[SinisterUrge]

Sounds like cougar's disorder.

[extremely confused]

I am 32 years old. just recently married april 1st this year. to a wonderful man of 36. intimacy is wonderful. but the last couple of days well since friday. i have been having naughty thoughts. and i am finding it hard to be satisfied. it feels good. but there is no raw aniamal lust their. and we have restored to doing a illegal drug. because it makes us both really horny. but now he can't keep up and i seem to be wanting it more and more. and i want him to just you know girls. some times we just need it given to us. and for me i have cervical cancer, endometriosis and poly cystic ovary syndrome. so most of the time if he is a little rough it hurts and with the drug it don't. but he can't just give it to me. and i cant stop thinking about have sex in so many different places, trying new thing, every thing. i feel guilty for having some of the toughts i have been having. will this destroy our marriage. will this cause me to have an affair. i love my husband very much and i am scared of where my thoughts take me.

i thought i was going threw something else

[woman1]

I'm there, too!

I've read that women hit their sexual peak in their 30s, and I'm going to have to agree! My sex drive has always been larger than my husbands, but when I was pregnant with our 2nd child this year, I thought it was just all that increased blood they talk about. Then, last night, my husband mentioned he thought my sex drive has been increasing, and it's true.

After two kids and turning 37 this year, I wanted to feel sexy -- something I've never really felt about myself before, even though I consider myself fairly attractive and people tell me I'm pretty. Anyway, I started wearing sexy underwear all of the time and taking care to look nice more often -- and my husband noticed. It's amazing what lingerie can do to a woman (and her man)! You feel sexy and more confident -- even if no one else sees it -- and they say men notice confidence. Not cocky confidence, but just that feeling you get of being sexy and knowing what you want -- do you know what I mean? Maybe I'm generally feeling more confident now, too, and feeling comfortable in my own skin.

One example that caught me off guard recently was when I was coming out of the ladies room at a Starbucks. I was feeling pretty good, sexy -- all that good stuff. So, I walked out the door carrying my baby in her car seat of all things. As I walked into the room, the three young male barristas behind the counter all stopped what they were doing and just stared at me -- you gals know that look you get from men. Well, it really surprised me! But I have to say, it made me feel pretty hot!

Maybe I'm exuding my sexuality right now, because my husband has been telling me I'm hot and similar comments more often now. We've been married for almost 15 years, and we have less sex than we did when we were younger, but since after the 2nd baby, we've had at least regular sex. Would love to have more, but will take what I can get! I must sound like a teenage boy!

Also, I think being in your 30s gives you the time and experience to figure out what you want sexually and generally in life, and I must say -- sex is better now than it has ever been for me. I hear that sex and just plain getting to know yourself as a woman gets even better in your 40s -- anyone in their 40s agree?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

woman1
Maybe I'm exuding my sexuality right now, because my husband has been telling me I'm hot and similar comments more often now.

It stands to reason that if you are with a man whom makes you feel totally attractive as well as hot, comments on the way the essense of the kiss between the two is electric, states simple things that you body does/ reacts in his eyes for him, you will feel beautiful, un-inhibited and desire those words and reactions on-going..

I don't believe age has anything to do with it ( other than as you are older, you may feel that you can be yourself more), I do believe it has everything to do with the person your "feeling" and how that person makes you feel inside, and out.

CW

[SinisterUrge]

I find it a bitter piece of irony, that a man's sexual-performance peak (about 12-20) is also the time in which he is the very least likely to have sexual partners.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I find it a bitter piece of irony, that a man's sexual-performance peak (about 12-20) is also the time in which he is the very least likely to have sexual partners.

Yes, maybe, but then you learn to control yourself more as you mature and last longer, repeat more, thereby enabling more satisfaction instead of a "quicky"

CW

[DomsGirl]

I am 26 years of age. Almost a year ago I noticed that my sex drive is increasing.I have been in a monogamous relationship for 3 years, I m not interested with sleeping with anyone else but i do not want man to get tried of me. Anyway back to the point, right the week before my cycle it gets even worse. I have noticed as of lately I need sex ever 48 hours, I know it sounds crazy. It feels like im on a drug and after 2days my high is gone. Ladies please do not get it confused I do not under any circumstances do drugs but that is the only thing I can think of to describe what im going through. When my man is at work I find myself watching porno and mastubating just to take the edge off. Ladies i need to know if im going crazy?

If their is anybody that can relate please respond.

Oh my god. Im 26 and my poor boyfriend of one year feels like he just cant satisfy me... and to be honest, he isnt! I need it all the time. Ive never been like this and its getting worse.I want it all the time hahaha!!! The poor guy is exhausted at the end of the day and would probably rather just take care of himself real quick and roll over and fall asleep and there i am climbing all over him! I feel bad because hes feeling like he's not enough and i feel bad because im so demanding!!! But he's so gorgeous and Mamas got needs! I dont want to have to do it myself! haha

[DomsGirl]

I am 26 and my sex drive has gotten ridiculuos. Meanwhile my boyfriend seems to be going in the other direction. However he masturbates to porn etc. and i get so upset becasue he doesnt have the energy for me! Any thoughts?! He's feeling like he cant satisfy me... and he isnt! But then again i dont know if its physically possibly the way i am at the moment!!!...

[WildChild]

Could this be an issue of quality rather than quantity?
When I was in my twenties I could go all day and all night. I never met a man who could keep up with me, at least not for long. 5 or 6 times in a day was good. Most guys needed a day ar two off. I could still handle a lot more sex than I get, what I do get is pretty high quality and that works just fine. You need to mix it up, a quickie now and then, different places, different parts of the house, and the rest of the time make more of an occasion of it. Make your bedroom a sensuous place devoted to your pleasure. Have cande light regularly - not just in the bedroom. Pamper yourself, pleasure your self.

Some of this intense urge may be a need to connect? Get out with friends so you can have a good girl chat and some laughs. Some of it may be tension release? Do a good intense work out regularly. Napoleon Hill, who wrote Think and Grow Rich, way back in the 30s, talks about the sublimation of sexual energy. Highly creative, successful people tend to be very highly sexed and learn to use that energy in other ways. Divert some of it into a hobby that will bring you satisfaction, don't make the poor man in your life your only source of satisfaction and sex the only outlet. You will be a more interesting, dynamic, happy and fun woman to be with if you have a variety of interests and passions.

[sdfonseca1014]

I am 28 and been having the same issues with sexual frustration and my boyfriend just doesn't seem to last long enough for me to orgasm. I have discovered the great use of the vibrator. Honestly, I now sometimes prefer the vibrator over sex. I would suggest you purchasing one and you will love it. Good luck with everything.