[supersayan]

Thanks for your comments guys, especially Dr T. I am in no shape or form conservative or borig in the bedroom, I am a firm believer that sex needs to remain exciting and are always up for trying new things. I have suggested watching porn together but my partner is reluctant. I get the feeling it is HIS personal thing and would like to keep it that way. He says to me that he doesnt want to watch other girls he woudl rather concentrate on me during the moment which i suppose i should be glad about but i feel skeptical about his answer as i feel it was a fob off more than anything. He tells me the orgasms get better and better and we did discuss what fantasies he had.. which i am more than happy to facilitate as they are nothing too imaginative bless him. I guess it seems confusing why i am complaining about this as i seem to be contradicting myself. I think it is down to laziness and by the way with regards to the porn addiction.. its more like a gaming addiction. He is always on the computer which i believe is selfishness more than anything and i suppose when hes done gaming he just cant be bothered because he has to get up early in the mornings. I have communicated loud and clear so lets see what happens.

[tiffany76]

ok I got to say something........

My husband looked at porn alot my friend suggested something it worked realy well. His porn useage was cut in half. I told him I would love to go down on him or be inside me while he watched and looked at any kind of porn he wanted. I told him I wont judge him or throw it in his face later. He was watching something called inthecrack. I was shocked to see what was making him so hard and beat red. But I kepted my promise and went down on him for starters but when I felt him start to loose it I stopped and told him to do me from behind and keep watching. By the time I turned around I was realy shocked to see a real close up of a petite pretty 18yrd that was spreading her lips open to show how tight she was compared to me and how she was textured for the first 2 to 3 inches inside. It bothered me but I played along and said i'll sqweeze you so can pretend your inside her. As I did this I would say babe you can look at here vagina as you cum if you want and I'll work my muscles. He exploted like never berfore and laying there with his knees feeling weak he asked why did you let me do that. I told him I wanted to be apart of what you injoy and like making it even more intence for you. Then I only one concern I had, I asked was it from a paysite cuz if thats the case it's legal porn and he showed me what site and that she was 18 named Alexis Luv or something. But this opened doors for me share my fantasys and have him do what I want to do. His porn watching was only when we did something and sometime he said lets keep it off this time. Hearing that made feel even better.

[Hopeless Dork]

I'm speechless. First. Time. Ever.

[rcoreyus]

Tiffany76 - I hope he does things to satisfy your fantasies as well. If so, then great for both of you. If not, then this sounds rather one-sided.

[stressed]

I'm rather shocked by this. My heart beats faster out of anger towards this man and I had to light a cigarette. I'm sorry, just had to say it.

[WildChild]

Rcoreyus you are master of understatement.
Tiffany dear, I suggest that next time around, for some variety, you switch roles. Find something with a simply to die for man in it and let your loving hubby return the favor by doing you while you fantasize that you are with the hunk on the screen.
Maybe you can "explode like never before.

See how that goes over?

[stressed]

Rcoreyus you are master of understatement.
Tiffany dear, I suggest that next time around, for some variety, you switch roles. Find something with a simply to die for man in it and let your loving hubby return the favor by doing you while you fantasize that you are with the hunk on the screen.
Maybe you can "explode like never before.

See how that goes over?

My God, I agree. Please try it. Seriously.

[WildChild]

I'm betting - totally limp response.

[racer]

Hi All,

I need a little help and advice from the guys of this world or even girls with similar experiences.
I have been with my partner for little over a year and have a big problem with the lack of sex in the relationship.
My partner tells me that his sex drive is lower than mine yet he always manages to masturbate each day when I am not around. He knows how upset i get about this as i feel he is choosing to satisfy his needs alone than consider mine. If we were having sex on a regular basis, his masturbation to porn or celebrities wouldnt be such an issue. We have discussed this many times but it doesnt seem to change anything. When we have sex, it is amazing and we both agree on that. I am so open when it comes to sex that i seem to have more fantasies than him ;-/. I get the fact that sometimes you guys just want to get a quick release but surely not in favour of the real thing 9 times out of 10. I can guarantee that if i was to stay in all day with him he would not initiate sex and would stay on the computer all night. Yet its funny that the minute i am out of the door hes using porn. He deletes the computer history too but i have my ways. He is still very affectionate to me and attracted to me. I havent put on weight etc and without blowing my trumpet i am desired by quite a few other guys too including his friends and workmates. If this was role reversal i would wanna make sure i took care of my blokes needs if i wanted a future with him. This is really getting me down and i am actually considering ending the relationship so he can continue to use the computer for his needs without me sitting around like a lemon. It makes me feel like he is not as attracted to me as he rather stare at pictures of a half naked cheryl cole all night. What am i doing wrong or what should i do?

Firstly you state he has a lower sex drive than yours but he masturbates each day. I am assuming from this that you are happy to / want to have sex with him at east once (if not more) a day? If this is the casethen I would say you have a problem you need to address with your BF.

I have a very high sex drive (i'd be happy to do it at leats 3-4 times EVERY day) and don't mind a bit of porn but would never prefer porn over the real thing and would probbably never look at porn if I was getting sex every day ........even if only once a day.