[brownlover]

If he's not going to be appreciative towards your "gifts" then stop giving them or find someone who will adore them!!

[PandaPaws]

he says "well, I think you just didn't go down as far as other people have". !?!?!?!?!? WTF!? That's NOT something you say to your GF

Yeah, that was completely unecessary, and you probably never forget that. It's like when I first started dating my bf, and he didn't cum the first time I did it (which I was very used to people cumming every time in the past) he said, "Well, only 1 person was able to make it a 'quick' job." Nice. Now, 2.5 years later, I still feel like I'm being compared to the girl who gave the best head ever...

[Guest]

My girl read a book once while doing kegels on top of me. Cant say it bugged me though seen as I was enjoying it pretty much.
But yeah, tell him. Maybe he thinks nothing of it. How do you behave towards him ?

[Hopeless Dork]

Finally, I stopped by the time i had developed sores on the inside of my lip from protecting him from my teeth. He didn't even get off. He laid there like a dead fish. I was absolutely humiliated. I haven't been able to do it since.

The first few times I gave my boyfriend oral he didn't make a sound until his orgasm, the rest of the time he'd just silently watch me... I thought it was sexy , but wanted occasional feedback if I was doing things he liked. Afterwards he'd hold me in a way that expressed love and appreciation and made me feel good.

But I still need to hear the words and explained to him that him not saying how it felt to him made me wonder whether or not he liked it... his response was like are you crazy you give me greater pleasure than I've ever felt...

He was just shy and not real sure what to say, felt saying something would maybe be embarassing to me or him or sound stupid. But that he would better try to express himself during and after.

He's still quiet during most of the oral, except for your during his orgasm and how vocal he is then makes me feel like he's pleased but now aftewards when he holds me he makes sure to tell me how good it was, how much he loves and appreciates the pleasure I give him.

I know you have emotional issues to work out with him and how he reacts to oral before you enjoy doing it again... but I justed to add that you might find more comfort using your tongue (protrudng it out of your mouth just a little, or just holding it over your bottom teeth) to protect him from your bottom teeth and just lightly pulling your upper lips over them.. that's way more comfortable and keep you from you getting sores from your teeth.

[Ashlee T.]

I know you have emotional issues to work out with him and how he reacts to oral before you enjoy doing it again... but I justed to add that you might find more comfort using your tongue (protrudng it out of your mouth just a little, or just holding it over your bottom teeth) to protect him from your bottom teeth and just lightly pulling your upper lips over them.. that's way more comfortable and keep you from you getting sores from your teeth.
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True true!! I tried to make him understand that I don't expect him toscream and growl and all that, but even some feedback or leadership in the right direction DURING would be nice if I'm not doing what he likes. His part curves in a way I suppose I'm not used to, so it's very hard to even get it in my mouth comfortably. If he's actually getting off, then that's positive reinforcement for me to know I did something right. But when he didn't get off AT ALL, and then laid there silent, and gave me no feedback, I was humiliated. So now, gotta work through this complex.

OMG I HAVE HORRIBLE CRAMPS TODAY. HELLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLP!! lol

[Vixen]

Bjs can be so hit or miss for me. I really do hate it when the guy just lies there, like they are letting us do something amazing. Its not enjoyable when he doesnt get involved. Not asking for much but as long as I know he is enjoying it then I can enjoy it (really enjoy it). Its not the act itself but knowing that he likes it. Some moans or a comment to say whats gd or what he would like is great.

Your guy sounds like he does not appriciate you or what you do for him. Talk to him and tell him that you simply wont do it if he doesnt become more involved, more thankful and giving.

Its not far that guys expect this from women. I know, I never expect oral and certainly always give in return.

[Guest]

I think that any lady that gives her b/f a blow job deserves to be thanked and kissed and cuddled afterwards as well. I'm always grateful when, on tjose odd times, my g/f does this for me. It's so rude not to show appreciation.

[Allie602]

Tom You'll be getting plenty of them. Men usually complain, or act entitled (they wonder why they stop), very few behave gratefully. You stand out from the crowd, spread the word.

[Guest]

This is out of order. Any guy that receives a loving bj from his female partner must show his appreciation. Due to the joy it gives us guys, it's the least he should do.

[stressed]

Interesting to read these posts. I'm always the one who gives the cuddles etc. after a b/j, during which he's always quiet, claiming he enjoys them better this way. I think I've given up trying to get any responses after all this time, so I ignore his silence.
It helps to communicate but apparently some things will never change.