[a.lynn]

Hey everyone. Ive been having a really hard time the last year or so..Im Bi sexual and I feel like I cant tell any of my friends or family. I decided to just brush it off and act %100 straight, but lately I find myself attratcted to women much more then men. I have been with women and men but I find that my attraction towards the different sex's often changes. Illl be attracted to guys, and then a few months later ill be attracted to girls. Im seriously so confused. If I really was bisexual would I be feeling like this? Or would i just know. I feel like I have no one to talk to in my own life, I dont think people would understand, which is why I came on here..I could use some help. Anyone in the same boat?
thanks everyone. xo

[xxstarzxxrockxx]

Yes! I'm in the exact same boat, I'd say. In my situation, I lost my virginity to a guy when I was eighteen. But I'm, now, nearly twenty-four, and haven't lost it to a woman yet. Everytime I go on dating sites, though, to find a female, I end up finding another man to be intimate with. And, although I like jacking men off, I don't feel anything during sex with them, except sometimes disgust. But physical things about them I am attracted to, like dimples, eyes, c**k, lol! I also thought I could brush it aside, when it was clear that my mom didn't want to talk about it, and was disgusted whenever I brought it up. And my dad is kind of standoffish, too. Plus, I recently became a mother, so I thought I would be judged for being a bisexual mother, maybe. So I pushed it aside, but it still comes back, almost stronger than before. If my son was going through the same thing, though, I would encourage him to open up to me about it. That's why it bugs me that my parents act like it's wrong and I can control it, and not make it happen. So I know exactly how you feel! I think, if you were gay or straight, you would just know. But being bisexual is just a constant, "I want a man tonight", "I want a woman tomorrow night" kind of a thing

[sallyskellington]

I'm bi but married. Honestly best advice I can give you is be you. Most likely your friends will except it. Family may be different. All I can say is you dont need to tell them unless you become in a commited relationship with a woman. And not for nothing if people dont like it. Fudge em!

[a.lynn]

thanks for the adivice guys ! Its nice to know im not alone and that being confused it normal. Its just annoying not knowing what i want...i would be scared to date a guy because i would fear that my attraction may fade and i would want a woman or vice versa. Relationships scare me lol, im nearly 20 and have never been in one for over a month. again, thank u!

[Mes T]

Well you know that can apply to strictly straight relationships, too. I could be scared to date a guy cuz a month later I might be attracted to someone else instead.

Just be with whomever you find that chemistry with. If it works out, great, if not, moving on.

[xxstarzxxrockxx]

Yeah, I don't do relationships, either. Never have. Probably for that reason, and that I don't want someone attached to my hip(except my son, of course) Maybe it is a bisexual trait, though, or you need a man that's going to be cool with you seeing a woman on the side...

[p3375]

Ok, a.lyn and xxstars - Have you guys been reading my mind!?

I've known I was attracted to women since around 16/17, but like guys as well. What's wierd to me is that my preferance seems to change back and forth over time. Some times I wish I could be either str8 or gay, or at least lean one way or the other. But nooooo - this month I may be interested in a girl, next month a guy. I was married for years and, for at least some of that time wanted only my husband.

I do 'do relationships'. As MesT said, str8 or bi or gay, one can always fall into and out of them. Or be completely monogaminous with them. Sexual desire doesn't mean ya will cheat or break up necessarily. Tho, I'll admit, being bi does enlarge the pool of alternatives

Anyway, I'm 35 today (happi b.day to me!!) and the desire for women has lessened not one bit. I do care less and less about what other folks think, but have not formally told many of my fam and friends. To be honest, most 'know' anyway. Where I live and work is very conservative, and I'm in a fairly public job. If I were to be too blatient or 'up front' with my sexuality, my so-called carrier would def suffer.

[xxstarzxxrockxx]

Happy Birthday, p3375! I guess, I was reading your mind; I'm pretty good at that, lol! No, it doesn't mean you'll cheat on him, if you're with a man. But you might still yearn for a woman, or imagine it's a woman licking you down there, instead of him, while he's giving you head...

[xxstarzxxrockxx]

P.s. That sux, that your job would suffer, if you were open and honest about it. Oh, and when I was pregnant, I didn't want a woman at all. But, a few months after giving birth, it came back... WTF?

[p3375]

I think it's called hormones. Some times I feel I have no free will at all, just mindlessly obeying whatever hormone rush is driving me on any particular day
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