[vishva8kumara]

A guy here.

Me and my fiancee are 24 and we have sex almost every weekend. We are both having so much pleasure and now sometimes we can have orgasm at the same time. We both can get multiple orgasms. That is so wonderful. We are reading some books on Tantric Sex as well.

I always suggest only when she is feeling like it. I take time and stimulate her, sometimes gives her a good massage all over. She likes it when I use my tongue to stimulate her. When I stimulate her, she like it and I can see it. I do that till she really want to go for penitration.

But the problem is that she is silent when it comes to the near orgasm. I almost always express my pleasure verbally and physically, so she knows it. I count it as a word of thanks. But she does not express her pleasure physically or verbally. I ask her once in a while how does she feel, and then only she say that she feel so good and that she wants me to say filthy things.. Sometimes she say when it is near her orgasm, that I should go on the same way.

I expect a verbal or physical expression of her pleasure, but she is silent. I talked with her about this and she says she needs to fantasize and relax to feel it properly, and that she cannot focus to make any verbal expression. Well, I don't focus and put my intent to express myself, I just let it out. So what I expect was that she would openly express her pleasure..

What is your idea about what we could do..

[pretzel]

A guy here.

Me and my fiancee are 24 and we have sex almost every weekend. We are both having so much pleasure and now sometimes we can have orgasm at the same time. We both can get multiple orgasms. That is so wonderful. We are reading some books on Tantric Sex as well.

I always suggest only when she is feeling like it. I take time and stimulate her, sometimes gives her a good massage all over. She likes it when I use my tongue to stimulate her. When I stimulate her, she like it and I can see it. I do that till she really want to go for penitration.

But the problem is that she is silent when it comes to the near orgasm. I almost always express my pleasure verbally and physically, so she knows it. I count it as a word of thanks. But she does not express her pleasure physically or verbally. I ask her once in a while how does she feel, and then only she say that she feel so good and that she wants me to say filthy things.. Sometimes she say when it is near her orgasm, that I should go on the same way.

I expect a verbal or physical expression of her pleasure, but she is silent. I talked with her about this and she says she needs to fantasize and relax to feel it properly, and that she cannot focus to make any verbal expression. Well, I don't focus and put my intent to express myself, I just let it out. So what I expect was that she would openly express her pleasure..

What is your idea about what we could do..

Nothing.

Sounds like she's enjoying herself, so let her enjoy herself.

[WildChild]

I am highly orgasmic but if I start talking about while I'm ahving sex I can lose my focus and then I won't orgasm. Your lady may be the same.

[Fish]

I agree. Let her enjoy it her way.

[mm1991]

Tell her that it turns you on when when she communicates her pleasure to you. Tell her you love it. She'll do it. I used to be shy too.

[newhere808]

I agree with others, try not to let it bother you. If she's there with you and not fantasizing about someone else, then there isn't really a problem. As a guy it is certainly nice to see/hear results, but an orgasm is a great affirmation that your doing well.

[Hopeless Dork]

Sometimes when I am about to orgasm or as I am... I scream and say some crazy stuff. Sometimes I am completely silent and almost holding my breath. One is isn't an indicator of it feeling better or worse... both times I'm feeling awesome, I just go with the flow of how I feel.

I wouldn't pressure her to make noise or talk if she's not feeling it or what you will get won't be authentic and you'll feel that and it won't make the situation better for you.

If you already 'know' she is experiencing pleasure and can see that she is as you stated... why is it so important to hear the words?

[vishva8kumara]

Tell her that it turns you on when when she communicates her pleasure to you. Tell her you love it. She'll do it. I used to be shy too.

Thank you very much, I'll try telling like that. That is the thing, it would just turn me on. Yesterday also we got around a problem like that, that she does not initiate for sex. She said it is the way she was brought up, but when she would initiate it, that would make me feel so good. She said she was shy to initiate..

[the wench]

im also silent most of the time i would say..given exception of a few moans/groans every now and then but this is just a natural thing i do and i certainly wouldnt try and express myself any different on purpose.
just because she isnt shouting from the roof tops like some smutty porn doesnt mean she isnt enjoying herself.
would you rather she was vocal for your benefit then have you thinking how false is this? or have i actually given her pleasure?
just let it be and let nature take its course and let your lady orgasm in the way she feels most natural...its a far better result!

[kira]

I only make noise because guys would complain or stop to ask me if it even feels good if I didn't. That was very annoying and interrupted sex more than consciously thinking about what noise to make. Eventually it became habit while having sex simply in order to give cues but it took years to develop that habit without distracting myself and enjoying sex less.