[jr]

A MAN'S PERSPECTIVE......

I have to say first, what's the deal with the need for the shots of booze? Are you a college sorority girl at some bar looking at Mr. Fraternity hunk hoping to score? Or a woman deeply in love with a man, your life partner who would probably take a bullet for you and your baby?

Who cares what other "people" or "society" or whatever has labled this act of intimacy between two people that love each other. Stop being so vain and easily influenced by others.

Focus on the fact that this is the man that you love and you are doing something for him that will bring him incredible pleasure and you pleasure by doing something so amazing.

Does he ever perform cunnilingus on you? Do you think he gives a rip what others think about that? If he does, then you both need counseling to understand and realize that NOTHING between two loving, consenting adults is wrong or unacceptable as long as both parties agree and it is done in a loving way.

A HUGE part of intimacy is giving pleasure to the other party while getting pleasure yourself from doing so.

Forget what others think, say, do, act, whatever.

This is between you and him.

As for technique, there are as many different techniques as there are women. So I'd advise you to discuss it with your partner and ASK him what feels good. If he doesn't know, then ask him while you're doing it. Make mental notes of his facial expressions and moans, etc.

Like most of the others, I agree with be careful about your TEETH.

[WildChild]

We've had a bunch of threads on this with some pretty detailed info, why not do a search?

[DimeyScienceChick]

Hi All.. it's been a little minute since I've been on the site!

lady lav--great advice! I have to admit, i have never swallowed! He's cum in my mouth before, but I spit. I think i just have to get used to the taste and texture...b/c when it's been in my mouth, i'm darn near gagging while i'm going to spit! As far as deep throating, I'm pretty much like you...I can't put it all the way in my throat or anything, but when I put it as far as it can go, i notice he shivers and ohhs and ahhs! So i definitely know he's enjoying that
Heehee...Yes! I was guilty of the teeth a little bit! EEK! But like some have said, it's a learning process!

CW--I have no problem personally with Miya or Theresa, I was just addressing something that they said in their responses. I respect the fact that you're a monitor, but i will also have to respectfully agree to disagree with you--in no way was I the one judging. What I responded with was in no way worse than what was said to me...saying it's a "western" thing is not judging me, being that I am from the USA?! That's like saying..."all blondes are airheads" we all know that's definitely not true, but that sure is judging! So if you feel like you need to ban people from this site for defending themselves or responding to being called something they're not, then I honestly think that is judging in itself, unfortunately.

Thanks again guys for the tips!!!!

[Guest]

Are you a reader?

Two books I'd suggest;

Blow Him away by Marcy Michaels

He Comes Next by Dr. Ian Kerner Ph.D

Two very good books on the subejct and since none of us came with instruction manuals, perhaps these are the next best thing.

[MoeJr]

DimeySienceChick, to respond the way you did? Is judging.. These ladies were in my "opinion" saying don't be scared to experiment, you don't need alcohol to loosen up and do something different.

In effect you are judging and we do not accept this on this Forum.

No one said you were DRUNK AS and stumbling over your man...

These ladies offered an "opinion", nothing more.. You want to know how to achieve your desire? You need to do it, without anything but the love and desire, and no inhibitions...

We respect our members and your attack on them can result in banning, listen to their "opinions" because I agree..

You don't need alcohol to make it happen..

You need to desire your man, not be frightened to look outside the square of what you were taught by you parents and not think that taking his balls in your mouth is not normal. Or that people giving their opinions means your a drunk.. It's not what they said. Is that how you really feel? Seriously that you can't unless you have a drink? We are here to help.


If you love this guy then let lose without taking something to do so.. It's okay, it's normal and it's sexual and that is what your question was about.

CW

And this is what I love about this site....Keeping it sensible ! CW and Little right on top of things....Great work !!


As far as the subject. Watch reactions of your man, make adjustments, as you do your confidence will soar.....perfection for both of you! I terribly disagree with the ****ty thing, do not let society tell you what is right or wrong. Like CW said think outside the box, just because parents didn't do something, or your friends want to throw in opinions about certain behavior, doesn't mean it's wrong, it's there opinion, and in my opinion all those people are missing out on a ton of fun! Trust me, sex is a wonderful thing when you open your mind.... experimenting, learning, having fun with it can be better than any roller coaster you have ever been on lol

[ItalianSweetie]

I love giving my husband head, and he enjoys it, too. He loves when I use my mouth only, going all the way down to his balls(Deep Throat). I love licking and gently sucking his balls as well. I get so wet everytime I give him a BJ, and he tells me that I am the best he ever had. I also love swallowing his cum. I don't think giving head to your long term boyfriend/ husband is ****ty at all. It is part of sex. My husband pleases me orally, so of course I want to do the same for him. Some important tips I have for first timers is, no teeth. And try to keep him stimulated the whole time. You can start out slowly licking the head of his penis, then go down to the shaft, use your hands down his shaft while you are sucking the head if you are uncomfortable going all the way down. I just happen to have no gag reflex, that is how I think I am able to go deep without gagging. Just take your time. Practice makes Perfection, and your boyfriend will love you for it. Also remember the ridge on the head of the penis is extremely sensitive. Men go crazy when that area is licked and teased.

[recyclopsbtb]

I can't really help with the confidence to just walk up on him and go at it, because I'm too shy to do that, too. I have a big thing with fear of rejection, it affects my self esteem a bit more than it should.

However, guys like deep throating. Or at least mine does. Next time you're going down on him, try folding your thumb into your palm and pressing it down kinda hard with your fingers. This usually weakens your gag reflex a pretty ridiculous amount and should enable you to take him deeper into your mouth.
Also, try circling your tongue around the head of his penis, outside and inside your mouth. My guy loves that. And show some love to his balls too.
Try using your hand to lay his member flat against his stomach and licking and lightly sucking on his testicles. Hopefully these techniques work as well for you as they do for me!