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  • Aubrey
    Member
    • Oct 2009
    • 16

    On top, ladies?

    So, I have a wonderful boyfriend that currently lives on another continent.
    and as you can imagine that when we do see eachother sparks fly and clothes come off.
    Though we're both dominant in every day life, we're both submissive in bed resulting in wanting the other on top.
    Now usually I get my way and it's all good, but of course his needs need to be satisfied to so I comply and mount.

    But then the problems start, see my thighs are not the thinnest of thighs and his hips are particularly pointy (they are the strangest of things, i swear)
    and though I try, its akward and not pleasurable and doesnt really go as quickly as it would if he's doing the work.(way to make one feel elegant, right?)

    Now other than lypo are there any other ways to help this problem? maybe other positions where i could be on top? etc.

    Thank you ladies!
    (and gentlemen, maybe)
  • Texasred
    Veteran Member
    • Oct 2009
    • 1216

    You could try facing away from him, not straddling but with your knees raised.
    You both might be surprised at the different feel of that.

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    • ThexMrs
      Veteran Member
      • Feb 2009
      • 3335

      You don't have to have your knees on the bed with your thighs pressing into his hips to be on top. You can hold yourself up with your feet while on top of him. Also, you could try reverse cowgirl as was suggested by Texasred. Another thing is that you can get on top of him and then lean backwards, holding yourself up with your hands, your feet placed on the bed. These are all options.
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      • Guest

        Why not try losing some weight?

        Not only will it not cost you anything, your sex drive will be elevated and so will your mood.

        Try it.

        Good luck.

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        • ThexMrs
          Veteran Member
          • Feb 2009
          • 3335

          Originally posted by OhThereYouAre
          Why not try losing some weight?

          Not only will it not cost you anything, your sex drive will be elevated and so will your mood.

          Try it.

          Good luck.
          Her thighs aren't the thinnest so she should lose some weight? Maybe that's her body type. Did you think of that? Just because her thighs may not be really thin doesn't mean that she needs to lose weight or is fat. (No you didn't say fat) If his pelvis is so pointy, why didn't you give the advice for him to gain some weight? Maybe he's too skinny.
          [CENTER][I][COLOR=purple][B][FONT=Garamond]"All the beats and melodies keep realities at bay but what happens when the records done and starts to fade away? [/FONT][/B][B][FONT=Garamond]Alone within myself again, I try to veil away my pain. [/FONT][/B][B][FONT=Garamond]The dirty grey surrounding me 'round..... And now I hear no sound."[/FONT][/B][/COLOR][/I][/CENTER]

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          • ThexMrs
            Veteran Member
            • Feb 2009
            • 3335

            Hips*
            [CENTER][I][COLOR=purple][B][FONT=Garamond]"All the beats and melodies keep realities at bay but what happens when the records done and starts to fade away? [/FONT][/B][B][FONT=Garamond]Alone within myself again, I try to veil away my pain. [/FONT][/B][B][FONT=Garamond]The dirty grey surrounding me 'round..... And now I hear no sound."[/FONT][/B][/COLOR][/I][/CENTER]

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            • Aubrey
              Member
              • Oct 2009
              • 16

              Those positions are a nice and exciting way to be on top!
              thank you so much guys.

              and indeed, my thighs are the fattest limbs on my body, i've got those horse thighs without the nice butt, haha, I can trace them back all the way to my grandma, I just inherited them.
              I checked my BMI some time ago and im probably off by 5 pounds.
              also, nothing is wrong with my sex drive or my mood, they're both just fine.

              Thank you for the advice!

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              • nightqueen
                Senior Member
                • Jan 2009
                • 139

                Originally posted by OhThereYouAre
                Why not try losing some weight?

                Not only will it not cost you anything, your sex drive will be elevated and so will your mood.

                Try it.

                Good luck.
                Why do you say stuff like this on a WOMEN'S forum??

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                • Aubrey
                  Member
                  • Oct 2009
                  • 16

                  He probably just made that assumption since I mentioned my thighs and lypo, it's all right.

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                  • Explorer44
                    Veteran Member
                    • Oct 2009
                    • 800

                    Originally posted by OhThereYouAre
                    Why not try losing some weight?

                    Not only will it not cost you anything, your sex drive will be elevated and so will your mood.

                    Try it.

                    Good luck.
                    I know that's one motivation for me right now....I want better sex!!! (swears off Halloween Candy.... )

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