[DomoChan]

Ok so my boyfriend and me are very sexually open. And i wanted it that way since I took his virginity and he treats me wonderfully. But like today he told me he wants me to Deep Throat me. Now that isn't the problem since I did it before.

What he actually wants me to do is DT me until i throw up and keep going. He says it's like his fantasy. I am not too cool with that, but I'm the one who asked him to be sexually open so what do i do? Cause I'm really not into it, i love him so I'll do it for him but it's weird to me and i really don't enjoy gagging and throwing up unless i was having a baby

Please any suggestions

[bangbangbby]

If you really don't want to, tell him you're uncomfortable doing it. Being open with each other doesn't mean you absolutely have to do what you or he wants.

[Mes T]

Ha! I like how you associate gagging with having a baby.

If you don't want to do it, then DON'T. You don't have to bend over backwards to make someone happy. Plus, throwing up is VERY bad for you, especially if you do it a lot.

[Explorer44]

I think I've heard of this happening in porn...personally, I'd tell him that you are not interested in having any esophageal spasms and that open doesn't necessarily mean boundary-less.

[Hopeless Dork]

Is the throwing up part of the fantasy or does he just think thats what will happen if he enters your throat during oral? I deep throat my boyfriend here and there in all of our oral sessions and its never caused me to vomit, nor have I seen girls deep throating in porn vommiting during the process....

Definitely don't do what you aren't comfortable with and throwing up is very bad for you, and not a necessary part of deep throating. Does he have a fetish with the vomit or you swallowing his penis into your throat?

[rcoreyus]

As others have said, don't do anything you don't want. I'm very open, but for me, vomit would be outside of my hard limits.

Maybe it isn't the throwing up, but the dominance / forced aspect. You might be able to role-play that without doing anything uncomfortable. Let him threaten you with a (fake!) knife, beg and cry (but have a safe word!), and pretend to be disgusted, gag and spit when he finishes in your mouth.

Of course maybe that sort of role-play is even less appealing - if so DON'T DO IT.

Does he do things to fit your fantasies?

I'm all for trying to satisfy you partner's fantasies, but everyone has limits, and those limits differ from person to person.

[Texinator]

Could be a psychological thing for him, that if deep throating him causes you to gag and throw up then it must mean that he has an extra large and powerful penis.

Then again you can also gag and throw up just by stuffing a finger down your throat so him being able to do that with his penis is not really a compliment for him.

[Futureboy]

Hi Domo, hope I am not intruding I am a boy, so thought I may be able to add a little alternative perspective

I have never heard of Vomit DT fantasy. Your BF is interested in something you are not tell him. Pick your time so not to hurt his feeling or he may never ask to do something you really want.

There is alot DT porn out there with gagging and gagging spit/byle

Offer an alternative you think he will like or ask him to suggest something else

I guess it's one of two things:

A dominace thing In that case compromise at some light S+M or
Get him to stand up and you kneel down and DT like that look up at him while you do it

A tick in the box (money see monkey do) A was a virgin I must now do everything: Alfresco check; 3 some check; anal check.

It's good to be adventurous if you've encouraged him to be open then you owe it to him and yourself to be open in returrn. If he loves you he'll be a bit miffed but he will get over it and he may even respect you a little more. If he doesn't understand he's not the one even if you think he is.

good luck

[Steph33]

Only do what you want, period. Having said that, what he wants is to in the nuts group for me personally.

[WildChild]

Being open to talking and exploring possiblities does not obligate you to fullfill every last one of them. You decide how far you are willing to go.