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  • SorridLives
    Veteran Member
    • Nov 2007
    • 397

    Originally posted by Uneeklyme
    Harder for a bisexual man to be faithful? Seriously? Why? Is it because they have more choices in sex partners? Since they are non discriminate about equipment they automatically turn into lecherous s?
    In my opinion, it *might* be harder (speculating and allowing for the variables between people all being different and responding differently) because they (a bisexual male) may miss having sex with a person with a penis when being faithful in a relationship with a woman. They might miss certain sex acts. That is why a person in a relationship certainly has a right to know the sexuality of their partner. The straight female person in a relationship with a bisexual male may not want to act out certain sex acts or role play if their (male) partner misses having a penis involved in their lovemaking. That same female just may not want to be in a relationship with someone bisexual- period. She doesn't have to have a reason why. Everyone has a right to know what they are getting into, IMO.
    IMO, lying about it or withholding the truth will make things very difficult when the truth comes out, if it comes out. It is also a trust issue.

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    • C
      Member
      • Aug 2007
      • 900

      Originally posted by SorridLives
      In my opinion, it *might* be harder (speculating and allowing for the variables between people all being different and responding differently) because they (a bisexual male) may miss having sex with a person with a penis when being faithful in a relationship with a woman. They might miss certain sex acts. That is why a person in a relationship certainly has a right to know the sexuality of their partner. The straight female person in a relationship with a bisexual male may not want to act out certain sex acts or role play if their (male) partner misses having a penis involved in their lovemaking. That same female just may not want to be in a relationship with someone bisexual- period. She doesn't have to have a reason why. Everyone has a right to know what they are getting into, IMO.
      IMO, lying about it or withholding the truth will make things very difficult when the truth comes out, if it comes out. It is also a trust issue.
      In my opinion, a bi-sexual person will always prefer another male instead of a female..The reason for this is the male is much more sexual..He knows what another man loves...He knows where to touch and is unashamed in his passion...He is at home in the male's sexual body and shares his soul....He can quiver with the lust he feels for another male and be proud of it....He does not have to fake his orgasm as he is in heat for his friend...A woman can never pretend to be what she does not know how to be...She will always loose.....even if he stays, his heart will be somewhere else....

      Just my thoughts...TC, C

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      • CHANDLERS WISH
        • Mar 2008
        • 22440

        Caroline
        In my opinion, a bi-sexual person will always prefer another male instead of a female..The reason for this is the male is much more sexual..He knows what another man loves...He knows where to touch and is unashamed in his passion...He is at home in the male's sexual body and shares his soul....He can quiver with the lust he feels for another male and be proud of it....He does not have to fake his orgasm as he is in heat for his friend...A woman can never pretend to be what she does not know how to be...She will always loose.....even if he stays, his heart will be somewhere else....

        Just my thoughts...TC, C

        Your posing a good thought there C.. Gatecrashing on my thoughts.

        Personally? If i was bi-sexual... I would want a woman... My logic?

        It would be sexually erotic ( fantasy only ), to watch my man with another woman, her trying to please him, whilst in the back of my mind, the knowledge that it's sex only, as aint no way she can go where i am with him.... As far as intimacy and no inhibitions are concerned...with emotions attached...

        I would feel tarty with two men, personally... and i only need one there...if it was a fantasy of no one i knew persay... I'd get confused, which one was which? (Laughing).

        Plus, i would have to be honest and say, that if i was to be bi-sexual and i do agree we all have tendancies, or at least a thought, i think if she was bi-sexual, consequently extremely knowledgeable, it would be an experience that i had not had before, and again, have to say..... welcome, to all new experiences.

        Preferably and for ever, i've had the fantasy of another woman with a man i am with, but in the real world, that would be way too dangerous to attempt, and then in addition, i am not sure how far i could join in, so i'll leave it as a fantasy...

        It is amazing, how people think differently.

        But, then i'm not you C, haven't reached your sexuality yet, but let me tell you, i'm catching up....

        CW
        PUT A LITTLE 'LIKE' IN MY SOUL!

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        • SorridLives
          Veteran Member
          • Nov 2007
          • 397

          Originally posted by CarolineWH
          In my opinion, a bi-sexual person will always prefer another male instead of a female..The reason for this is the male is much more sexual..He knows what another man loves...He knows where to touch and is unashamed in his passion...He is at home in the male's sexual body and shares his soul....He can quiver with the lust he feels for another male and be proud of it....He does not have to fake his orgasm as he is in heat for his friend...A woman can never pretend to be what she does not know how to be...She will always loose.....even if he stays, his heart will be somewhere else....

