[DrJ]

Medical and biblical fact

St Paul says: The marriage bed is holy in all. It is not defiled.

The anus is designed for dilation and contraction. In countries with proper amounts of fiber in the diet, the average is seven (7) stools per day. This without anal leakage.

The pelvic floor muscles are very similar and related around the anus and the vaginal vestibule.

When done foolishly(like anything) anal sex can cause damage to the anal canal mucosa. This would be from too little lube, too little patience, and too little brains.

Housewife must be Muslim. Her God is all punishment and no love.

If we are made in God's image, then he is capabe of a great deal of love and compassion.

[Uneeklyme]

scarry...

how little actual facts are written into some comments. There is a catch phrase going around my job... perception is reality. UHG. Ones perception may be their reality but it does not make it fact.

Some facts on anal sex.

It does not cause what some have termed "anal leakage" unless its not done properly. If its forced and brutal it could cause damage to the sensitive tissue or sphincter. Think of the sphincter like a rubber band. It stretches and contracts but if its damaged it loses its ability to do so reliably. I am not talking about how a rubber band wont rebound to its original size when its stretched over long periods of time either. Anal sex happens then its done. The in between allows the muscle to contract to their original shape/size. So, avoid the damage.

Go sloooooowwww. Start small and work up to the size of penis thats being inserted. If it hurts, STOP. Breath deep and relax as much as possible. Sometimes bearing down during insertion helps. (I say sometimes not always and not everyone either) A BIG must... LUBE, LUBE, and more LUBE. There is no such thing as to much. Water based or silicone based depending on preference is fine. I know anal eez was created for anal sex but its a bad idea. It has a numbing effect for him and her. If you cant feel the pain then how will you know something might be wrong? Even if there is no pain, how does numb help pleasure? Stay far away from anything that is desensitizing or numbing. On that note, icy hot and its counterparts are also really bad ideas.

Another thing thats needed for anal sex. Trust. Trust that your partner will listen to you if you say stop or no. Trust that they have your pleasure as well as theirs in mind and will treat this experience with the utmost respect. Trust that he will not "turn gay" for the experience. ( personal opinion, if he "turns gay" he was already gay and hiding it) and just because its enjoyable if done right does not mean vaginal sex will never happen again. Most men I talk to even tho they enjoy anal sex occasionally prefer vaginal sex mostly. Communicate with your partner. Tell them your fears and work through them together. If there is any doubt he is not in this for you just as much for himself... dont do it. Well, dont do it unless your totally in it for you =) I know, double standard but he isnt the one that could potentially be harmed by this.

Yes, the risk of infection is higher. Lets face it, waste comes from there. If your clean and ready the risk is pretty minimal. There are things you can do to prepare. Try to have a bowel movement at least two hours before. Shower afterwards and wash the area thouroughly. If your not certain, wash it again. Some people like to take other steps to ensure a pleasurable and clean experience. After haveing a bowl movement some people cleanse themselves with enemas. If this is a preference then there are some good cheap, effective tools on the market. Bulb syringes work. Fleets makes enemas but be sure to empty the fleets solution out and use only warm tap water. No soap or other chemicals. These things irritate the lining and could just make a bigger mess. Remember though what your are doing and where and that **** happens. If your going into this expecting anything less then prepare for a rude awakening.

A couple other little tid bits. Foreplay is as important in anal sex as vaginal sex. Being excited and receptive helps. An orgasm before attempting anal penetration can help as well. Licking and nibbling are incredibly stimulating and enjoyable. Yes, im talking about the anus. There are tons of nerves in the area and a good bout of oral foreplay is amazing. Men enjoy anal as well. Having done to them I mean. Follow the same guidlines. Again, no, this will not "turn him gay" if anything, it might bring you closer together as a couple and could potentially help him avoid prostate issues.

No, your butt cheeks will not get bigger because of anal sex. I have worked in the medical profession for 15 years and not one single time have I ever saw "anal leakage" except for the time cancer ate through the lining between the vagina and anus. There was leaking there. Google anal sex. There are some great resources on the net. I personally practice anal sex and absolutely love it. No, my partner is not gay, no, havent had a leakage issue ever and no, my butt was big to begin with. =)

On a final note... I was under the impression that anal sex was a common practice between muslim men?

