Actually, I think it's a mixture of both.
You've got it set in your head that the other girls were "better" than you, as far as their bodies go and so you are desperate to be "better" in bed, as you see this as a way in which to keep him, win him and it's frustrating you to the hilt, with his non reactions or laughter, knowing it's not "like" you.
But the thing is he went out with you, he's still with you so that's not the case now is it.. If it was he wouldn't be your fiance.
Perhaps, he prefers the "loving" side of you sexually instead of the "pretend vixon" your aiming at achieving?
Alot of men won't make noises when you are on top of them but look in their eyes, so cowboy aint the way to do it
And, you should tell what they are "feeling".
He has a communication problem from the sounds of it, your both young and this takes time to work with.
Instead of saying "what's wrong", or "what do you want me to do to you", just smile, kiss him and do what "you want to do", as YOU, be yourself... and just add in, as time goes by, "do you like that?", smiling....
And, tell him you know you've been insecure, but on the same accord, he's not reacting or talking about intimacy which makes it worse and he has to communicate outside the bedroom in discussions, whilst in the bedroom, you'll now just be you and not dampen the moment with questions.. Feel it in other words ,instead of talking through the whole thing may be a better solution.
CW
You've got it set in your head that the other girls were "better" than you, as far as their bodies go and so you are desperate to be "better" in bed, as you see this as a way in which to keep him, win him and it's frustrating you to the hilt, with his non reactions or laughter, knowing it's not "like" you.
But the thing is he went out with you, he's still with you so that's not the case now is it.. If it was he wouldn't be your fiance.
Perhaps, he prefers the "loving" side of you sexually instead of the "pretend vixon" your aiming at achieving?
Alot of men won't make noises when you are on top of them but look in their eyes, so cowboy aint the way to do it
And, you should tell what they are "feeling".He has a communication problem from the sounds of it, your both young and this takes time to work with.
Instead of saying "what's wrong", or "what do you want me to do to you", just smile, kiss him and do what "you want to do", as YOU, be yourself... and just add in, as time goes by, "do you like that?", smiling....
And, tell him you know you've been insecure, but on the same accord, he's not reacting or talking about intimacy which makes it worse and he has to communicate outside the bedroom in discussions, whilst in the bedroom, you'll now just be you and not dampen the moment with questions.. Feel it in other words ,instead of talking through the whole thing may be a better solution.
CW
this is exactly how it is! where people are saying she cheating and i should leave him ect ect... arent on the same page!
though saying that.
I have just found out that he was chatting to a lass that was on his engineering course this year but left 2 months ago.
On his facebook chat I read what they had been saying. and i was really hurt by it. because being a female i want to think that my fiance is going to only want and think about me. but ! (even though i know deep in my heart he wouldnt have done anything) but was more on the lines of just complimenting her and how he thinks she fit. but just reading it with him being honest! which is what i really want to hear. has really made me feel not so special. i would take him to college and pick him up again and he was always nice saying goodbye and hello and gives me a kiss. but like just to hear the whole chat: (i know this is rude and invasion of privacy but at the end of the day yous dont know who they are exactly) but yeah just the way he goes on about how he used to 'look at her' has made me feel so low! I mean! what ! why would he do that! but then my clever mind is thinking look hes a boy he has to flirt a little give him a break. hes not doing any harm. but then my female mind is like but hey im ment to be the 'only one' no one else is ment to come through that head of yours
I cant believe how much rambleing im going on about! soo sorry guys and honestly from the bottom of my heart this forum and your guys posts have been soo helpfull to me! its keeping me sane! thank you xxx
Racheal
so who people think i liked then?
10:40pmGareth
Well
10:40pmRacheal
. . .
10:40pmGareth
Pete, Dane, or ton
Was who it came down to
10:41pmRacheal
nope aha tom dnt u mean
10:41pmGareth
Lol
Yea
10:42pmRacheal
was was prety cute but na
10:42pmGareth
Come on then, who did ya like
10:42pmRacheal
erm fort u was hot n tom was cute but
thtd it really
10:43pmGareth
It making me blush
Ahahah
Lol
10:43pmRacheal
aw bless aha
10:44pmGareth
I'm kidding
Well cheers
10:44pmRacheal
npz
10:44pmGareth
I thought you are fit to be honest
10:44pmRacheal
aw thanks
10:45pmGareth
But I wasn't sure you thought I was
10:45pmRacheal
ye aha fort u wud have relised
10:45pmGareth
Lol
10:45pmRacheal
10:46pmGareth
I caught you looking at me once or twice but you didn't give it away
Where as I couldent stop looking lo l
10:46pmRacheal
aha cudnt help it
10:46pmGareth
Vet you busted me a few times
10:47pmRacheal
nope!
10:47pmGareth
Ahahah lol
Yes!
Sly gaz
10:47pmRacheal
aw well never mind aha
10:48pmGareth
You seeing some1 then?
10:48pmRacheal
aha
10:49pmRacheal
wish still went
disco dave still go?
10:49pmGareth
Lol yea
10:50pmRacheal
aw bless im
10:51pmGareth
He's in bae niw
Now
10:51pmRacheal
really
10:51pmGareth
Yup
10:51pmRacheal
get him aha
10:51pmGareth
Lol
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