[Theresa]

I think I just don't understand why alcohol would be needed in this case. To me I enjoy knowing full well I'm not under the influence of any substance when I'm making love to my DH (whichever way it is). The only alcohol I really even consume is a glass of wine now and then (usually why I'm home alone and relaxing) or the occasional cup of saki with him or when friends come over.

Maybe it's more of a Western thing, I dunno.

I agree with Miya about the alcohol. My husband and I don't drink at all which has been a great decision for us. We want to set a good example for our children and they have benefited from it.

Sex can be just enjoyable without alcohol.

[DimeyScienceChick]

Miya and Theresa...I see both your points. At the same time, you're making it seem like I'm some alcoholic who needs alcohol to function when in reality i'm the farthest from that. When I said maybe I'd take a shot or two, that doesn't mean that I would be DRUNK AS and stumbling all over my man And no, I'm sure it's not just a "western thing"...usually whenever I drink, it is wine as well. Bottom line, what works for you or me may not always work for SOMEONE else...keep that in mind before you're so quick to judge.

[Miya]

Miya and Theresa...I see both your points. At the same time, you're making it seem like I'm some alcoholic who needs alcohol to function when in reality i'm the farthest from that. When I said maybe I'd take a shot or two, that doesn't mean that I would be DRUNK AS and stumbling all over my man And no, I'm sure it's not just a "western thing"...usually whenever I drink, it is wine as well. Bottom line, what works for you or me may not always work for SOMEONE else...keep that in mind before you're so quick to judge.

Firstly, I in no way directed it towards you so sorry for you if you took it that way.

Secondly, as I've posted on several forum threads, I DON'T judge anyone. That's for karma to decide. Frankly I feel it's up to the individual to do what they do and no one else. I was simply commenting on the use of alcohol and how I don't understand it and that it's more a thing in western culture and not mine. Again, sorry for you if you interpreted it as a personal affront but that's not what I said or meant so my conscience is at peace.

[DimeyScienceChick]

Riiiight....still sounds like judging to me...but thanks for that "clarification"

[Miya]

Riiiight....still sounds like judging to me...but thanks for that "clarification"

Whatever/however you want to think is your choice, sarcasm and all.

[Lady_Lav]

I usually just drop to my knees and do it anytime. He's always up for it! LOL There's nothing wrong with acting ****ty for your partner, as long as it's just with him and you're not bein ****ty all around town!
It helps as well if you enjoy doing it, and you're not just doing it for the sake of it.

To get used to his balls, just lightly flick your tongue over them, and see what his reaction is. That way you can see how you and him both like it.
Try not to be worried about what he'll think of you, if you are together for a few years then obviously he loves you! It can be a bit gross if they are very hairy, but you can always get him to trim the hair.

Just let go and have fun, slap his penis off your tongue and cheeks, rub it against your nipples, make eye contact with him.
Use your hands as well to rub his thighs and his , or you could put your hands on his hips and pull him in and out of your mouth, kinda like the way a man does with your hips during doggy style.

Don't forget to ask him what he likes, if there is something that he likes,like deep throat and your not sure about it, try it then make up your mind.
My partner wanted me to deep throat him, but I'd never done it before so I tried it. I didn't like going down as far as he wanted me to because it just felt uncomfortable so I told him, and now I just go as deep as I find comfortable.

As long as the two of you can talk openly about sex you'll get on fine. Communication can be one of the reasons why sex isn't that great. Tell each other what you like and don't like. And don't knock anything before you try it.

You don't have to answer this if you don't wanna but do you swallow?? Most men love to be swallowed, I can't say every man does but some do. But if you don't like it, you could let him cum around your mouth, on your face(mind your eyes though, spunk eye is not pleasant) or on your breasts.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Miya and Theresa...I see both your points. At the same time, you're making it seem like I'm some alcoholic who needs alcohol to function when in reality i'm the farthest from that. When I said maybe I'd take a shot or two, that doesn't mean that I would be DRUNK AS and stumbling all over my man And no, I'm sure it's not just a "western thing"...usually whenever I drink, it is wine as well. Bottom line, what works for you or me may not always work for SOMEONE else...keep that in mind before you're so quick to judge.

DimeySienceChick, to respond the way you did? Is judging.. These ladies were in my "opinion" saying don't be scared to experiment, you don't need alcohol to loosen up and do something different.

In effect you are judging and we do not accept this on this Forum.

No one said you were DRUNK AS and stumbling over your man...

These ladies offered an "opinion", nothing more.. You want to know how to achieve your desire? You need to do it, without anything but the love and desire, and no inhibitions...

We respect our members and your attack on them can result in banning, listen to their "opinions" because I agree..

You don't need alcohol to make it happen..

You need to desire your man, not be frightened to look outside the square of what you were taught by you parents and not think that taking his balls in your mouth is not normal. Or that people giving their opinions means your a drunk.. It's not what they said. Is that how you really feel? Seriously that you can't unless you have a drink? We are here to help.


If you love this guy then let lose without taking something to do so.. It's okay, it's normal and it's sexual and that is what your question was about.

CW

[Little]

We do NOT respond to other posters on this website with sarcasm or superiority. Neither are necessary.
Using alcohol is a great way to loosen up in certain situations. Those are situations in which you are SURE you are in control. Seems like you've been with your boyfriend a long time and trust him, so what's the harm in getting your oral on when tipsy? If that's what it takes to make you do something you want to?
Of course, as the other posters have pointed out, it's not good to need a substance to do anything and as you get more comfortable with giving head, you should come to rely on your own nerve and change your own feelings about it. Personally I love to give my man blow jobs ... and he loves to receive. One of the greatest tricks is to ENJOY it confidently. That has to be developed.

[Theresa]

I am so sorry if I offended anybody. I just said that me and my husband do not drink and we are very proud that we are setting a good example for our children.

[Loveshoes]

I have to admit that I had a hard time with it in the beginning. My husband and I have been together/married for 20 years. Its better now then ever before and there isn't anything that I do that he complains about. I really like that. It has been a journey of learning and it only gets better. My husband has always said that I'm perfect for him, a lady on his arm when we're out and a tiger ("") in the bedroom when we're alone. That's all that matters to me, and I don't care what anyone else thinks.

I'm sorry for everyone that got involved with the alcohol comment. Lets all be friends now, we all decide what we need in order to perform what we want...it works for some and not for others. Its okay and you never have to share some of your personal preferences with anyone if you don't want to. Its okay. I love you all!