[Hopeless Dork]

Not true. The vagina can become looser after having children. I don't have firsthand knowledge, but, I've heard stories of this from various people. It may not happen to all women, but it does happen to some. After searching online, I see that it happens.

But again... newborns are like 19 inches long and 8 pounds... do you really think her xboyfriend had anything remotely similiar to that?

I am shocked.... at the belief system that a womans vagina can be permantly adversely affected by the size of a boyfriends penis from years prior.


No sex, or very little sex is more liikely to cause a woman to have a slack vagina that even a porn star that has sex with many various penis' a week.

The vagina is a muscle, the squeezing and working of them improves tautness. No kegals, no activity down there... will have a larger chance of leading to atrophy (looseness) than the fact she had sex with a big penis.

I personally think he is trying to punish her for having an exboyfriend with a big penis. That he is so focused on his penis (see other posts) that he cannot see anything else that will help the situation except blaming her for having an exboyfriend with a big one.

On so many of these exact posts from this exact poster we have discussed countless alternatives and ways to make the sex work and a few days later the OP comes back with the exact same question phrased a million ways: My gfs vagina is too wet, its loose... its her exboyfriends big penis' fault right?!

No, its not.

[goose]

A couple of things. What gave you the right to go through her emails? The problem is in your head you even said it. Maybe you need to talk to a doctor about this problem. Your girlfriend sounds like she is a great women you are the one that is having a size issue. just my 2 cents

[cuff]

But again... newborns are like 19 inches long and 8 pounds... do you really think her xboyfriend had anything remotely similiar to that?

I am shocked.... at the belief system that a womans vagina can be permantly adversely affected by the size of a boyfriends penis from years prior.


No sex, or very little sex is more liikely to cause a woman to have a slack vagina that even a porn star that has sex with many various penis' a week.

The vagina is a muscle, the squeezing and working of them improves tautness. No kegals, no activity down there... will have a larger chance of leading to atrophy (looseness) than the fact she had sex with a big penis.

I personally think he is trying to punish her for having an exboyfriend with a big penis. That he is so focused on his penis (see other posts) that he cannot see anything else that will help the situation except blaming her for having an exboyfriend with a big one.

On so many of these exact posts from this exact poster we have discussed countless alternatives and ways to make the sex work and a few days later the OP comes back with the exact same question phrased a million ways: My gfs vagina is too wet, its loose... its her exboyfriends big penis' fault right?!

No, its not.

I've been a member on a lot of different message boards, and I've seen similar questions by guys wondering if the vagina can be stretched by a previous lovers penis. You'd be surprised how many guys wonder. I just know from a previous girlfriend, it's not very likely.

I didn't search any of his posts, so I didn't know what his agenda was. I see it now.

[caterpillar79]

...I've seen similar questions by guys wondering if the vagina can be stretched by a previous lovers penis. You'd be surprised how many guys wonder....

And how do you think most guys view the GF's ex's? Competition, which is actually non-existent?!

Back to the OP - GET OVER it! This girl deserves so much more - love, care, affection, support and understanding. If you cannot give it, because of your insecurity of your penis size, please don't waste her time and yours.

Work on your self-esteem and love what you have, I bet you'll live a happier and a more meaningful love life once you sort this out.

Good luck.

[stressed]

Alright, some facts, because I am tired of reading about how vaginas get "loose" with birth or after sex with "large" guys (excuse the tone, but this is basic biology). You can find the actual links by simply searching through serious medical links, and not take information heard here and there for a fact.

Vaginas are so flexible that not only do they stretch when necessary (e.g. penis size/childbirth) but they can also tighten back. The obsession of men and women about size is purely mental and psychological, except special cases where doctors need to take action. If vaginas did not have this ability then no man would want to have sex with his wife after the first birth of his child, so please, be realistic.


1) "Penile diameter has little physiological effect for the woman because the vagina can gradually adjust to fit a penis of any circumference (remember, it is designed, under the right conditions, to allow a baby to pass through the same opening).

The length of the penis, which determines the depth of vaginal penetration, is relatively unimportant, because it is the first one-third of the vagina that has the most nerve endings and is most responsive to physical stimulation. Penis size may, however, have positive or negative psychological significance to a woman. Some women prefer a large penis; others are put off by what they think is "too large" or "too small". Third, men may feel that a larger penis gives them an element of status and makes them more sexually attractive."

2) Virtually every man forgets that it doesn't matter how long or how short your penis is, because the vagina will accommodate itself to any length.

- The vagina of a woman who hasn't had a child is only 7.5cm (3 inches) long when she's not sexually excited. The figures for women who have had babies are only slightly different.

- Even when aroused, a woman's vagina usually extends only to a length of about 10cm (4 inches).
This means any man's penis will fill her vagina completely, unless you happen to be one of those rare guys with an erect penile length of less than four inches.

You're probably now wondering how the average man with an erection of six inches manages to insert his penis into the vagina at all.

- The vagina has the most remarkable capacity for lengthening if something is introduced into it gradually.

So the exceptional man whose erect penis is eight inches long can still make love to any woman, providing he excites her properly and introduces his organ very slowly. If he does this, her vagina will lengthen by 150 or 200 per cent to accommodate him.

