[dude123]

Why are you with her? Why did you get engaged? Marriage is unlikely to improve this situation.
Are really sure she orgasms? Many women do fake it regularly. Can you feel the muscle contractions? It makes no sense that a woman who orgasms would not want sex. Although I know we have more than one gentleman here who reports that situation.

I feel the contractions it makes me cum, and i see her cum sometimes. Even when i dotn see the cum the contractions and the weird breathing and glossed over look tell me shes not faking. She also doesnt orgasm 1 out of say 10 times and she seems a lil dissapointed when that happens. Truast me shes not faking. I got engaged cuz i love her and everythign else is good with us, i just always assuemd the sex would get beter and it was a phase.

[dude123]

I think you'll find most women like it or at the least don't mind it. I personally quite like it, talk to her it's been three years! You should be actively communicating these things to eachother!

i can't her fits scare the out of me. If i asked her something real cool and calm like can i pull out and cum on u i have no idea wat shed do. She has these episodes where she screams and then sobs for like 3 hrs like loud child ike sobs.

[dude123]

It sounds as if she's under a lot of pressure and stress. Maybe now that you are engaged she overthinks about how life would be in marriage, with children, a husband, a job that makes her tired. Maybe she feels a lot more responsible about everything now and it drags her down. Maybe she's subconsciously worried about having a child when there is so much going on in her life and avoids sex for that reason. I don't think it's a physical or performance issue, you obviously do more than enough for her in that department and how long you last does not play a part. Maybe she needs to discuss her issues with her doctor and tell him how much they affect the relationship.

Well we decided to wait years before having kids. I dont think shes worried bout getting pregnant cuz shes on the pill but who knows. The thing that bothers me most is that shes indifferent. She just doesnt even seem to notice that we dont have sex. Ive made it clear to her as ive said 3 times in the last year and a half. She knows i want more sex. She throws those fits and i end up apologizing when i shouldnt have to cuz i wasnt even mean about it i always calmy ask her why she never wants sex anymore and she flips out. She ends up making me say that its part my fault too that i dont inititate either which is tottaly false, but just to get her to stop crying and screamin i have to. next time im not apologizing or admitting anythign thats not true tho. I dont get why she takes it as a personal attack, she says im not happy and she scremas and sobs and i have to assure her i am happy and thats wehy i want sex. She has mroe sex for a week and then it goes right back to normal. She just totally doesnt seem to care. One time when i asked her bout it she was like what are u talking about we had sex a few times last week! And i was like waaaat! We havent had sex more than once let alone a few times in months. Prob 5 or 6 months. She said well i dont count! Im like yea i dont either cuz its pretty easy to count to 1! Where did she get that few times thing from is it possible shes been cheating and confusing me with another dude she was banging?

[dude123]

oh yes i have seen and experienced this before first hand. could be chemical or hormonal on her part, the fact that she used to crave sex early in the relationship points to that. being in love and falling in love in the beginning causes all kinds of chemicals and hormones to be released in your brain. it can cause a ravishing sexual appetite.. its a reproduction mechanism that has ensured our species survival for thousands of years...
However... this usually doesnt end abruptly in a relationship without some other stimuli.
ask her what her goals are, short term, long term, where she sees you two five years from now. chances are she is in nesting mode not reproduction mode. if she is more concerned with paint colors or dishes and furniture than she is about knockin boots then this is a sure sign she will be like this the rest of her life. some women are just wired that way. cook some dinner and slip her some yohimbe herbal supplements in her favorite food if all you want is to unlock her inner sexual beast. but chances are you will never be happy with her, and she will never be happy with anyone. oh and one more thing.. show her some respect before during and after. put her on a pedistal and make an effort to rock her world and not just get something for yourself. you may already do this.. but im just saying

Shes not even a girly girl like that she could care less botu dishes or anythign like that. As i said in a previous post im afraid she just like rock star sex, and anything else she has no use for. I dunno how her exes were in bed obviously but i guess they were better than me im not so great.

[stressed]

Why is she on anti-depressants? She's 26 and I don't know how common they are supposed to be, but it does seem that she is dealing with a lot. If she's depressed she won't want sex of any kind no matter how good it can be. You talk with her and she just screams and sobs for hours, this is not what a mentally healthy person does.

You shouldn't be concerned about the kind of sex she had with ex'es, it does not matter. She is with you now and sex used to be great between you two. She doesn't miss any of those guys if she truly loves you. If she was sexually aggressive she would have been initiating it herself. And I don't see how it is possible for one not to enjoy sex when she orgasms, so it cannot be something related directly to you. There must be some changes going on in her head and she doesn't know how to deal with them.

[dude123]

Why is she on anti-depressants? She's 26 and I don't know how common they are supposed to be, but it does seem that she is dealing with a lot. If she's depressed she won't want sex of any kind no matter how good it can be. You talk with her and she just screams and sobs for hours, this is not what a mentally healthy person does.