          Just my thoughts...TC, C
          I can't say I agree with you. C. I do think a bisexual man would always want to have both experiences in his life. I think that is why it would be more difficult for most bi-guys to stay faithful. Just my assumption.

          Just for some background...I did fall in love with a bi-guy when I was 17-20. He did not tell me he was bi until after I fell in love with him. For him, our sex was an experiment and we were friends. I was the one that was hurt. I can't imagine he could ever be faithful to one person and doubt he ever was. He has since died, unfortunately.

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          • Uneeklyme
            Veteran Member
            • Apr 2008
            • 257

            I agree that sexual orientation if deviating from hetero should be known in a relationship. It should be not hidden only to come out in 2 or 4 or 6 or whatever years. People do have a right to know in a relationship if their partner is bi. Having said this tho, I have a hard time wrapping my head around the idea that bisexuals might be more inclined to cheat. Bisexuals have relationships just as strong as hetero. They can be very faithful to their partner irregardless of gender. They may sometimes desire certian sex acts their partner cannot give them but dont we all? Thats where fantasy comes into play. Bisexuals may fantasize about the opposite gender of their partner but its been my experience thats where it ends.

            One of the points I was trying to make with my first post in this thread is the perception of bisexual fantasies between women and actual bisexual women are perfectly acceptable but throw a wrench in the monkey with a bisexual man and we get cheaters and liars. How is this fair?

            If I were bisexual...oh wait...I am... It does not mean I would prefer the same gender. Far from it actually, I prefer the opposite gender. There are some things my partner cannot give me that a woman would be able to but I am satisfied sexually and emotionally in so many more ways that count that I am perfectly willing to be monogomous with a man.

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            • SorridLives
              Veteran Member
              • Nov 2007
              • 397

              Uneeklyme,

              I will just agree to disagree. Maybe you can be faithful to your partner and you are bisexual. I believe you. However, I do still think it would be more difficult to be faithful. I have to admit that I am thinking of mostly men that are bisexual and currently in a relationship with a woman, for the most part. I see you are a female looking at your profile.
              In any case, we will have to agree to disagree.....

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              • anonymouswhitefemale
                Veteran Member
                • Sep 2007
                • 1343

                I rest my case, women think female bisexuality is wonderful and liberating, and male bisexuality is something to fear.

                Which is why men would never admit to being bisexual even if they did fantasize about sex with a man every now and then - because of this sort of stigma. Can't blame 'em.

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                • SorridLives
                  Veteran Member
                  • Nov 2007
                  • 397

                  Originally posted by anonymouswhitefemale
                  I rest my case, women think female bisexuality is wonderful and liberating, and male bisexuality is something to fear.

                  Which is why men would never admit to being bisexual even if they did fantasize about sex with a man every now and then - because of this sort of stigma. Can't blame 'em.
                  Okay. Maybe it is a stigma for some women. I have heard some women have no problem with it. Like I said, it is sort of sexy,...but not for a long term relationship, IMO. I am sure there are several here that would say they don't mind it for a long term relationship and could deal with it. I have heard of bisexual men and bisexual women getting together. Some women would rather not get involved with bisexual men. However, lying is not going to help anything.

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                  • Uneeklyme
                    Veteran Member
                    • Apr 2008
                    • 257

                    Originally posted by anonymouswhitefemale
                    I rest my case, women think female bisexuality is wonderful and liberating, and male bisexuality is something to fear.

                    Which is why men would never admit to being bisexual even if they did fantasize about sex with a man every now and then - because of this sort of stigma. Can't blame 'em.
                    My point exactly Anon.

                    Nobody is disputing the fact that you shouldnt lie about it. I agree, lieing is a deal breaker. In the thinking that a bi male is more inclined to cheat opens up so many more doors. In essence you may as well be saying ALL men are lying, cheating pigs and only think with their genitals gay, bi straight or otherwise. Im just saying that bisexuals...male or female... are in a relationship with a person, not genitals. Yes, I am a bi female and I too can think with my genitals right along with the best of them but the overall picture? I feel with my heart and think with my head. No different than a bi male or straight male for that matter. I agree that the stigma attached to men and male/male sex turns around on them and puts them in a position to almost have to lie.

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                    • LoverofSEX
                      Member
                      • Jul 2008
                      • 24

                      I think a bi-man could live a normal life as a st8 man, at least I have for 38 years. Given the right person in the right situation I could give that person a BJ but that's as far as my dreams go. I did some fooling around (MM & BJ) with three of my peers when I was 14/16 and the desire has been there all these years. We have three grown boys.... controlled.

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