[Sure_knot]

My wife wears size "0" jeans about 1 in 10 times we have anal sex it has not made her butt bigger if anything its smaller then when we married 25 years ago. Anal sex usually happens when shes on top and I play with her butt with my fingers She likes to control the entry and pace as she becomes aroused and approaches orgasm I'm just trying to keep up. Some one said bearing down makes entry easier she has told me the same thing This has become a special thing for us and is quite intimate and enjoyable for both of us There is nothing two people do together that brings them closer and brings enjoyment that could possibly be wrong.

[Private.Flangeamin]

I have had anal sex before and I promise it does not make your butt bigger. It does hurt at first but after a while its not so bad. Its definally not something I like to do all the time though!! Also keep in mind, your vaginal muscles are stretched during sex. Well, so is your anal wall during anal sex....believe me I have seen the affects of too much anal sex (I work in healthcare). These muscles do weaken too, and just the same as women some times having leaky bladder problems because of weakened muscles. It can happen in the anus too!!

You work in health-care jenny but obviously you could have any job from working in old peoples home ect to just about anything .

Im quite surprised at some of your comments, not that the fact that you have have had anal sex, i have also with my ex boyfriend , i know a lot of men prefer anal sex if thier wives have given birth . I havent given birth but my ex told me that it felt the same as the vagina .

the thing is jenny im surprised to didnt give a condom a mention as this is HIGHLY risky becouse of the proximity of the opening of the vagina to the anal opening germs/bacteria can EASILY enter the vagina travel upwards and cause PID (pelvic inflammatory Disease) even with a condom it is very risky for a woman ...that condom must be carefully removed before vaginal sex and fingers ect must be clean . Im very surprised you didnt talk about this ...I had PID and very lucky to still be here i was exceptionally ill in hospital so there is a warning to woman !! its impossible unless you are in clar daylight you are able to see what you are doing , able to dispose of things hygenically, cleaning hands ect before fingers or anything goes NEAR the entrance of the vagina or urethra (infection in urethra ) if women are messing around in this way then we are talking about problems or expecting them ? which could mean colonoscopies ect its very easy to damage and tear tissue . Women need to be reminded that vagina is the place for a penis and that any other orrifice is at thier own risk !!

[Private.Flangeamin]

how little actual facts are written into some comments. There is a catch phrase going around my job... perception is reality. UHG. Ones perception may be their reality but it does not make it fact.

Some facts on anal sex.

It does not cause what some have termed "anal leakage" unless its not done properly. If its forced and brutal it could cause damage to the sensitive tissue or sphincter. Think of the sphincter like a rubber band. It stretches and contracts but if its damaged it loses its ability to do so reliably. I am not talking about how a rubber band wont rebound to its original size when its stretched over long periods of time either. Anal sex happens then its done. The in between allows the muscle to contract to their original shape/size. So, avoid the damage.

Go sloooooowwww. Start small and work up to the size of penis thats being inserted. If it hurts, STOP. Breath deep and relax as much as possible. Sometimes bearing down during insertion helps. (I say sometimes not always and not everyone either) A BIG must... LUBE, LUBE, and more LUBE. There is no such thing as to much. Water based or silicone based depending on preference is fine. I know anal eez was created for anal sex but its a bad idea. It has a numbing effect for him and her. If you cant feel the pain then how will you know something might be wrong? Even if there is no pain, how does numb help pleasure? Stay far away from anything that is desensitizing or numbing. On that note, icy hot and its counterparts are also really bad ideas.

Another thing thats needed for anal sex. Trust. Trust that your partner will listen to you if you say stop or no. Trust that they have your pleasure as well as theirs in mind and will treat this experience with the utmost respect. Trust that he will not "turn gay" for the experience. ( personal opinion, if he "turns gay" he was already gay and hiding it) and just because its enjoyable if done right does not mean vaginal sex will never happen again. Most men I talk to even tho they enjoy anal sex occasionally prefer vaginal sex mostly. Communicate with your partner. Tell them your fears and work through them together. If there is any doubt he is not in this for you just as much for himself... dont do it. Well, dont do it unless your totally in it for you =) I know, double standard but he isnt the one that could potentially be harmed by this.

