[jaygirlweek96]

Lol. By the way I do it a lot. Sometimes, men just don't do the right thing. No matter how much you tell them.
With my past bfs, I used to hide. The first, I dint want him to know. The second was always trying to pretend to be very holy and regret after sex. So I guess if I had told him I masturbated, he wld have casted demons out.
Funny enoff I once found porn in his room. He denied and said it was probably mine!
Anyway with thelast one, we were very open about it. Very very. And its much more fun

[151]

...men masturbate...it is just what we do...we need it and it offers a little harmless fantasy/variety if you are in an exclusive relationship...it almost never has anything to with you (women) - it is about us...it only becomes a problem when it starts to replace real sex/intimacy...

[LanaBear]

Really... We both masturbate. I'm with Glitter on this one. More often than not, we masturbate for each other, rather than alone, but it does happen.

[Miya]

Here here I concur with Glitter and Lana.

[Guest]

...men masturbate...it is just what we do...we need it
...

Meh. Not all of us. A little self control and/or an in tune partner go a long way.

[stressed]

God I'm so fed up reading how men need to masturbate and let them do so no matter what. I'm so tired of my fiance ignoring me in bed and trying to tell me that it's natural for guys to masturbate to porn when I'm craving for attention. Seriously, I don't care if men need it or not, if they don't care about their women and can't keep their penises in their pants then they're not men to me.

[Hopeless Dork]

God I'm so fed up reading how men need to masturbate and let them do so no matter what. I'm so tired of my fiance ignoring me in bed and trying to tell me that it's natural for guys to masturbate to porn when I'm craving for attention. Seriously, I don't care if men need it or not, if they don't care about their women and can't keep their penises in their pants then they're not men to me.

Thats the problem right there. It's not masturbation, heck its not even porn ... its when they don't have the energy to satsify their chick... yet have the energy to waste on porn is when its... well, insulting. I don't think that either party in the relationship should be wackin it with or without porn if they are then unable to give their partner what they need as well.

If a guy or girl has EXTRA energy to spare, and their partner is satisfied I say have at it. But when its either or and they choose their hand and a box on their desk... and wonder why in the world it should matter to their s.o... its a problem.

Communication is the key stressed. Let him know you need him, he may think that he's doing you a favor taking care of himself not realizing you want more of him. If you tell him you want more, and he still chooses to ignore that for fantasy/variety as one poster put it... you should really re-think those marriage plans as thats a very selfish move on his part.

[nightqueen]

Meh. Not all of us. A little self control and/or an in tune partner go a long way.

Why create restrictions? If my DH feels like masterbating, and I'm not around, why should he use self control? We are both satisfied sexually, so I just tell him to have at it! It doesn't bother him in the slightest when I do either.

[danceintx]

I have known about exes masterbating while with me, while we were having sex frequently. It makes me wonder why, but it never bothered me. As long as our sex life is healthy then I could care less if they masterbate. Now, if they are masterbating instead of having sex with me, then we have a real problem.
Now once I caught me ex husband masterbating in the same bed with me while he thought I was asleep. That gave me the creeps. I was like, do it in private like normal husbands do.

[GlitterAndStuds]

Really... We both masturbate. I'm with Glitter on this one. More often than not, we masturbate for each other, rather than alone, but it does happen.

That IS a fun way to do it too

Obviously, as others have already said, if it's at the point where it's replacing sex then it's time to chill a little bit. I see it as more of something to tide me over until I can get my hands on my guy.