[smileygem05]

I don't think I have ever had a orgasm, i have been told - oh you will know when you have one! I have recently made it my mission to enjoy sex & masturbation as much as possible (I don't want to put too much pressure on myself to orgasm but that is the hopeful outcome) anyway, I was using a vibrator and using the orgasm loop technique (which I read about on this site, by the way I have never used a vibrator before today) and it felt great, it felt like my whole body was on fire, my chest, all the way down to the soles of my feet but then it started to feel really sensitive, like if I were to keep going it would be painful. Does this mean I had a orgasm and when it was finished I was too sensitive to continue? If it was NOT one, do I just push past that sensitive / pain threshold? If it was one, it was great but not as awesome as I've heard...any tips would be greatly appreciated.

[jns]

Sounds like it to me. I 'm surprised others haven't chimed in. Slow down before going at it again. If some parts are too sensitive, use indirect stimulation by stimulating close by.

[Beckers]

That happens to me too. Where I feel like my whole body is heating up and about to explode and then all of a sudden I'm too sensitive to touch. I never feel pain, but it gets uncomfortable really fast and as you said, it doesn't seem like what people say it is.

My current bf has made me orgasm a couple times through oral and fingering, but I've never done it during intercourse or through masturbation. So idk there may be something wrong with me. =/

I hope you figure it out too!

[sungem77]

truthfully, it doesnt sound like you had one to me. an orgasm, from my experience is not an experience that most people are uncertain of expereincing. if that makes sense. it sounds like you came close, and that you were on the threshold, which an feel pretty great. when you start to feel really sensitive, just pull back a little. use less pressure, maybe even avoid the clit all together.

[LilahX]

I agree with sungem - I don't think you have either. As you mentioned has been said 'you'd know if you have' and if yr still asking, then I think the answer is 'no'.

I think the sensations you've had are a lead up and I also sometimes get super sensitive and actually when I get to that stage I find it hard to continue to orgasm.

There is NO mistaking an orgasm, everything around you fades into insignificance as an unbelievable pleasure overtakes your body. The saying 'dying of pleasure' is appropriate. You can feel it approaching and the only thing you want is for it to just go on and on.

Maybe cut back on the intensity of the vibrator, it can over-stimulate which is what I think is happening to you. The nerves get overwhelmed but get beyond the point where the actual orgasm response can occur.

Hope you get there soon!

[WildChild]

You can learn to "peak" yourself and then slow it down, reduce the stimulation for a minute or two and then take yourself back up again and again.

[ashleana24]

lack of orgasm

i thought i was the only woman who had no idea "if" i have had an orgasm yet.. I have never felt like eveything else is insignificant.. i have always wondered if it was just me or if the guys i have been with just had no clue. it seems to take forever to even get me wet..
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[shaunzie89]

I think you just got really close but didn't go over the edge. Try not to put too much thoguht or concentrate on the idea of having an orgasm. Often times, I think that if you focus just on that, it won't happen. That's what happens with me at least. Just go with what feels good.

It took me forever to figure out what felt good or how to make myself have one. It just takes time figuring out your body and what works for you. But don't focus on it so much, it will happen when it will happen.

[xxstarzxxrockxx]

Try using your fingers. That way, you'll be able to feel, when you have an orgasm, 'cause the muscles inside you will contract and press your fore and index fingers together. Also, after that happens, if you feel even hornier than before but only for awhile afterwards, then, you've had one.

[PandaPaws]

I feel like I'm in the same boat. There have been a few times where I asked myself "Was that it? THAT is what all the fuss is about?" But then I think maybe it's not. I don't think I've ever truly had a real orgasm