[starman]

Ok folks im getting some mixed answers here i think.
This is driving us apart and i have spoke about it till im blue in the face and have had so many false words spoken to me. It has got to the stage where we are like passing ships in the night aroung our home.

The sex thing stands that we are lucky if this happens once a week and even when this happens it is leading to her wanting something, to be honest once a week is very slim at the moment. There has been a few times when she has came onto me but i have had to say no due to the fact i feel im being used and that it will be the usual planned out affair it always is.

Im now at the phase where i cant speak to her and im thinking about leaving but GOD this will kill me having to leave my kid as this is my world.

One other point i would like to mention is that she has started to go out once a week with friends and not coming in till the early hours of the morning, she has also changed her hair and clothes. I am very unhappy about this as 1, She cant have fun with me as we dont laugh, carry on, cuddle, kiss. and 2, I have took up hobbys in the past and have has nothing but complaints about spending time on these.(Now i could me a stick in the mud here so go easy).

[starman]

Ok folks im getting some mixed answers here i think.
This is driving us apart and i have spoke about it till im blue in the face and have had so many false words spoken to me. It has got to the stage where we are like passing ships in the night aroung our home.

The sex thing stands that we are lucky if this happens once a week and even when this happens it is leading to her wanting something, to be honest once a week is very slim at the moment. There has been a few times when she has came onto me but i have had to say no due to the fact i feel im being used and that it will be the usual planned out affair it always is.

Im now at the phase where i cant speak to her and im thinking about leaving but GOD this will kill me having to leave my kid as this is my world.

One other point i would like to mention is that she has started to go out once a week with friends and not coming in till the early hours of the morning, she has also changed her hair and clothes. I am very unhappy about this as 1, She cant have fun with me as we dont laugh, carry on, cuddle, kiss. and 2, I have took up hobbys in the past and have has nothing but complaints about spending time on these.(Now i could me a stick in the mud here so go easy).

And yes i am a sexual person i feel this should be a bind between two people in love.

[WildChild]

Re-reading this I see that you say she has never been very sexual. It sounds like she hasn't changed and you want her to. I certainly can't blame you for that but how can you blame her? She wasn't into when you first got together, she's not into it now. It's too late to ask why you had a child with her when you were so incompatible, the question now is what you can do about the situation.

Have you sat down and calmly discussed this? Have you explained that it is becoming a serious issue and needs to be addressed? If she is willing to work on it there are a number of options but she does have to be actively part of it. We've discussed here many times before that it is true; the one with the lower sex drive (him in my case) controls the sexual relationship. It can be very frustrating when you really care for someone.