[Millania]

just for fun, I wonder if I will hear from any men

If u watch porn on a certain day and you are making love to your wife/girlfriend that night

Are you fantasizing about the porn u were watching earlier that day? Or concentrating fully on your wife?

Thanks for any thoughts
Millania
(an insecure wife with a porn loving husband)

[Millania]

I dont mind hearing about women either! If there are any women out there that are married, watch porn, then think about the men they saw on TV rather than their husband. I gues I just wish I knew if my husband was "all there" when with ME since he loves porn so dam much, thanks everyone in advance for even reading my ridiculous assumptions

[StillLearnin]

Ok, here's the deal, for me, anyway.

I used to watch porn a whole lot more than I do now, to masturbate so I can get the edge off of my sexual energy, before my wife made her changes. But I still sometimes watch it. I'm deliberately not watching it now (or trying not to) so I can save all my sexual energies for her. If it's been more than 2 to 3 days from the last time we had sex I gotta have a release. But I'll try not to if I know she's going to want to hook up that day.

I'm constantly reading signals from my wife about how she is enjoying it (or sometimes just tolerating it, but she's doing it because she loves me). I know from years of experience that 5 mins is really about all she can take. For me, I could go for hours with some breaks. I've always been this way. And she's always been her way.

So when I notice that she's ready for me to end it, to speed things up, I'll turn on the fantasy of a porn star. That helps me go faster. Otherwise, I could go another 30 minutes sometimes (don't know exactly how long, it depends on the mood, the day, the time of day, etc.)

Ok, the other part of the story of why I am trying to stop watching porn is because when I masturbate I last a whole lot longer during actual sex, which I know she doesn't like. But my preference would be to masturbate sometime before, then have an hour long session of just hot sex. Not all the time, maybe once a week, when I'm in the mood to just f**k. There's nothing wrong with just wanting to have the extended physical activity. It's fun for two people to enjoy each other, it's intimate, it's a bonding moment as well. But both really need to be into it to go that long.

Sometimes we go ten minutes and the next day she says she's sore. This is after 20 years of marriage. Shouldn't the soreness be worked out by now??? We are having more frequent sex now, so will it just take time to work out her soreness? When she says she's sore I jokingly tell her that her body is just telling her she needs it more to work out that soreness.

[Hopeless Dork]

So your answer, stilllearning... is that in order to get off faster.. you think of another woman. Ouchie...... but ty for telling it as it is from your perspective.

[StillLearnin]

I need to add one more thing to brag a little about how much better it is for me (ultimately for us).

Used to I would have a lot more fantasies in general about porn stars. But, with the increased frequency and a lot more variety that my wife and I are now experiencing, I'm actually starting now to replace those fantasies about the women I see on video with my wife. Yay! It's ok to have hot sexual fantasies about your wife, isn't it? I've never really experienced this with her before now. Because I never had anything to base the fantasies on until now.

[Millania]

Still Learning, thanks for your quick reply! wow 20 years of marriage congrats! thats amazing!! Gosh I WISH my husband was TRYING to stop watching porn! thats really awesome at least u r TRYING not to watch it. at least its a start, to give all ur sexual energy to your wife, dam u are awesome, I can see why you turn on the "pornstar" fantasy if she is ready to end things thats understandable
UGH I just cringe at the fact that on the day my H was watching porn, and we are having good sex that night, that he is thinking of "another woman" instead of me
I cant ask, he will deny, deny, deny-and say NO baby I only think of you, BS I dont buy it..
You know? my H DOES last like 45minutes on the weekends(when we have more time to hv sx) and I am like UM wow this is taking long, its still enjoyable but he takes long
I think he takes long because he gets his once or 2 times a week "release" during the week with the dam porn..not sure..
wow so she can only take you for 5 minutes? thats too short
during our short sessions I like at least 10 or 15 minutes which is good

I gues I cant understand why my H is so into porn if we have an awesome sex life, 3-4 times a week(sometimes a tiny bit less) and its always GREAT, I do anything he freakin' wants in bed ,mindblowing O's etc
maybe its his age? he is 31 so maybe he just needs to "see it" or "get it" everyday, not sure..?? maybe he has majorly high testosterone levels and thats why he HAS to view it ANYtime no one is home?

[StillLearnin]

I know, it sounds bad, but I'm really doing it for her sake.
Isn't that what love is about? Or should I not have fantasies and just pound away, and be pushed away from her?

[Millania]

I even asked him about our sexlife because I thought maybe he thought ours was terrible or something, since he was viewing porn 2 sometimes 3 times a week
and he says: no babe, our sex life is great!
I dont know if he is telling the truth or what? boy is always in need of porn or me everyday
but even if he gets ME that morning he will still view porn that night so its like a catch 22 with him, he just wont give it up...

[Millania]

Stilllearning-that is SO AWESOME

[Millania]

DIDNT FINISH MY POST..that is so awesome u have hot fantasizes of your wife AWWW such a good boy! niiiice