[SinisterUrge]

Thank you for setting the bar so low that even the psychiatrically unstable still have a shot at love.

[cubanlink]

i read everything you guys posted. you guys have changed my way of thinking. im glad you guys opened my eyes and im trying to be more secure about myself and actually think and not just react to sex. i wanna be able to figure her out. be hard for her everytime. its hard.

[WildChild]

I would be very surprised if you get an opportunity to "figure her out" at anything closer than 30 feet away. You blew it - big time. If she ever lets you back inside her door, forget in to her body, you'll be doing good. Work on yourself, your attitude and remember that sex isn't about YOU, it's about a shared experience.

[Guest]

Maybe give her an explanation for your actions.

Depending on the woman, I doubt that she is scarred for life...but that was a terrible thing to do.

Lay off the drugs and lay off the viagra...seriously. They are doing way more harm than good.

[Hopeless Dork]

Maybe give her an explanation for your actions.

Please do this. Please swallow your pride (its whats causing many of your problems anyway) and tell her that you worry you may be inadequate because she has experienced a larger man. That you think about being 'good enough' so much it distracts from your erection... that its not HER fault.

When you get an erection all that extra blood flows to your members... when you start to think about your fears, anxieties your heart starts to beat faster, that blood is pulled away. Kind of like if you were having sex and someone snuck in behind you and put a gun to your head... your erection would go -bye bye... because your FEAR overrides your arrousal.

That is what is happening here, in my opinion. You are so worried and thinking about trying to outdo mr. 8 inches that you are missing the point of why you are having sex in the first place. To feel pleasure, to give her pleasure. And penetration with your penis is only a tiny fraction of that.

Theres the foreplay, the afterplay, the touches and caresses, the kisses, all the sensations that feel good.

Right now, she probably feels terrible. If you made it seem like she was 'loose' 'too wet' basically used up and ruined because she was with a man bigger than you (rediculous anyway -- vagina is a muscle with elasticity... babies bigger than any 8 inch penis come out of many women -- and they bounce back from that -- her parts are not ruined by being with a guy with a big penis).

You took all your feelings of insecurity and thrust them upon her, transference... it likely doesn't make you feel any better to have her feeling gross about herself.

Even if you guys can't work it out in a relationship, do the good human thing and at least attempt to correct the damage your own fear likely caused.

[Millania]

I agree with HD , poor girlfriend of yours oh my goodness! so did you 2 finally talk?
I hope you can become more comfortable in your own skin and not feel so insecure about size. Most of us women are not praying that our guy turns out to be 8inches!
If we love you for who you are, your personality, your qualities? we can be totally smitten with 6 inches-especially if you use it right-not just wham bam thank you ma'am, caress her, kiss her, make her feel special, girls LOVE foreplay-stop focusing on "I hope I am hard enough"
I would take her out to dinner, make her feel special again, and make sure you explain to her that it was not her fault you walked out, let her know it was your own insecurities and that you felt inadequate I guarantee you she will respect you so much for being honest with her good luck!

[cubanlink]

guys im not a bad person!!!!!!! im having issues and it has to do with what all you guys are saying... i spoke to her about everything i cried and everything and she says she knows its not her and i told her its not her and i told her im having issues thinkin if im good enough if you enjoy etc. and she said to me i love you when your soft and i love you when your hard i love you regarless.
last night : she grabbed my penis by surprise knowing i was soft and overthinking stuff and told me i am lucky to be with you and i love you remember that, i will be here for you always, and that made me feel amazing but one day to the next its not gonna fix its issue.
i know its me and only me. i was just telling you guys abouy my experience.
i dont wanna think about it, i wanna BE ABLE TO START KISSING AND DOING FOREPLAY AND BE READY FOR HER! THATS ALL>>>AND IM NEVER READY WHEN IT COMES DOWN TO IT><

[MissReign]

A few things darlin.

Women like confident men.

This is going to sound harsh but oh well. Tough love.

You need to act like a man. A confident, secure man. Worrying about the size of another's man's penis is childish.

And learn to be sensitive.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

guys im not a bad person!!!!!!! im having issues and it has to do with what all you guys are saying...

i spoke to her about everything i cried and everything and she says she knows its not her and i told her its not her and i told her im having issues thinkin if im good enough if you enjoy etc. and she said to me i love you when your soft and i love you when your hard i love you regarless.
last night : she grabbed my penis by surprise knowing i was soft and overthinking stuff and told me i am lucky to be with you and i love you remember that, i will be here for you always, and that made me feel amazing but one day to the next its not gonna fix its issue.
i know its me and only me. i was just telling you guys abouy my experience.
i dont wanna think about it, i wanna BE ABLE TO START KISSING AND DOING FOREPLAY AND BE READY FOR HER! THATS ALL>>>AND IM NEVER READY WHEN IT COMES DOWN TO IT><

cubanlink, sometimes our actions are from re-actions.

Duly noted that you have spoken to her and expressed your feelings, and what happened and why.

We do not JUDGE people on this Forum, although suggestions, thoughts and opinions will always be spoken, how else can we express what we see, that you may need to see.

No, your not a bad person, but you do have to forget someone's past because ultimately that's your insecurity, fear and there doesn't have to be that there.

She has told you she LOVES you. It's you, the person. She gets wet, it's you the person..

My suggestion is to only look at her, think about her, not the sex act. There is no score pointing with love.. Only the feeling of love.

CW

[PJhavinfunagain]

You are a lucky man, stop worrying about your size and her past. Just Live, Love, and Laugh!