[Texasred]

Do you do things, kiss her, hug her, and NOT get hard and therefore, turn it into sex? CW

CW, didn't you see the part where he said he's 18 ???

It IS possible for a man to be desperately in love with a woman AND want to scrog her every chance he gets! But it is NOT possible for a normal 18-year-old male to kiss and hug his loved one and not get hard! Now, whether he decides to act on that reaction, that's another story of course!
Like I told him, "This could be a test!"
lol

[CHANDLERS WISH]

second one in this series is dec 17... so im hoping to god that this is the problem..

Ask her.

If I was 18, and missed birth control for 2 months, (assuming you hate condoms), I would be "pretending" I wasn't up for it, if I couldn't communicate with you, through fear of getting pregnant.

If your "hoping" that's the reason, then you haven't asked her and chances are that's what she's frightened of....

[Hopeless Dork]

I know when I was 18 I was not comfortable discussing sex AT ALL. Oh I could have sex any which kind of way but talking about it? Out of the question, I'd freeze up and become embarrassed. There could be any number of reasons that have turned her off sex lately...

Talking about it , if its making her defensive, wont get you far as I said. Show with your actions how being close to her makes you happy... even if its not sexual. Pick a nite to cuddle and snuggle her WITHOUT innitiating or talking about sex so that she doesn't associated you giving her affection with you trying to get in her pants.

And like I said when she does 'let you in her pants' pick some nites to make the experience geared completely to her (you can always masturbate later lol)... once she is able to make the connection that being close to you isn't all about your 'needs'... but about the two of you growing and exploring together...pleasing each other and being connected it might just change her mind back into wanting to be more sexual with you.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

CW, didn't you see the part where he said he's 18 ???

It IS possible for a man to be desperately in love with a woman AND want to scrog her every chance he gets!

lol... Yessum..

Regardless of a woman's age, if she feels like that's all she is to a man, she will stop the sex...

I don't know HD, I was very communicative at 18, or should I say vocal, as to "why" if I felt that's all it was to him, eventually, it would come out.

If she has a fear of pregnancy, surely she could tell him..

But, I'm a believer irrespective, if you don't ask you don't know.

CW

[black-roses17]

My boyfriend does the same thing! You and I are in the opposite situation, check out my posts! Maybe we can help each other.

[dieseltech24]

thanks for all your help first off.. alot of good ideas.. actually reallly glad i decided to sign up for this....

I know for fact that she isnt scared of getting pregnant.. mainly because she has like TOLD me to go in her, because she knew i was scared of getting her pregnant. so i know that isnt it. ive been trying the keeping sex out of convo and what not lately and havent really yielded any results.. the past four nights we have done nothing but cuddle and kiss and thats it. i havent attempted to cop a feel or anything... so whats the next step? lets not forget i have confronted her times before and it always ends up in the "we dont have to be like every other young couple, or we dont need sex in our relationship its just a want..." conversations. and again the first five months she was near a sex goddess... wouldnt quit wanting it, i think mostly because i was the first of four guys to actually take the time to get her off first (shes never had oral either) before i got off... so shes always been so into it and now nothing...


next step?

[WildChild]

It could be someone said something that got her thinking and she's just gotten her head in a weird place regarding sex. It happens.
Keep trying to communicate.

[dieseltech24]

ok but how do i go about doing that? im just so confused...


why do women have to make things so complicated....

[Texinator]

ok but how do i go about doing that? im just so confused...


why do women have to make things so complicated....

You should read some of the other threads here. Seems like a lot of men also like to make things complicated. The mind can be funny like that.