3) The famous sex researchers Masters and Johnson have concluded that size of the male penis can have no true physiological effect on female sexual satisfaction. They base this conclusion on their physiological studies that show that the vagina adapts to fit the size of the penis. Because of this vaginal adaptation, they refer to the vagina as a potential space rather than an actual space.

Thus, despite the worries of many males about the size of their penis, Masters and Johnson concluded that any size penis will fit and provide adequate sexual stimulation to the female. The present study was conducted to see if female college students would report their sexual satisfaction related to penis length, width, or neither.

and a Wikipedia link:

4) The vagina itself is a very elastic environment which can expand on average to ~10 centimetres (4 in) in diameter during childbirth, yet it also easily retains a tampon. Thus a woman's vagina can tightly accommodate most penises from relatively small to large. It will generally accommodate and adjust to the object it surrounds. Discomfort can sometimes be experienced with unusually large objects, but the vagina can, over time, adapt.

According to Louanne Cole Weston, PhD, licensed counselor, and sex therapist, in a May 2002 report by WebMD, Does Penis Size Really Matter?. WebMD (May 27, 2002). Retrieved on 2006-08-04.several misconceptions have developed surrounding penile-vaginal intercourse. Cultural preferences may have enlarged the importance of deep vaginal penetration in obtaining female orgasm.


Conclusion (and something I hate typing here, but I have good intentions): Get over it!

[cubanlink]

guys im talking about i can put 4 fingers horizontal and vertical the time of penetration. soo for my penis feels like im going into a waterfall. understand how its hard for me to pleasure myself as to pleasure her also. how can she feel me when i can stick my fingers in all the way to her walls in lengh i would say close to 8 inches. thats why my penis doesnt tough any of her insides.
understand me!

[Hopeless Dork]

Why do you try to stick 4 fingers inside of her? What is your point there? Its like you are specifically going out of your way to point out to her "hey i think you have a big vagina!" Stick 2 fingers or even 1 and watch her pleasure responses and you will see that she enjoys that much better than you stuffing as much as you can possibly fit inside of her.

If you read what stressed just said the vagina is a POTENTIAL SPACE.. meaning the more you put in there,, the more it can fit in there... ugh... with enough patience i'm sure you could fit even more than that... after all even a baby can go through that space with cervical dialation.

Instead of shoving as much as you possibly can inside of her, focus on making her feel good and allowing her to do the same. You've been blaming her exboyfriends big penis for so long you refused to listen to the numerous suggestions we've given you on several threads for how to make the sex more enjoyable for you guys.

Your agenda is obvious...you want to play the blame game and she's the target. Do you want this to get better? Or do you just want to keep on with her exbf had a big penis she's ruined now. That is one, physically impossible and 2 not moving your relationship forward to a better place.

[stressed]

Does she use sex toys (or other things) often? This is not caused by her ex, it is either a medical condition or a current frequent use of large objects. If you can insert almost your hand during penetration it is not normal and I'd advise her to have an exam. It is one thing to be able to insert a couple of fingers during penetration, but the way you describe it does not make it seem normal (even though I still have some doubts about this whole situation, as you 'may' be overreacting here).

If you cannot enjoy sex with her at all then you have to consider breaking up with her, because obviously this harms you both as a man and a person. You already went through her emails, you already have confidence issues because her ex was larger, sex does not get any better, so this affects you in a larger scale.

[stressed]

Why do you try to stick 4 fingers inside of her? What is your point there? Its like you are specifically going out of your way to point out to her "hey i think you have a big vagina!" Stick 2 fingers or even 1 and watch her pleasure responses and you will see that she enjoys that much better than you stuffing as much as you can possibly fit inside of her.

If you read what stressed just said the vagina is a POTENTIAL SPACE.. meaning the more you put in there,, the more it can fit in there... ugh... with enough patience i'm sure you could fit even more than that... after all even a baby can go through that space with cervical dialation.

Instead of shoving as much as you possibly can inside of her, focus on making her feel good and allowing her to do the same. You've been blaming her exboyfriends big penis for so long you refused to listen to the numerous suggestions we've given you on several threads for how to make the sex more enjoyable for you guys.

Your agenda is obvious...you want to play the blame game and she's the target. Do you want this to get better? Or do you just want to keep on with her exbf had a big penis she's ruined now. That is one, physically impossible and 2 not moving your relationship forward to a better place.

I very much agree with HD as well. Inserting as many things as you can in her does not mean it will make sex better, on the contrary, both for you and for her.

But it has reached a point now that this is all you think about, whether it is your size or hers, and this is not healthy. You can probably insert many objects into a vagina, over time, and maybe she is like that because you insert 4 fingers plus penetration. I don't know if you subconsciously try to compete with her ex as to "who makes her feel the most" or if you believe that the more you insert the more she will feels.

We've talked about this before here.

[heryseshta]

I can't believe that she is still with you, considering you are constantly looking for ways to say that she is too stretched out for you. And you went snooping through her stuff? I would never tolerate that!
As for your size...It shouldn't be a problem. I was with a very big guy for a while, he was 9 inches. Now I'm with a guy about 6.5 inches...I find him more satisfying because he hits all of the best spots inside of me and he knows exactly what angles make me feel the best.
The problem seems to be all you, get over it! You are the one making yourself smaller by not even thinking about the person you are having sex with. You start stressing and shrinking.
You keep getting the same advice when you post the same question...Maybe you should actually listen to what is being said this time.