[rag doll]

I've noticed that whenever my bf wants a bj he just simply asks for it.. like he doesn't even say please. Last time he was sort of kissing me in the areas that drive me crazy and then I asked him if he wanted a bj and all he said was yes. There was also this time where I wanted to feel his without a condom and then I changed my mind and his attitude changed and all of a sudden he was mad and he told me I could've done it quick. I got mad and I told him why he was being that way and he said he was joking, and so I told him I don't take that as a joke. Everytime I finish blowing him he doesn't say "thankyou" or "that was great".. all he does is sit there and watch TV and it doesn't bug me that much but I'd like to be shown some appreciation just like any other person. I'd just really like to know why he is this way. Could it be that I don't satisfy him?

[PandaPaws]

Does he say anything while you are giving him head? Like, "oh that feels so good" or "yes, just like that"? I think it is important for YOU to know if he is enjoying himself, because, if he's not, then you need to know how and what specifically he likes. Slow or fast, a lot of hand, cupping the balls, rubbing his perineum, using a lot of tongue, whatever.
Maybe start by asking him after you, or should I say he, finished "So, did you like that?" or "how did that feel?" or "do like it when I do [whatever technique you do] or [other technique] better?" Hopefully he will let you know what he likes and how great it feels. Then, maybe say something like "Okay, i just wanted to make sure, because I don't get a whole lot of feedback from you, and I want to make sure I'm satisfying you. It makes me feel good to do that for you."

[Mes T]

To me your man sounds like he's taking you completely for granted. Frankly if my boyfriend just watched TV during or right afterward, I would feel dirty, kind of like a you-know-what for hire, and I would never want to do that for him again.

Seriously. You are a sexual being who deserves to be acknowledged, and what you do for him deserves to be reciprocated.

Maybe it's time to reevaluate what you want from a relationship.

[Guest]

Mest T is absolutely correct. Dump him.

[pittsburgh44]

I am NOT the person that should be replying to this because i'm getting married to somebody who does NOTHING but lay there 1-3 days a month and basically "allows me" to have sex with her. I haven't had a bj in 4 years and previous to being with my fiance i've been with upwards of 80 females (yeah, i wish i wasn't like that but hey, college was fun!), so for me it's a very difficult path to go down. BUT, if I were to get a bj from her for even 5-10 seconds i'd do and say everything possible out of hopes that it might continue.

This isn't a sexual question, it's an " or not an " question! And this is just a case of him being, an ! I'm not saying he is one, but in this scenario, he is, it's not you.

[healthy]

I asked my wife for bj a couple of times. Finally she agreed to have a try. But it was a bad experience. She choked a couple of time. I know she was very uncomfortable. It wasn't very fun to me either. So we never tried again. I guess you have to communicate with your boy friend about your feeling.

[GlassDaemon]

I asked my wife for bj a couple of times. Finally she agreed to have a try. But it was a bad experience. She choked a couple of time. I know she was very uncomfortable. It wasn't very fun to me either. So we never tried again. I guess you have to communicate with your boy friend about your feeling.

Lol, I'm not very good at 'em either, but the boyfriend has never had a problem letting me practice on him. XD I choke occasionally, but we move on. I don't know that I've gotten any better, his taste is hard for me to get passed. Think I'm ganna talk to him about eating more fruits, see if I can't bypass that little problem hump I'm caught at.


Try what PandaPaws said before you go awall and leave him, ask him questions during, see if you can get any responses. If you get nothing, or negative feed bad, drop him like a rock. I, personally, do not kneel for anyone who doesn't make it worth my while.

[eleni]

he sounds like a complete git.

you deserve much better
i would be furious if my boyfriend acted like that.

x

[StillLearnin]

he sounds like a complete git.

you deserve much better

Concur.

[Ashlee T.]

As dramatic as it may sound, giving oral to my bf for the first time was totally humiliating to me. He wasn't rude or ugly, but he lay there not moving, not making a sound, not giving me any feedback, clearly not enjoying himself and giving me NO direction whatsoever. Finally, I stopped by the time i had developed sores on the inside of my lip from protecting him from my teeth. He didn't even get off. He laid there like a dead fish. I was absolutely humiliated. I haven't been able to do it since. It's like I have this total stage fright. He made me feel so uncomfortable that time, and then even afterwards wouldn't give me any feedback. 24 hours later when I was starting to sort of move on from it, he says "well, I think you just didn't go down as far as other people have". !?!?!?!?!? WTF!? That's NOT something you say to your GF after humiliating her and telling her for 24 hours that she didn't do anything wrong. It totally ruined it for me, and literally haven't wanted to do it since. My advice to him was "Treat me like you want to be treated! And I KNOW you'd have been humiliated too if I had done that. If I'm not pleasing you, help me to learn you." I've always been very oral with past relationships. And now I'm having to work past that as yet another sexual issue in this one.

And another thing guys dont' seem to understand, some of you are "shaped" different than others, curve in different ways etc. With my current BF I found it VERY difficult to get in a position that I could even get him past a certain point in my mouth. So guys, if you know this is the case, then GIVE YOUR GIRL SOME FEEDBACK, let her know what positions work the best. You know your body way better than she does.
Your guy sounds selfish. Stop being so giving. Tell him if you're not going to get any feedback, and have to feel like a disrespected worthless tr*mp every time, then you're just not going to do it.

I'm afraid all in all it doesn't sound like he has much respect for you.