[newhere808]

You should keep in mind that you're a 'real' woman whereas they are manufactured dolls. And when it comes to certain things, reality is better than fantasy.

Yea, it's amazing what a personal trainer and a couple of hours of photoshop and airbrush work will get you these days.

I've never been impressed by the "fake" look, if it's perfect then there is something fake about it. Like HD said though, there are several that set their standard this way, and that is very very sad.

Guys suffer similarily though, these days if you have even a hint of body hair, your disgusting in the mainstream media world. Gotta love it

[renee69]

i agree with all of you guyz! youre telling her right...ive been dealing with alot of selfesteem issues also and i know that it had to do with my weight....make sure while you are excercising for your outer make sure youre exercising your inner..because you can be thin again but you will still have that big girl mentality at some point...rather it be with compliments that you cant handle or just over all still seeing that fat girl when you look in the mirror at times...so go get some counseling to deal with your inner self...when someone give you a compliment try saying thank you instead of saying something negative about yourself...get naked and look in the mirror and tell yourself how beautiful you are...it will take a while but you will get there....believe me if that man thought you were disgusting you would definately know!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

renee69
get naked and look in the mirror and tell yourself how beautiful you are...it will take a while but you will get there....believe me if that man thought you were disgusting you would definately know!

Long time no see Can't agree more with you on that note.

Look at it from this way guys, I am young at heart, no one can disagree with that...

I am 46, and i believe, really believe in loving yourself... Not whereby you pfttttt people, simply understanding all of you and loving who you are and where you are heading in life.

These stick thin ladies do nothing for me either. I was reading an article the other day that was denied, by Christie Brinkley's daughter. It was stated that she said to her daughter, " this is how you stay thin, you chew the food, watch, then you spit it out"...

That made me kind of cringe..

We are beautiful and certainly we have to be careful with getting to large due to illnesses that can occur from that but be healthy with your weight, have the curves and walk proud, it's very sexy.

We all add weight on..... mainly through depression "comfort eating"... But your right, it's the "inner" person you should be concentrating on, she is always going to be beautiful if you can bring her out....

CW

[Texinator]

make them just insanely flawless and impossible to live up to.

Maybe I just have a strange way of looking at this, but for me it's the other way around: It is impossible for the pictures to live up to the real thing. The women are static two dimensional images. It's impossible interact with, to touch and to hold, to connect with them like with a real woman.

I know we're talking about visual appeal, but I find that the non physical aspects of a woman, like personality and intelligence, enhance her overall 'beauty' and take it beyond anything a picture could ever offer. So a woman can have stretch marks, extra weight, and other things she might consider imperfections, and still be more beautiful than the most flawless porn model.

While I'm sure that many porn models are also wonderful and intelligent in real life, their pictures can't convey that, and most men are never going to see any more of the models than their pictures.

[Hopeless Dork]

While I'm sure that many porn models are also wonderful and intelligent in real life, their pictures can't convey that, and most men are never going to see any more of the models than their pictures.

A picture of a perfect girl can't rub your shoulders after a hard day, or lay you lay back in the bed while they pleasure every inch of your body, they can't listen to you, care for you, love you.

Yet some guys will make the girl that does all that for them, feel insecure, less than, inadequate to some photoshop fantasy girl.

If someone told me here, you can have a 100 grand in the bank, no matter what you spend, the balance will always be 100 grand, its yours to have and do with what you please. Or... here's a picture of 1 million bucks, you can't have it, you can't spend it... but boy isn't it pretty to look at?

[newhere808]

A picture of a perfect girl can't rub your shoulders after a hard day, or lay you lay back in the bed while they pleasure every inch of your body, they can't listen to you, care for you, love you.

Yet some guys will make the girl that does all that for them, feel insecure, less than, inadequate to some photoshop fantasy girl.

If someone told me here, you can have a 100 grand in the bank, no matter what you spend, the balance will always be 100 grand, its yours to have and do with what you please. Or... here's a picture of 1 million bucks, you can't have it, you can't spend it... but boy isn't it pretty to look at?

Kind of reminds me of a conversation I've had with my friends kids, explaining the difference between thinking someones attractive, and actually wanting to be with someone. It's been proven so many times that looks relate to personality about as much as age relates to maturity.

I'd take someone that actually loved me and showed it over someone your never gonna see. You can kiss a photo, but a photo won't kiss you back!

[Texinator]

Yet some guys will make the girl that does all that for them, feel insecure, less than, inadequate to some photoshop fantasy girl.

A symptom of a deeper problem. I used to have no idea why any guy would prefer Ms. Photoshop over the real thing, because I've never experienced that first hand, but I'm starting to realize that some of it might have to do with emotional withdrawal, a fear of getting too attached emotionally to a real woman. Contrary to popular belief, sex is an emotional exercise also for men, and so if they are afraid of those emotions, they'll try to avoid sex.

Going off topic for a moment, I wonder if that might also be a reason for why some men are habitual cheaters. I've never bought into the idea that men need to spread their seeds or that monogamy is unnatural, and I'm beginning to think that it is more a case of those men being afraid of getting too close to any one particular woman.. and so they sleep around, hoping that just a few encounters with other women won't cause an emotional attachment there either.