[he's here]

is he watching porn? that plays a big role in alot of couple lives. the guys wants what they see in the movies and it effect there love making with there wifes are girlfriends.

[qwerty989]

i used to have the same problem when i try to penetrate my gf. now i have come to conclude that it was due to stress work and lack of sleep. my gf was very patient with me and tries to give me oral to bring me to the mood.

u may wanna try to make ur man relax and not take it to heart. it helps =)

[Hopeless Dork]

Oh - and are you privy to his masturbation habits?....can't believe I forgot that.

You know that OTYA... one of the first posts I remember you posting was about you giving up the self-stimulation in exchange for your lady giving up the vibe and you just might be on to something HUGE.

From my own experience, and from so many various posts on the boards from time to time -- it seems that a lot of men have trouble orgasming, trouble getting or staying hard during sex with their partner , yet masturbate frequently and don't see the connection and how one might be causing the other

I read on another forum one man a while back saying that he had no problems coming 3 or 4 times a day by himself but cant seem to come from vaginal sex...

1. he was spending all his energy and 2. he was obviously too use to a certain stimulation type (similiar to the vibe situation some women get into).

The the other day here, a sort of similiar post-- I wonder if the agreement you and your fiance made wouldn't make a whole heap of couples sex lives better, relationships better.

[Guest]

You know that OTYA... one of the first posts I remember you posting was about you giving up the self-stimulation in exchange for your lady giving up the vibe and you just might be on to something HUGE.

....The the other day here, a sort of similiar post-- I wonder if the agreement you and your fiance made wouldn't make a whole heap of couples sex lives better, relationships better.

I couldn't agree more. I think i've mentioned this more than a couple times. I was tickled when I found a couple on the board had a similar agreement going on. You know who you are, you lovely lady.

There is something about knowing that your partner is your sole source of sexual energy and release that makes you want each other more.

We were at dinner a few weeks back with some of her girl friends. They were discussing a Pure Romance party one of them was hosting, and they asked her if she wanted to come. She replied back, the only sex toys I need are here (pointing at my crotch)...here (pointing at my mouth) and here (pointing at my hand).

They looked at her like she was from a different planet.

[WildChild]

We were at dinner a few weeks back with some of her girl friends. They were discussing a Pure Romance party one of them was hosting, and they asked her if she wanted to come. She replied back, the only sex toys I need are here (pointing at my crotch)...here (pointing at my mouth) and here (pointing at my hand).

They looked at her like she was from a different planet.

Unfortunately there are a lot of people, male and female, who are unwilling to concern themselves with their partner's needs or to actually do anything concrete to improve their sex lives, that this reaction isn't surprising.

[Mr.Mr.]

Quit Smoking is a good start.

[Guest]

Unfortunately there are a lot of people, male and female, who are unwilling to concern themselves with their partner's needs or to actually do anything concrete to improve their sex lives, that this reaction isn't surprising.

On the bright side....I've had a couple of her friends ask me in confidence what we do in the bedroom that keeps her so happy. It was nice to see people who were willing to work on their relationships. It was also nice to see that she talks nice about me when i'm not around.

[Hopeless Dork]

On the bright side....I've had a couple of her friends ask me in confidence what we do in the bedroom that keeps her so happy. It was nice to see people who were willing to work on their relationships. It was also nice to see that she talks nice about me when i'm not around.

Its good thing that she has an awesome guy like you, and she must know it too sharing the things she does with her friends.

See some women are shady characters, you tell them too many good things about your sex life with your man and they may not only want tips but samples.

Your fiance obviously trusts you a lot to share that information. I remember in high school going out with a guy I remarked to a friend how big his you know what was. Later she admitted to sleeping with him just to see for herself. Ugh.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I'm tending to agree with you lot.

I have to admit, I don't own and never have owned a vibrator but, I have no problem with masturbation, improvisation and achieving all sorts of things on my own... I believe that being single, I ain't' going to be a nun, seeings as I don't believe either in one night stands and I think the longest without a partner was 19 months, you can't shoot me for that.

But, I wouldn't bring in sex toys into a relationship, I don't believe we would need them, in-fact I know we wouldn't need them. I just think it's a cop out as to the beauty of intimacy/adventure, sexual/sensual & horney, the three different types of ways in which you can experience, separately, or all together.

As far as I know, my partners never masturbated either, it was us and that was it and I never masturbated either, I just jumped him, or the likes.

But, here's the thing... Both partners have to be of the same mindset.. They both have to have no inhibitions and enjoy the respect and beauty of sex together, or it becomes a sexless marriage, or one where the sex is over before it begins.