You shouldn't be concerned about the kind of sex she had with ex'es, it does not matter. She is with you now and sex used to be great between you two. She doesn't miss any of those guys if she truly loves you. If she was sexually aggressive she would have been initiating it herself. And I don't see how it is possible for one not to enjoy sex when she orgasms, so it cannot be something related directly to you. There must be some changes going on in her head and she doesn't know how to deal with them.

Girls r so freaking weird. When im stressed nothing makes me feel better than busting a nut lol. Sorry for the language but it's true. Sex is so unrelated to us. When we love a girl we love her but it has nothign to do with sex. I have sex cuz im horny. I do nice thigns with her and wanna spend time with her cuz i love her. Women r so damm complicated.

[tinycit]

I'm not going to address your depressingly sad situation with not getting your needs met. What I will do is answer the questions you asked in your first post.

I love oral sex. I prefer my husband cum into my mouth. I like to swallow his cum. I don't mind cum on my face either, but that can get really messy and I usually have to shower off after, so although I don't mind, it's not my preference. I dislike cum anywhere else on my body. Don't even think of cumming anywhere near my downstairs parts!

[Lizzy girl]

ok well dude 123. i can tell you from experience. I cant believe im saying this. DONT THINK ANYTHINK LESS OF ME LADIES" haha ok well about the cumming thing and sexing her breasts/ i know so many women that love it. i being one of them ejaculating on a body part is erotic. 3 years is a long time for no change. as a woman myself i try to please my guy anyway i can he knows not to be nervous embarassed or scared to ask to try a new move. but about the cum thing. he does ask me if its ok when hes close say for exp. he wants to finish on my back, breasts, butt face w.e it is at the time he always asks. he never just does it. that does make it different and i dont appreciate him "using " me taht way its still my body. tehre are times its ok and times not. but as for your girl asking her to experiment shouldnt be a problem it should make your relationship stronger. toys. different body parts being in sex play . its all human nature . and we all want sex. maybe like a few of the otehr posts said ask her about her fantasies and tell her some of yours. it seems she doesnt like the "dirty" aspect of sex. ... sorry but sex is dirty no matter what and guess what we have showers no adays so i dont see theprob of " finishing" where ever you wan. idk mayeb im different but i find it sexually arousing when my guy finishes on a body part feet hands face tummy butt back breasts. whatever it is. ANy other women feel that way. vaginal get boring sometimes and the drip is the worst. it never comes out all at once so i always have to wait on the potty or wear a liner so is not to mess my panties. what about ya'll? haha TMI?

[stressed]

Girls r so freaking weird. When im stressed nothing makes me feel better than busting a nut lol. Sorry for the language but it's true. Sex is so unrelated to us. When we love a girl we love her but it has nothign to do with sex. I have sex cuz im horny. I do nice thigns with her and wanna spend time with her cuz i love her. Women r so damm complicated.

Honestly and without any intentions at all of being rude: I am still not convinced that you perceive sex in the same way as she does. You often say that "I'm a young guy, I need sex", "I am horny all the time" and so on. And this is what you tell 'us' here, in the forum. I assume that you talk to her in the same way, that you don't connect sex with your relationship but basically see it as "I want sex because I have an erection".

I am sorry, but I can almost understand why your girlfriend is off sex. You are 28 but your attitude is one of a quite younger guy.

[dude123]

Honestly and without any intentions at all of being rude: I am still not convinced that you perceive sex in the same way as she does. You often say that "I'm a young guy, I need sex", "I am horny all the time" and so on. And this is what you tell 'us' here, in the forum. I assume that you talk to her in the same way, that you don't connect sex with your relationship but basically see it as "I want sex because I have an erection".

I am sorry, but I can almost understand why your girlfriend is off sex. You are 28 but your attitude is one of a quite younger guy.

Oh please i never ever talk to her like that. Im just saying it like it is. You wanna believe that men have sex cuz theyre in love ur nuts. They have sex cuz they are horny. Evolution programs us to wanna spread our seed as much as possible. Since we dont wanna spread our seed we use protection now and we just try to have as much sex as possible. Women have a different evolotionary goal which im not gonna go into but its obviosuly different from a guys. I would never talk like this to her tho. I am very sweet with her. But when she goes nuts and throws fits at me calmly askig her why she never wants sex, wouldnt u b thinking this stuff if ur head if u were me? But please there is no guy that has sex out of love. Sure sex is great with soemone u love, its better than some random hookup but lets not fool ourselves here. We get horny and we get our rocks off. You think otherwise ur very naeve. my gf turns me on and i love her and then i wanna have sex with her. Take away the love part i still would wanna have sex with her. I like women im attracted to them and i have hormones and good sex drive cuz im young so i wanna do stuff with women. Thats how it is.

On a side note, how many girls date macho jerks and sleeep with them all the time? Lots! Im pretty sure they aren't connecting with them on emotionally sexual level. I think im just not doin it for her in the sack cuz of my PE. But maybe im wrong alot of u on here dont seem to think thats it cuz she is having orgasms. Or maybe she just doesnt need sex mor ethan oce a week and doesnt like to inititate. She always used to initiate so that cant b true tho so i dunno