[onyx_rose7145]

I was actually reading another thread similar to this one. It was about people having problems enjoying giving oral sex to their bfs. One girl posted this

Use a flavored condom, or flavored lube....you could also take a shower together and right after he washes his member, is when you can suck him off....in the shower is so kinky and he can cum on your boobs, but you're in the shower so all you need to do is wash it off!!

I actually tried it in the shower cus i have problems in this area too. and doing it in the shower was great. he was nice and clean, smelled nice... and i dont swallow just out of preference now because it bothers my stomach. but it was easy to just spit it out right afterwards because it will get washed away. and the plus... he was surprised and loved it that much more

[Greydog72]

From another mans prospective

I've notice that learning how to give BJ is a big issue here. I haven't read them all, but have notice that there is a lot of good advice on how to and what to do and do what you fell comfortable doing. I guess I'll give my to cents but you don't have to !AHEM! swallow the info. if you don't want too...LOL.

My wife doesn't enjoy swallowing either. I don't have a problem kissing her after she preforms oral or if I perform oral. She just doesn't like it and thats fine. I told here it's not the fact that I enjoy here swallowing, its that I can feel her sucking until I'm finished, like I do when we have intercourse. The penis is most sensitive after he ejaculates and even a little bit after the contractions are finished. If you don't pull away right away and let him get to a relaxed state and even continue until he is hard again (which is what I love) and find away to let it release from you mouth without losing your hold. Most guys wouldn't even realize if you swallowed or not. It's the pulling away will he is ejaculating that most likely frustrates him. I think that's why pulling out or rhythm technique for birth control will never work because thats when it's more tense for guys. I don't know how womens orgasms feel like, but most men enjoy the ending more then the whole act, because thats the part that is the most satisfying for use. If we could, I bet we would do it 100 times to just get that feeling. Now saying that, I kind of know that that's not how women are, but I'm just trying to give you another mans prospective on that intense issue.

I did have a high school girlfriend who loved to swallow, but she didn't like the feel of it in her mouth. I know that sounds weird, but she would let it hit the back of her throat and gulp it down. She said she like to do it that way because she didn't really like the texture feeling swirling around her mouth. Which you know that I didn't have a problem with that....

I hope that will help with the swallow or not. I'm no expert in any means. But I can tell you that majority of guys like the feeling of oral to be completed to the finish and it's the same for intercourse.

GL

[Just-a-regular-guy]

Nicely said

Very good and accurate post... I agree completely GL..... I'm not an expert either, but I know what I like and what feels good..... plain and simple

[depressedcherie]

most women don't do it.

I do enjoy giving oral sex, only in a committed relationship. Otherwise, i won't do it. I don't swallow either My last bf wanted to do down on him, I told him nope, not anytime soon. but he loves doing to me though, I don't mind that at all.

Before I go down there, I have to make sure that person is clean...cause some men are nasty, to be blunt.

[shweedart]

if your man has already came then i dont really think it matters what happens to his cum aftewards!

I dont swallow unless i have to (e.g. i get a phonecall or something along those lines)


spitting or swallowing doesnt make a difference to whether or not you give a good blowjob

After my boyfriend cums he's far too relaxed to even sit up properly let alone pay attention to where his little soldiers have gotten to!

[Uneeklyme]

After ten years of marraige my husnabd tells me I am not preforming oral sex correctly. He says everyone swallows, other wise it is just a hand job. Is this true? I don't think I can swallow, I am really arfaid I will vomit, especially given the fact that when I do preform oral sex on him I find myself gagging. What do I do? I can't beleive it has been ten years and he had never said anything to me before.
Pathetically Confused,
Fit and Fast

I am seeing many men say that if a women wont blow them she is prude and selfish. Now this. Uhg.

Everyone swallows other wise its a hand job? Some of the things people will say to justify their position. Bah.

I think you should try swallowing if its something you want to do to. See if you can and you might possibly even like it. I dont think being belittled and cajoled into it by the if you loved me and everyone does it is a good enough reason. Who knows, you might get lucky and actually vomit on him. The big finish. He should be so proud he can make a woman puke. (yes, thats sarcasm not a compliment)

Not communicating this to you in ten years? What else is he hiding? How hurtful and deceptive. Then to push it further and try and goad you with past relationships. First, nope, not all women swallow and second could that be anymore degrading. For some reason human nature prompts us to compare things but having the ability to think before we speak should have stopped that thought in the brain not spewing it out loud. We all think about things we liked and disliked in past relationships. We miss some things and are glad not dealing with others but that was then and all that. To have to deal with them in your current relationship just isn't fair.

[FionaDiaz]

Don't do anything you really don't want to do or you will not enjoy it...

I have always swallowed... I never imagined doing anything different! The flavor of a man actually changes with what he eats, you know? Have him eat something very sweet before you give him oral and you might find it much easier (Apples are a great option). Also, have him bathe right before giving him oral so that you are sure he is clean!

If you want, try to give it to him underwater (in the tub maybe?). It feels very different and even if you don't swallow it, at least you will be trying something new!

One thing I did during my pregnancy when the thought of giving oral made me sick was I would have a glass of hot tea... With the tea still in my mouth I would give him oral. It made everything feel warmer and wetter for him, and I didn't have to worry about any bad tastes. Swallowing is even easier because you simply swallow it with the tea!

I'd say give it a try, it's honestly not as bad as you think! ...And please, try not to think about it as a dirty thing!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I would like to know how come he has bought this up "now"? And, why he is "pretending" everyone does it? To get his little way.......

Uneeklyme
Everyone swallows other wise its a hand job? Some of the things people will say to justify their position. Bah.

Someone else's agrees:- " some of the things people will say to justify their position?".

uneeklyme
What else is he hiding?

Mmmm.... starting to watch Porn? Speaking to his mates whom may not be married, or are and ?

Personally, i'd be asking "hun, why are you bringing this up now"..

Of course, it could be that he's always thought it mind you and now feels a tad, sexier? But then, he'd be doing more things wouldn't he? And, seeing what pleases you as well? Maybe this is the case, you haven't said....

CW

[FionaDiaz]

Wow... I'm the only one who isn't suspicious of him??

Not to play devils advicate but....

I've brought up things just now after two years of being with my husband. He wasn't able to do something the way I liked it and I actually faked orgasms this whole time... two weeks ago I told him the truth.

I just didn't want to hurt his feelings before, now I'm just tired of faking it!! I explained to him how I like it and everything is great...

I didn't see porn or talk to a friend about things... and I'm sure her husband had girlfriends before her who did swallow... so he probably is refering to them.

Or maybe not... I dunno...

[CHANDLERS WISH]

fit and fast
After ten years of marraige my husnabd tells me I am not preforming oral sex correctly. He says everyone swallows, other wise it is just a hand job.

Fiona Diaz
Wow... I'm the only one who isn't suspicious of him??

I guess it was the "everyone swallows" bit.... as if she's been in-correct all this time. 10 years just seems like such a long time to then correct something that he was not happy with?

But i did write at the end, Of course, it could be that he's always thought it mind you and now feels a tad, sexier? But then, he'd be doing more things wouldn't he? And, seeing what pleases you as well? Maybe this is the case, you haven't said....

Because the question has posed, well questions and if things are different all way round now sexually then yep, he could just be trying to get her to spice things up a bit more....

So, it does pose a "question" you are correct there.

CW



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