normal for the most part....

I just like to know that even when hes not trying to have sex with me 5 days a week ( which im fine with really) that he shows me in other ways that hey, just because im not on u all the time doesnt mean i dont fancy u i dont think ur not gorgeous and what not....like someone mentioned here...a lot of it is the emotional connection!
ohh im such a girl!