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  • dude123
    Member
    • Feb 2010
    • 58

    Originally posted by laswell89
    Ok so, my boyfriend has been having this problem a lot lately. He cums within about a minute of entering me. When we first started having sex last year this never happened but happens almost every time now. I don't know what I can do to help him prolong it, so I was wondering if anyone has any thoughts or has done anything that has worked? We've tried screwing around til he cums and then having sex after that but he still can't last very long. Should we skip a lot of foreplay and just go right into it or will that make it worse? He's very frustrated and embarrassed about it even though I tell him it's not a big deal to me. It isn't really, but we both would obviously still like sex to last longer so we can have more fun with it.

    Thanks
    I have this problem alot, and my gf got impatient immediately when it started happening. she didnt complain verbally, but she just stopepd ever wanting sex or initiating sex with me. It messed up my head really bad and now i feel so much pressure not to blow it (no pun intented) that i just keep thinking botu not cumming and of ocurse that makes me cum faster. It's the frusttrating thing in the world. Trust me ur dude wants to be good for u, just act like it doesnt bother u at all and have lots of sex with him and ittl go away on its own. My girl makes me wait forever to have sex it really sux and hurts my confidence.

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    • cubanlink
      Member
      • Feb 2010
      • 44

      i am no sex expert, i have lots of questions about sex, i was a minute man!...then had issues about my size... i was always trying to stick it as far in as possible to prove a point, thats our problem we want her to feel it in her stomach!!!!!.... until i gave up and said ima go in as much as needed for both to feel good. im only 6.5.... and life changed that day... i get more into sex,into my mind where i control my self and so it roughly and fast without coming.

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      • cubanlink
        Member
        • Feb 2010
        • 44

        Originally posted by dude123
        I have this problem alot, and my gf got impatient immediately when it started happening. she didnt complain verbally, but she just stopepd ever wanting sex or initiating sex with me. It messed up my head really bad and now i feel so much pressure not to blow it (no pun intented) that i just keep thinking botu not cumming and of ocurse that makes me cum faster. It's the frusttrating thing in the world. Trust me ur dude wants to be good for u, just act like it doesnt bother u at all and have lots of sex with him and ittl go away on its own. My girl makes me wait forever to have sex it really sux and hurts my confidence.
        dude 123 i feel you brother, my ex of 7 yrs left me....cuz it was 2 much,,,and guess what my new gf worked with me in a month dude i control myself now. i wish i can see my ex one more time!..lol

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        • dude123
          Member
          • Feb 2010
          • 58

          Originally posted by cubanlink
          dude 123 i feel you brother, my ex of 7 yrs left me....cuz it was 2 much,,,and guess what my new gf worked with me in a month dude i control myself now. i wish i can see my ex one more time!..lol
          Any tips? I feel like i have no control over it, even if im not that turned on yet its amazing i wish there was a solution. She used to be like nympho at the beginnign when i was lasting longer. She'd wanan try all different positions and would talk dirty. Now she kinda jsut lies there like a blob and then eventually she goes on top cuz i dont cum as fast that way. She ends up cumming every time but its liek a struggle and sometimes i gotta tell her to stop for a min or so.

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          • Hopeless Dork
            Veteran Member
            • Dec 2008
            • 4255

            Originally posted by dude123
            Any tips? I feel like i have no control over it, even if im not that turned on yet its amazing i wish there was a solution. She used to be like nympho at the beginnign when i was lasting longer. She'd wanan try all different positions and would talk dirty. Now she kinda jsut lies there like a blob and then eventually she goes on top cuz i dont cum as fast that way. She ends up cumming every time but its liek a struggle and sometimes i gotta tell her to stop for a min or so.
            Have you tried masturbating prior to a sex session? If you have did it make any difference?
            Scars remind us of where we've been...they don't have to dictate where we're going.

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            • Hopeless Dork
              Veteran Member
              • Dec 2008
              • 4255

              Just wanted to say that some time my guy comes quicker than others and I love the times he comes quickly as much or even more sometimes than when it takes longer. Its probably stupid but it makes me feel sexy (I know I know it probably has nothing to do with me) but when he comes fast I feel like Oh hey my stuff is THAT good :P lol.. then he takes care of me in other ways on those days so I am satisfied physically too!

              I dont know, I love my guy, I love our sex life... if he's a little worked up and it pops off quick it actually turns me on. I'd much rather him give me his organic desire and not masturbate prior just so he can last longer... I want him to feel as much pleasure as possible, no matter how short or long it takes!

              Sometimes if he has masturbated, or we had sex prior its harder for him to come and he lasts longer... I'd prefer he come quick than not come at all - any day of the week. I come pretty quick myself and prefer extended forplay before and lingering playtime and holding each other after to an hour of non stop penetration.
              Scars remind us of where we've been...they don't have to dictate where we're going.

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              • dude123
                Member
                • Feb 2010
                • 58

                Originally posted by Hopeless Dork
                Have you tried masturbating prior to a sex session? If you have did it make any difference?
                Yea it doesnt help i still cum fast and i cant get as hard. i used to in my teens until my mid 20's now at 28 its not as hard the second time which sux

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                • dude123
                  Member
                  • Feb 2010
                  • 58

                  Originally posted by Hopeless Dork
                  Have you tried masturbating prior to a sex session? If you have did it make any difference?
                  Well actually u know wat the sexd is so infrequent its hard to say for sure. Im sure sometimes this would work. But a few times ive tried that recently it was kinda softish

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                  • Hopeless Dork
                    Veteran Member
                    • Dec 2008
                    • 4255

                    Does the sex feel as good to you when its kinda softish? Or is it less pleasurable that way? And when you orgasm quickly is the sensation more or less intense than when it takes you longer to come? (Just my own curiousity here)
                    Scars remind us of where we've been...they don't have to dictate where we're going.

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                    • dude123
                      Member
                      • Feb 2010
                      • 58

                      Originally posted by Hopeless Dork
                      Does the sex feel as good to you when its kinda softish? Or is it less pleasurable that way? And when you orgasm quickly is the sensation more or less intense than when it takes you longer to come? (Just my own curiousity here)
                      Its less intesne when soft. Still feels good but not as good. wheni orgasm quickly it feels great to be honest with u, when i last longer its cuz im holding it in and it ends up feelin weird when i finnaly do allow myself to cum after she cums

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