Yes, the risk of infection is higher. Lets face it, waste comes from there. If your clean and ready the risk is pretty minimal. There are things you can do to prepare. Try to have a bowel movement at least two hours before. Shower afterwards and wash the area thouroughly. If your not certain, wash it again. Some people like to take other steps to ensure a pleasurable and clean experience. After haveing a bowl movement some people cleanse themselves with enemas. If this is a preference then there are some good cheap, effective tools on the market. Bulb syringes work. Fleets makes enemas but be sure to empty the fleets solution out and use only warm tap water. No soap or other chemicals. These things irritate the lining and could just make a bigger mess. Remember though what your are doing and where and that **** happens. If your going into this expecting anything less then prepare for a rude awakening.

A couple other little tid bits. Foreplay is as important in anal sex as vaginal sex. Being excited and receptive helps. An orgasm before attempting anal penetration can help as well. Licking and nibbling are incredibly stimulating and enjoyable. Yes, im talking about the anus. There are tons of nerves in the area and a good bout of oral foreplay is amazing. Men enjoy anal as well. Having done to them I mean. Follow the same guidlines. Again, no, this will not "turn him gay" if anything, it might bring you closer together as a couple and could potentially help him avoid prostate issues.

No, your butt cheeks will not get bigger because of anal sex. I have worked in the medical profession for 15 years and not one single time have I ever saw "anal leakage" except for the time cancer ate through the lining between the vagina and anus. There was leaking there. Google anal sex. There are some great resources on the net. I personally practice anal sex and absolutely love it. No, my partner is not gay, no, havent had a leakage issue ever and no, my butt was big to begin with. =)

On a final note... I was under the impression that anal sex was a common practice between muslim men?

Just like to make a couple of comments . You have worked in the medical profession for 15 years im afraid by your comments i would disagree ...agin no mention of PID for the woman and infections of urinary tract...why didnt you mention this ??? You have placed a question mark after your comment about Muslim men of course it is and you really should have known that if you were who you said you were , it isbetween muslim men who date non Muslim women too !! and also between hetrosexuals (not all of course ) this is about a man understanding EXACTLY the dangers he is putting his wife or partner in and her understanding that if any bacteria is present around in the vagina ect and your having vaginal sex orr insertion of fingers anything ect you are just pushing that bacteria further upwards towards the cervix also the nearer to a menstral period this happens, when the cervix is beginning to open (before a period) is a sure bet for PID and potential LOSS OF FERTILITY ....if this paractise is more interesting than vaginal sex for the man i suggest he goes and indulges with a MALE ..the syringes ect enemas is not a romantic or sexy thought for most women . niether is being under sedation having colonoscopies and cystoscopies like i had too ..there is NO PLEASURE in that !!

[lexi]

Who made you God? Why in the world do you ms. housewife think you can judge anyone? That is God's job isnt it? You are a nutcase and are full of wrong information. Anal sex does not turn anyone gay...People don't turn gay they just are gay...I think you are completely crazy.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Who made you God? Why in the world do you ms. housewife think you can judge anyone? That is God's job isnt it? You are a nutcase and are full of wrong information. Anal sex does not turn anyone gay...People don't turn gay they just are gay...I think you are completely crazy.

I think she is so upset about STD's as she suffers from it she is venting in all the wrong directions ie) you are wrong, and you are wrong, which is wrong, and well they may know a lot, but where a simple line like, " don't forget also STD's, take it from me, it's not worth not being protected"..... may be more worthwhile information to get across for your cause~ PF.

I'll ad this so the two that you posted to PF, don't really get as offended as you um, actually sounded..... as i am sure you will see that when you return.

[Uneeklyme]

Just like to make a couple of comments . You have worked in the medical profession for 15 years im afraid by your comments i would disagree

Disagree all you want. much of my information is based on medical facts and professional medical/personal experience not personal belief. Who are you to say I am not who I say I am... housewife. You too should know much of the information I gave is medically correct given that you study under a Phd.

...agin no mention of PID for the woman and infections of urinary tract...why didnt you mention this ???

