[stressed]

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[pretzel]

Is he that out of shape that anything makes him tired (answer - no)

He most certainly needs to listen and understand what it is that's missing and why this is really bothering you.

[pretzel]

What annoys me to death is that his job is physical. He uses his arms to carry tons and tons every day, yet he claims his hand gets tired when it's on me. I don't understand this. He's a strong man, he stands up many hours a day at work, he's very good at his job, why is it so difficult to use his strength for 5 minutes on me? I find this very sad and hurtful.

stressed, read you question to yourself as if someone else wrote it. You may find more answers in that than you may be aware of.

Just a thought.

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[pretzel]

I don't know, guys, it happened again. Whenever I move my head he puts it back there. Then he's very sweet and loving with me and says how nice it was.

I don't know what to do, I don't want to hurt his feelings. But it does make sex boring for me the more it happens.

stressed, this is a two way street.

After a while of boring sex, then there will be a point in time (if you're not already there) where you'll start saying "Why bother" then resentment and apathy set in.

You're way too young to have to go down this path.

[kygirl]

stressed, this is a two way street.

After a while of boring sex, then there will be a point in time (if you're not already there) where you'll start saying "Why bother" then resentment and apathy set in.

You're way too young to have to go down this path.

I think it also opens the door to make you wonder about the relationship in general and to think about seeking something elsewhere. (not saying you would, but it helps to avoid as much as possible)

I think you're going to have to suck it up and talk to him. He may not realize that you have such strong feelings about it. I think you have to tell him how you feel, see what he says, and then go from there based on the conversation.

Like Pretzel said, this is a two way street. If this is going to work longterm, he is going to have to find some middle ground with you.

Good luck!

[pretzel]

I agree,

The possibility of this spilling over into other aspects of your relationship greatly increases as your satisfaction decreases. The negative overtakes the positives and becomes obsessive. I know, this is me.

The thread about signs of a good relationsip (paraphrasing) talked a great deal about balance not only within oneself, but also balance between partners as a cornerstone to a great relationship. Those are very true correlations.

[rcoreyus]

It is different muscles for doing heavy lifting and using his hands on you (unless you have really unusual tastes ), so his hand might get tired quickly.

But - that just means he needs more practice. Once he as used both hands and his tongue until they cramp its fair for him to take a break - but practice, practice, practice .

If he is in good physical shape (sounds like he is), he should be able to work up to doing this as long as you like.

What annoys me to death is that his job is physical. He uses his arms to carry tons and tons every day, yet he claims his hand gets tired when it's on me. I don't understand this. He's a strong man, he stands up many hours a day at work, he's very good at his job, why is it so difficult to use his strength for 5 minutes on me? I find this very sad and hurtful. His excuse to this is that it's one thing to lift weight and another to do that, but it doesn't make it any less hurtful.

I don't think it's easier to lift weight for hours than move your fingers for a few minutes. Or that it's easier to masturbate a penis than stimulate a clitoris. He disagrees though. Go figure.