not much time ago i have learned i am not just average guy (ItsASecret, average girth is 1,5-2 inches less than mine).
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That is why I said basically average. A woman would not flat out say "uh no your just a bit too thick for me"...not one that is worth it that is. I am a petite girl (5'1) my boyfriend is 7 1/4 in long and 6 1/2 girth and there is no problem for me. So being a petite girl I can say that 6 1/2 girth would not be an issue. Add in the fact that a woman's vagina stretches and accommodates to different sizes lies again that there is nothing to worry about. You are a-okay
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My thought process would go "I hope he knows how to use that. I don't want to have to do all the work tonight."
It's easier when there is more to work with but having had a guy larger than you I can say bigger is not always better. I didn't have any problems getting it to fit since I've used toys plenty. He's actually the first guy I had sex with and I'm not very large at all but it was not that uncomfortable. However he absolutely sucked at it. If I was in control everything went fine. If he was then I'd have an awful sore cervix leading to uterine cramps and my insides would just feel bruised. My body finally started making huge amounts of lubrication to help counter it so I wouldn't feel much. Then it just got boring. After 2years I think he was worse at sex than when we started. I tried to give him pointers and explain things to him but it got nowhere. In the end I actually refused to have sex with him just from his lack of skill and consideration for me. I never had an orgasm with him and my vibrator was better. I got a waterproof one so I could go use it in the bath without him knowing.
My husband is average size and could still hurt me sometimes. He's a work in progress because he'd never had sex without condoms so his idea of sex was build as much friction as possible by moving quickly. Just being able to not use condoms made a big difference and I've had orgasms with him. If he does something that is uncomfortable he tries very hard not to repeat it the next time.
Willingness to learn goes a lot farther than penis size. Bigger might make it easier to hit the right spots and do certain positions, I would be slightly disappointed if my husband were smaller, but you still have to work just as hard to figure it all out.Comment
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I think for the majority of women your size is just fine. As others have said it mostly depends on how you use it and other skills in your repertoire.
Example (ok this is a bit personal)
I have had more sexual partners than I care to remember. I have had 4 (including DH) that were relationships where we had sex many times over time. 2 of the 4 were larger than DH. (1 was a bit smaller and while sex was OK we had no real connection or commitment and were only together for a few months, So size was not the only issue).
The 2 men that were larger than DH I was passionate about and did care greatly for. Both were good although the first a almost never orgasmed because I had not learned how and he was not experienced or maybe patient enough to help me get there. The 2nd was the first to bring me over the edge and could do so 90% of the time.
Now on to my wonderful Hubby... He is average. I would say without measuring 5.5inches long and I can get my hand around him just fine. When we had sex for the first time it had been a long time for us both and we were VERY nervous. (we had been friends for YEARS and were worried about changing the dynamic) For me the sex was not good the first time. I was super worried! I cared about him so much that I gave it another shot, better but just OK. The 3rd time... holy buckets! He got confident and he rocked my world! He is the most caring lover I have EVER had. He makes sure I am satisfied 99.9% of the time (sometimes I just can not get over the edge due to the stress of life). I also like his size because it makes giving him oral comfortable. Any bigger and ouch, major jaw cramps!
So the moral of the story… bigger is not better. Passion, caring and connection are what make for good love making.Comment
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There was a girl on this site a while ago who claimed she wouldn't sleep with a guy unless they had a 22 inch penis. She stuck to her guns too...Comment
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