[caterpillar79]

This is my first time to start a thread on this section.

*breaths in...


OK, so how do we know if our SO is enjoying it? This question is sparked by another thread.

What if the man is quiet and self-conscious, how could we tell he is loving what his woman is doing?

Guys, shed some light here, please...(of course, ladies are welcome).

[arabellafigg]

I usually judge on outcome, if he comes, generally i consense he has enjoyed it. In fact, i would usually carry on untill he had. You can judge if he enjoys something by his body reactions, or watching the eyes carefully....

[pretzel]

Honestly, I don't think guys are all that much different from the ladies.

I know when I'm enjoying making love my eyes will tend to close, my breathing will become more rapid and generally my erection will become harder.

Now to put these theories into practice............

[Texinator]

Look at his body language. Is he trying to move closer to you, does he seem bored, or is he trying to move away from you?

If he is quiet, you could encourage him to give some verbal cues. He probably wouldn't want to do a play by play commentary because that might just distract him, but you could encourage him to moan when he likes what's happening.

A 'review' afterward or the next day might also be helpful. What did he like best? What was good? What could he have done without? What would he like differently?

[Futureboy]

Whether he cums is a good indicator to a 'pass' mark of say 40%

To get a 'distinction' 70% or better is a lot harder

I am not going to tell you how many people I have slept with but only a couple were really memorable women for there sex.

Emosion is a big part for me may be not as much as a woman but still really important

If I think back to the best sex I have ever had it wasn't particularly different to good I have had so how everything feels right. The mood of both parties the setting the woman the emosion a little naughtyness

with 'quiet' guys it's going to be a little tricky. I can only say that when I like something I am particularly enthusiastic. Cat as you know I am fond of my hairstyles. I used to go out with a girl who would change hers regularly this always made me very enthusiastic to 'investigate'.

Anyway congrats and nice to see you back
He married you so I am thinking you must be doing it ok.

Fb

[sourpuss]

Ok, so guys, what are some of the things that you do to let a girl know that it is good? Or do you even do that?

[StillLearnin]

I give feedback like "yeah, that feels good" or "I'm... about... to... cum!".

Then when we are done and snuggling, I say stuff like " that was good! That's what I'm talking about."

Just ask, and have open communication. Communication is key to having great sex.

[skipper]

I guess there is bad sex but I don't think there is a bad orgasm. I don't remember any bad sex, but some sex is much better than some.

We tend to get each other worked up b/f we start and once we do start, we get pretty vocal w/ caveman/woman grunts and moans along w/ dirty talk. It's clear if a guy is excited and almost as clear if a woman is ready.

You should know your partner well enough you can look in their eyes and see the pleasure and even if you are in a position you don't have eye to eye, there should be many clues that your partner is enjoying themselves.

It all comes back to communication .....

[newhere808]

It varies from guy to guy about as much as it varies from lady to lady. Personally if i'm enjoying it, I will moan lightly, my muscles will tense up, or I will move with my partner (in the case of her being on top). When approaching orgasm i'll grind my teeth and my muscles can totally lock up.

It can be hard to tell, I know guys that have such little reaction to sex (by their own admission) that it's as casual for them as taking a shower, even though they enjoy it tremendously.

[rcoreyus]

Orgasm isn't proof of good sex. Happiness is - and you can generally tell - but I don't know any easy checklist though. I haven't had sex with guys (being male and straight), so I don't know how much their reactions vary.

As a thing to try though -get him really aroused, then ask what he would like.