[angel_girl]

hi

Hi i just wanted to say that i give my partner oral and i swallow! If he is happy i am happy i enjoy it, I have pleased him so much that he blows i have always swallowed his cum he has never forced me or even asked me i enjoy it!

[anonymouswhitefemale]

When I read posts focusing on 'pleasing' one's man, it is
clear we have come not one step from the advice given to
girls marrying in the 1800s; "You can't refuse your husband!"

OK, I get that you have a problem with getting paid less to do the same work as a man, and that is entirely understandable. I'd be ****ed too.

However, your attitude is counter productive. Because of this, you are sabotaging any possible relationship you might have with a man. Is a partnership not about give and take? Is sex not about give and take? I don't much enjoy giving orgasms (currently takes 45 mins with a vibrator, kills my wrist), does that mean I shouldn't do it?

Does the fact that I'm willing to go to great lengths to please my partner mean that they should try to do the same? Absolutely.

My advice is stop thinking about womens position in the world and instead think of YOU and your partners position in the world, relative to each other.


p.s. radical feminism isn't a particularly attractive quality.

[kaylar]

One day I made a bust of my husband.
I had this clay which could bake in an
oven, and paint, and secretly I made
this head, shoulders, upper chest.

I painted it, it came out perfect, and
I sat it on the dinner table.

When he saw it, the look on his face,
the joy he felt, was enormous, but the
joy I got seeing that reaction went off
the board.

I probably got more pleasure having done
that little sculpture for him then he got
in receiving it.

Do you notice the difference in how I describe
what I did to how others describe what they do
to 'please' their man?

What I am talking about is the way women feel
they 'have to' please their man. The way your
response is framed.

If I don't please him he'll get someone else
so I have to do it.

Men don't have to think like that. They don't
think, 'oh, I have to please my wife!' They
see someone selling flowers and they think,
'she'd like that', and they buy the flowers,
and when they hand them to the wife, and her
face lights up, he gets more pleasure in giving
those flowers to his wife.

He didn't think, "Oh, I have to buy these flowers
for my wife to please her."

[amom]

Hi i just wanted to say that i give my partner oral and i swallow! If he is happy i am happy i enjoy it, I have pleased him so much that he blows i have always swallowed his cum he has never forced me or even asked me i enjoy it!

Does he reciprocate?

[amom]

Just a quick comment:

Oral sex is very important to some men. To some of those being allowed to finish in your mouth is very important. To some of those, swallowing is important.

Sadly, the percieved importance grows if this is denied. A man who might only be mildly interested in oral sex, starts to see it as critical because it is the one thing he wants, but can't get. For some reason the forbidden becomes very desirable.

I know of one case where there was something I wanted in bed, that my wife didn't want to do. Somehow this seemed more and more important to me. Eventually she tried it - and found she very much liked it. Now that it was no longer forbidden, I soon lost interest and was doing it for her rather than the other way around? (how did the species ever survive). - but that all was long ago and far away......

I don't think you can get an answer to "why". After all, any sex that is not intended to produce children is irrational. Why does anyone enjoy anything other than simple, quick vaginal sex?

So, I think women certainly have the right to refuse to do things in bed that they don't like, but don't underestimate the importance of the denial.

I think if a guy just wants a blowjob and to cum in a women's mouth he has not finished sowing his wild oats nor is he mature enough for marriage and all it entails.

Subjecting your marriage partner to your every sexual whim and fantasy is immature nonsense.

[C]

If a man insists on his wife swallowing his cum then he does not love her. He loves himself. He should never force her to do anything that upsets her such as this. If my husband said to me unless you swallow me you do not love me I would look at him differently. I have swallowed but really do not anymore. He thinks that this is not respecting a woman. Like peeing on her. I agree yet I ejaculate regularly and he drinks me. If he says I would like you to and she refuses that should be enough. Is it worth a problem in their love making for this small thing which turns her off to make it a big thing. A woman is made so much different than a man. All our organs are internal and many, many women do not like the discharge that a man does to start and to push this is asking for trouble.

They are sickened by the thick and many times offensive smelling cum. It should never be a factor in describing if you love me you would do this..........In my opinion that is child play. My husband would not let me so one night I played with him until he came and I took him in. I really got nothing out of it and can see where so many women are turned off by it. I would do it if he wanted me to and have offered many times but he says that he wants to save himself for me. Earlier in our marriage I could never give him oral before sex because he was so hot he would pop off every time. He wanted to do this in me where both of us had the pleasure.

In my opinion porn has brought this all on. It ruins marriages and it ruins men who think we should be their plumber. If they wanted to have a pipe cleaner they should have asked this before they married us. Not after. What you get before is what we are. We do not and will not change unless we want to do it. It should not be a prerequisite to staying married.

I have heard and I believe that more than half of the women that say they swallow do not. They say it. It makes them feel good inside and then they are one of the hot and sexy ones. When we are in heat and passion I could and would do this all the time. I am then the animal but will not be forced to be it before I am in this state of erotic want.

I am a hot and sexual woman but if he would have graded me on this before I was ready to come full circle to do it, my story could be different....I matured and became the inner woman in me that wanted this act...

[kaylar]

The attitude of some of the posters is what I find incredible.
The belief that they have to please 'Master' because if they
don't please 'Master' he will sell them south.

There isn't a sense of mutuality.

[Little]

Hey, Kaylar, if they get sold south to Jamaica, at least they'll know where to find a good lawyer

[C]

The attitude of some of the posters is what I find incredible.
The belief that they have to please 'Master' because if they
don't please 'Master' he will sell them south.

There isn't a sense of mutuality.

Lord are you right....What is it Porn????????? I will kiss no man's a*s or blow him unless I want to.........I was dam good looking when I was young......dated so many guys but I had my rules.............and I would still have them today...........and I would still get my man

[SaraSmile]

After ten years of marraige my husnabd tells me I am not preforming oral sex correctly. He says everyone swallows, other wise it is just a hand job. Is this true? I don't think I can swallow, I am really arfaid I will vomit, especially given the fact that when I do preform oral sex on him I find myself gagging. What do I do? I can't beleive it has been ten years and he had never said anything to me before.
Pathetically Confused,
Fit and Fast

You have to do what is comfortable for you. He is telling you what he wants but, if you can't do it, you'll have to tell him you can't.
**If** you wanted to try it again....I think the trick is to swallow before you even taste it or realize it. Make sure his penis is in the back of your mouth/throat when he comes and just swallow without tasting.