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  • stressed
    Veteran Member
    • Jun 2009
    • 1914

    Eye contact?

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  • jns
    Assistant Admin
    • Mar 2010
    • 8398

    Guys like to close their eyes for many reasons. First most is to fantasize about an ideal situation. This does not mean about another woman. Could be but probably not. Maybe about the shape of the gf's waist and butt. Maybe about her privates. Maybe about her breasts. Maybe about hundreds of different things that, in the right context, turn him on. Keeping the eyes open may take too much brain processing, when the brain is best put to use to reach the point of no return. A mental picture can be better, because it is about something that is a turn on and requires much less processing.

    At the same time, the other senses are heightened by closing of the eyes, similar to turning off the lights, but with the ability to glance out before going back in the fantasy. Touch is heightened, sound is heightened, smell is heightened as is taste. When doing oral, I often like to close my eyes to hear better, smell better and taste better. Many times you are so close to the object of your action, it is out of focus or may be the same scene continuously. No point in looking, except occasionally, get heightened senses instead.

    If a guy is lying on his back, looking up at the lights in the room, he may close his eyes to not have them hurt by the brightness. Women may close their eyes for the same reason. Of course, he could be going to sleep if he is very tired or bored.

    The best time to look directly at the gf, at least in my opinion, is when you are in a kissing session, because you can look directly in your gf's eyes and see the urge to kiss in her. Of course, looking in the gfs eyes when you climax is also a big turn on, especially if she returns the look.
    I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
    ...
    Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

    From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia

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    • ItsASecret
      APRIL 2011 POSTER OF THE MONTH
      • Apr 2009
      • 3721

      My guy has his eyes closed during oral as well. He says it is just to enjoy the feeling which makes sense cause I do the same. However I do not know how often he is closing his eyes or not because I have this insane fear and anxiety of looking at people in their eyes in the first place. Having his penis in his mouth and then looking up is actually quite embarrassing because I am not a 'look at what I am doing' type of girl. During sex he is looking at me or trying to look at my privates, he knows if he looks me in the eyes I will close my eyes soon. Guys are more visual but I guess sometimes they just want to close their eyes feel it through their other senses.
      There are those who believe that dictionaries should not merely reflect the times but also protect English from the mindless assaults of the trendy.

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      • alterview
        Member
        • Oct 2009
        • 47

        to each their own...

        Personally I am a eyes wide open/lights on type of guy. I really enjoy a lot of the visually aspects of sex. It's not always eye contact that I am focused on... When your lover looks at you in that way as a sexy person it is quite a turn on. Also, for me, having a super sexy lover that I adore and love very makes for very pleasing visuals too.

        Stressed-

        I wouldn't stress about it though; to each their own. If you would like more eye contact ask for it in a sexy way. That can be a turn on also.

        cheers!
        Last edited by alterview; 04-28-2010, 08:00 PM. Reason: it...

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        • A Dying Breed
          Senior Member
          • Apr 2010
          • 142

          At least for me, I can't have good sex unless me and the girl can lock eyes with eachother. I'll keep my eyes closed alot during oral (both giving and receiving), but if I'm in the position to face my girl, I'll never take my eyes off hers. Locking eyes during sex is immensely hot.
          They call it PMS because Mad Cow Disease was already taken.

          Girls have unique powers; they get wet without water, bleed without injury and make boneless things hard...

          Women are meant to be loved, not understood.-Oscar Wilde

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          • Rakastaja
            Member
            • Apr 2010
            • 19

            Originally posted by A Dying Breed
            At least for me, I can't have good sex unless me and the girl can lock eyes with each other. [...] I'll never take my eyes off hers. Locking eyes during sex is immensely hot.
            I agree, it is hot for sure... but if I don't lock eyes with my (amazing ) lover: i can still have sex, no doubt!
            His whole body is a complete turn on to me and watching ALL of him is the main reason why I like it better with the light on.
            I am soo done with "having" to close my eyes with the wrong person just so I can fantasize been somewhere else (at least!)
            I believe that closing your eyes at times is great but if my lover was closing his all the time that would probably worry me a bit.
            There is so much to see and watch, I don't want to miss out!
            and btw: if the watching is great it can carry on as your own little porno movie in your head after, for days...

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            • stressed
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              • Jun 2009
              • 1914

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              • Yvee
                Senior Member
                • Apr 2010
                • 141

                I personally always take closed eyes as a good sign. Maybe it has to do with the fact that when I'm in pleasure I close mine, I don't really know. And my boyfriend on doesn't close his eyes at all and it annoys the *** out of me
                But honestly I wouldn't worry about it!

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                • stressed
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                  • Jun 2009
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                  • stressed
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                    • Jun 2009
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