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  • jecka
    Junior Member
    • Dec 2009
    • 2

    on top??

    Hello, I have been with my current boyfriend for over 6 months, we have tried almost every position there is, except for me riding ontop, I'm almost scared to do it, scared I'm not good enough or just can't do it right or something, any tips on how to overcome my fear? or how to be good ontop? Thank you!
  • Texasred
    Veteran Member
    • Oct 2009
    • 1216

    Jecka, you'll get lots of good advice her, but mine is simply this:
    Do it.
    Your bf will love it, he'll love seeing you while making love with you, and he'll enjoy the feeling that you're controlling what YOU want to do.

    Don't worry about not knowing what to do - you'll quickly figure it out - and don't even think about how you look, nor let any other distracting thoughts enter your mind.

    Remember, this is supposed to be fun!
    Best,
    TR

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    • Texinator
      Veteran Member
      • Sep 2009
      • 5556

      It's a wonderful position because you can control the angle and depth of the penetration. Your boyfriend will love it for the wonderful view. So, just try it out, experiment, and have fun with it!

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      • jecka
        Junior Member
        • Dec 2009
        • 2

        should I like more or less hop up and down? or move my hips? I'm scared to make a fool of myself.

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        • alterview
          Member
          • Oct 2009
          • 47

          agreed- just do it

          Try being a bit aggressive, like push your bf on to his back. Do it with gusto and confidence. I am sure you both will enjoy it. Most of my gfs in the past have loved being on top, meaning: they know how to grind away to a quick orgasm. I guess its a combination of deep penatration coupled with clitoral stimulation (against pelvic bone).

          Personally, it is such a turn-on to watch a woman on top working it with reckless abandon heading towards a big orgasm.

          enjoy!

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          • alterview
            Member
            • Oct 2009
            • 47

            jecka-

            Rocking forward and back makes for an in/out motion which I do enjoy though its the grinding (very little in/out motion) that drives them wild.

            Sitting up is more of a hopping motion. Really, there are a number of fun options here ie- sitting up and manually stimulate your clitoris (since it wont be grinding against his pelvic bone), or even spin around (reverse cow-girl).

            Its all fun! Play around and talk with your bf and soon you will know exactly what you like and what he likes.

            cheers!

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            • ItsASecret
              APRIL 2011 POSTER OF THE MONTH
              • Apr 2009
              • 3721

              I like being on top however if your man is well endowed like mine is there is no such thing as grinding or even sitting flat cause it really does hurt. My legs tire from having to always be elevated, but if you can manage to move your hips in the right way it really really does feel good. Just tell him that you do not know what to do but you are willing to give it a go in various ways so you can find that certain method that works for you.
              There are those who believe that dictionaries should not merely reflect the times but also protect English from the mindless assaults of the trendy.

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              • Texasred
                Veteran Member
                • Oct 2009
                • 1216

                Originally posted by jecka
                should I like more or less hop up and down? or move my hips? I'm scared to make a fool of myself.
                TRy both!

                "Scared to make a fool of yourself?"
                Who's watching?
                Other than that guy who's completely fascinated by every thing you do, and he'd never laugh at you!

                You could even say to him, "Hey, I've never done this before and I have no idea what I'm doing, but it seems like it might be fun."
                I'm sure he'll try to come up with helpful suggestions.

                Remember, this isn't a competition, and there's no judge with a Limey accent to make fun of you!

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                • happytam
                  Member
                  • Dec 2009
                  • 38

                  jecka-

                  Just go for it. The advice about being a little agressive and pushing him onto his back is great. Trust me, he will love it.
                  I really enjoy being on top. In this position you can control the depth of penetration, the speed, pretty much everything. My bf likes it when I'm on top. He says its a real turn on to see me orgasm and it makes the exprience that much better for him. Well, I certainly don't want to disappoint so I'm more than happy to go along
                  Give it a try. It won't take long to get the hang of it.
                  No regrets, only lessons learned

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                  • rcoreyus
                    Veteran Member
                    • Sep 2007
                    • 4369

                    Do what feels good to you. Try different motions. One of the great turn-ons for him is how much you enjoy it. The only thing to be careful of is if you move too much and he slips out, you can hurt him if you land hard on his penis. Be fairly gentle at first.

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