Maybe because I was posting on the how to of anal sex. Trying to explain that there are things that could be done to make it pleasurable and not painful while attempting to dispel some myths based again on personal belief.

You have placed a question mark after your comment about Muslim men of course it is and you really should have known that if you were who you said you were , it isbetween muslim men who date non Muslim women too !! and also between hetrosexuals (not all of course )

I placed a question mark after a question. Sue me. Again, you question that I am not who I say I am and again, who do you think you are to do so housewife? (pesky question mark)

this is about a man understanding EXACTLY the dangers he is putting his wife or partner in and her understanding that if any bacteria is present around in the vagina ect and your having vaginal sex orr insertion of fingers anything ect you are just pushing that bacteria further upwards towards the cervix also the nearer to a menstral period this happens, when the cervix is beginning to open (before a period) is a sure bet for PID and potential LOSS OF FERTILITY

Your right. PID (pelvic inflammatory disease) is caused by bacteria being pushed high into the vagina or into the uterus through the cervix. It spreads to the fallopian tubes and causes a nasty infection. PID could result in loss of fertility. However, PID is not solely causes by bacteria transfering to the vagina during anal sex. Yes, this could happen but hopefully people have common sense enough not to go from anal to vaginal without washing first. A condom is a good idea especially if your squicked out by potential mess or dont feel like interupting sex to wash up. Just take the condom off. Most adults know how to dispose of a condom. Also, using a condom is recommended as a precaution against STI or other potential infections. I never said potential for infection wasnt present. Having sex during menstration does not guarentee infection. Any kind of bacteria could potentially cause infection at any time. A PID can be caused by douching which changes the flora in the vagina and invites infection in. The bacteria could come from anywhere right down to perfumes in soap.

....if this paractise is more interesting than vaginal sex for the man i suggest he goes and indulges with a MALE

For alot of men its interesting and different but not more interesting than vaginal sex. *shrug* A matter of personal opinion I guess.

..the syringes ect enemas is not a romantic or sexy thought for most women

I never said it was nor did I say use it as something to turn anyone on or make them feel sexy or use it as a sexy thought.

niether is being under sedation having colonoscopies and cystoscopies like i had too ..there is NO PLEASURE in that !!

Im sorry you had to go through this due to whatever your cicumstances were. However, these things are not normal after effects of anal sex. Colonoscopies are advised for everyone over 40. They are a great preventative maintainence much like pap smears and pelvic exams but pleasurable they are not. Neither are cystoscopies or laparoscopic proceedures which im sure you had when you had your PID since it's a diagnostic exam for such things. They do suck but they are not solely used because someone had anal sex.

[Uneeklyme]

I think she is so upset about STD's as she suffers from it she is venting in all the wrong directions ie) you are wrong, and you are wrong, which is wrong, and well they may know a lot, but where a simple line like, " don't forget also STD's, take it from me, it's not worth not being protected"..... may be more worthwhile information to get across for your cause~ PF.

I'll ad this so the two that you posted to PF, don't really get as offended as you um, actually sounded..... as i am sure you will see that when you return.

I agree. I probably should have put more information about infection and ways to prevent them in my post. I also don't disagree with her about PID and other potential infections. I really don't take offense to her stand on it. She is allowed to believe however she chooses as am I or anyone else. I don't appreciate the personal attack though and am inclined to point that fact out. IE: not who or what I say I am. Other than that whatever floats the boat I guess.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I agree. I probably should have put more information about infection and ways to prevent them in my post. I also don't disagree with her about PID and other potential infections. I really don't take offense to her stand on it. She is allowed to believe however she chooses as am I or anyone else. I don't appreciate the personal attack though and am inclined to point that fact out. IE: not who or what I say I am. Other than that whatever floats the boat I guess.

No i don't believe that you should have at all, as why should you be thinking so deep about a subject in it's totality? That was not the subject...

I also think that if people can not handle a certain subject then they should refrain from replying as they only end up in "enemy waters" ...

Yes, people can believe what they want, and take what they want and as i said, a simply reply of "but what about this as well STD" is all that may be required to get a message across! I think! My Opinion....

So i do absolutely agree no one has the right to "JUDGE" yet again, .....

CW