[WildChild]

Social conditioning also comes into play and many men have been conditioned into some pretty "user" attitudes toward sex and women. I don't think it's really their nature (not for most) but peer pressure, media and expectations can warp people's responses and behaviors.

[caterpillar79]

Thank you all for clearing it out for me. We have been introduced to this notion for years and years, it is hard to decipher and read between the lines. Men's behavior is as diverse and bewildering as women's.

It takes time to be able to understand the dynamics of one's relationship/s. Even if we say we've got it figured, we still have not.

Whether to have one night stand or not, it is the individual's decision. One might do it intentionally, one might do it in the spur of the moment being carried away with whatever, or just because he/she's wired that way.

Only the individual himself/herself could tell if he is doing wrong or not - we are not to judge.

[newhere808]

I've been through these forums once or twice and I gotta say i'm pretty impressed with the maturity of most here. To offer another opinion (male) I personally find one night stands to be without meaning, and as such, i've never dabbled. As such I find women who are into that sort of thing to be unnattractive, no matter how physically enticing they may be.

Not to say their bad people, I just feel sex means something more than instant gratification, and prefer to be with someone that shares those views. I've gotten away from the whole "marriage first" thing, but I still feel there should be something "real" there.

I would suggest that instead of disregarding what your friend told you, think on it. It may be that down the line there is an oppourtunity for you with someone, who may be turned off that you used to indulge in casual sex. In my opinion, a good rule of thumb is to think about how you'd feel if you found out a guy you were interested in spent a lot of time with different women. Men and women are suprisingly similar when it comes to emotion and sex, both morally heavy and loose as .

Ultimately though, to each their own, do what makes you happy.

[attagirl28]

No effense but your friend kind of seems like a debby downer. If your being safe and you don't do it all the time and you don't let it take place of relationships i think your good to go bucko!