[LilahX]

I love looking at sexy women! If she does too, then it's something you can do together. My man often sends me pics of someone he thnks is hot, or wearing something he thinks is sexy. Ok, I'm bi and I enjoy women physically as well, but I also enjoy an attractive women from an aesthetic perspective too.

Perhaps she's bi curious? Even if you never took it to 'reality', perhaps you can use this interest of hers to fuel some fantasies which can really spice things up.

If she 'wants to be sexy like them' maybe ask her if she'd like to pose for you for some sensual photos in her favourite lingerie, or even a sexy dress you like. Maybe she somehow feels she doesn't measure up to these women and thnks they are what you find sexy and not her? Having those sort of thoughts could kill her sex drive big time.

As to her low libido, female libido can wane because of hormones, or her emotional state, or because she's tired, or doesn't feel appreciated in other areas of the r/ship. You won't know until you have an honest discussion.

I'm not sure how having a vasectomy would improve her libido unless fear of pregnancy was something that was really playing on her mind. (Note : your boys will still be swimming, they just won't be able to get out of the pool lol).

[typroctor]

Hi! I agree with all of the above. I was on the pill for years, and recently decided to come off of it and use condoms. My husband was so excited that my headaches stopped and my sex drive went through the roof, that he volunteered to get a vasectomy, and we are doing better than ever. It's a shame it took us 8 years to figure out that the pill was doing that to me. When I was on the pill, I didn't realize that was the problem and it even made me feel like something was wrong with me. I would definitely give it a shot!

[StillLearnin]

I have my consultation appointment set up for Friday. I'll probably have the procedure done in a couple of weeks. I'll have to not take any type of pain reliever for 10 days prior. Unfortunately I had a headache about 4 days ago so I took some Advil. Otherwise I would have the procedure this Friday. Oh well.

[WildChild]

I think you'll be glad you've done it. It will take some time for the effects of the pill to wear off and for your vasectomy to be declared a success, why not have her get off the pill and use a diaphram or condoms for a while just so she can start letting her body get that stuff out of her system?