[sourpuss]

Sex typically isn't a visual thing for women.

[Joey]

a lot of women WANT to be the object of their mans fantasy... especially if its as easily attainable as a pair of socks. You just have to express it in a way that doesn't make her feel like her current look is a turn off.

Totally agree with you HD. was about to write near enough the same thing.

[Wruinin]

Oh we all can give tips and tricks but what we can't... what anyone can't do is tell you why women do this or that... we can only tell you what we do... not what everyone woman does or why she does it or doesn't.

Women are held to a rediculously higher standard of beauty than men. And its so loaded in hypocrisy its not even funny. Some guys idolize porn stars and make their gfs feel like for being so natural... but then in the same breath will say fake boobs are gross, i don't like em'... uhh only good enough to masturbate to, right then, got it.

If she wants more sex from you than you are giving her... and you feel like you'd give her more if she dressed sexier in the bedroom you can just tell her how much it turns you on to see her in stockings... a lot of women WANT to be the object of their mans fantasy... especially if its as easily attainable as a pair of socks. You just have to express it in a way that doesn't make her feel like her current look is a turn off.

I think we are beginning to understand each other. I would never allow anyone to force my gf do something crazy about her breasts or anything just for the sake of sexy looks. And I prefer smaller natural breasts to some weird artificial stuff. But again, if they want to have them, more power to them, if it is the woman's choice.

I think my gf is a bit of extreme. I love her skin, her body, otherwise I would never start the whole sexual thing. But I noticed very early how she seems to completely ignore the details of a woman's look. I think partly it is because she is so intelligent and has other things to think about than what her naked body looks like or what she looks like half naked. But you are right, it is necessary to say something like You look fantastic now and I would jump out of the window our of exstasy if you even had this or that on. I sometimes do it, but was confused about the whole thing. As I said, to my ex it was just unnatural to wear something sexy and it ended up as a toy. Which pretty discouraged me from buying more stuff.

[KMonte85]

I noticed very early how she seems to completely ignore the details of a woman's look. I think partly it is because she is so intelligent and has other things to think about than what her naked body looks like or what she looks like half naked.

I think there's a difference between what you find sexy and what makes her feels sexy. I doubt she is actually ignoring the details of "a woman's look." Shoe probably just thinks she looks better a certain way, or perhaps doesn't think about it at all, and you perfer a raunchier look in the bedroom and/or outside of that realm. That's just a difference of opinion.

Like has been discussed, if you love the way she looks in certain outfits or with certain accessories on, then you should tell her how fantastic she looks in them. Let her know, and I bet she'll be happy to wear some interesting things to bed for you. But please do not expect her to do that all the time, especially if she's just doing it for you and doesn't make her feel any better herself. It might not be her thing to wear those types of clothing all the time, and some sexy underroos really are uncomfortable, especially to sleep in. Its a treat for you, be appreciative of it but don't expect it Buy her some nice things, or go to the store together so you can pick out something you both like for her to treat you with sometimes

[Wruinin]

I think there's a difference between what you find sexy and what makes her feels sexy. I doubt she is actually ignoring the details of "a woman's look." Shoe probably just thinks she looks better a certain way, or perhaps doesn't think about it at all, and you perfer a raunchier look in the bedroom and/or outside of that realm. That's just a difference of opinion.

Like has been discussed, if you love the way she looks in certain outfits or with certain accessories on, then you should tell her how fantastic she looks in them. Let her know, and I bet she'll be happy to wear some interesting things to bed for you. But please do not expect her to do that all the time, especially if she's just doing it for you and doesn't make her feel any better herself. It might not be her thing to wear those types of clothing all the time, and some sexy underroos really are uncomfortable, especially to sleep in. Its a treat for you, be appreciative of it but don't expect it Buy her some nice things, or go to the store together so you can pick out something you both like for her to treat you with sometimes

Thanks for the tips, I'll try some of those things.

[Rediscovered]

I'm feeling very fortunate that my lover thinks I'm sexiest with no lingerie on at all--especially no bra. (And I do save that look for around the house because I don't really care what *other* men think of me--I'm not trying to impress anyone but my man)

And he loves the little boy shorts I wear that I get from Wally World--so woo hoo to that, lol. But when I'm just going out for the day and on my own, I will probably wear my white Jockey underwear. 'Cuz no one's gonna see them but ME.

[GlassDaemon]

God I wish I could find sexy panties for 3 for 10 here... I think the best quality I saw was at like 3 for 24... Anyway

I love to feel sexy and sure fire way to do that is to put me on a sexy thong, thigh highs and a hot bra, matching is preferred of course. Funny thing is, the most that I ever dressed in such lingerie... was when I was single and had no intentions of meeting someone, it was just something I'd put on every now and then and it made me smile when I'd come home and take off my clothes and be like "daaaammmnn I loook goood!" lol.

The boyfriend I do like to dress up for, I don't do it often because actually it's quite awkward, especially with lingerie outfits, like babydolls and corsets, I can't just wear them all day and rip off the clothes come night, I kinda have to prepare and put them on just before. Sometimes I get lucky and he's lagging behind getting to bed and I get time to dress up. One time I told him I was going to go take a nap and he always, for some reason, comes and checks on me like I jumped out the window, so I dressed up in a cute babydoll and thigh highs. I love the feel of thigh highs on me, for some strange reason they turn me on just to wear them. lol

Still, most the time I'm in cotton bikini panties, he likes boyshorts but they turn into cheekies on my luscious rear.... >.> (cheekies act like thick thongs on me, we don't even go there) So they're a once in awhile if my clothes are loose enough to allow them kind of thing. If I got a pair of tight jeans they'll pull up the sides of the boyshorts and they do not make a pleasant thong let me tell you...

As a side note, with my foot broken I have felt many things and beautiful and sexy is not on that list, so thank whatever is up there that I have a boyfriend who for whatever crazy reason thinks I'm beautiful in pajama pants and a huge tshirt. Still I try to minimize the clothes for his eyes, but when we're around family/friends I look pretty bummy most the time. I do try to come across as at least cute, but I just can't wear that sexy thong with this massive black tumor on my leg, I just can't do it, it looks so retarded to me. (the cam walker is black, though I'm in a white split right now) Not to mention fixing the less than comfortable underwear when you're limping around with crutches just isn't easy or fun.

[Beckers]

First of all, keep up with praising your gf like that, that's very cool.

I love being comfortable, but that doesn't mean that my underwear is unattractive. I find thongs pretty comfortable and wear them whether or not my bf is going to see.

But if I know I'm going to sleep over his place or something, I'll make sure to wear the extra seductive under garments that drive him crazy. But I do this mostly for me to feel sexy, because my bf couldn't care less what I'm wearing he always thinks i'm sexy. Even if it's in an old pair of his pjs that are 5 sizes too big for me lmao

[Faerunner]

my bf couldn't care less what I'm wearing he always thinks i'm sexy. Even if it's in an old pair of his pjs that are 5 sizes too big for me lmao

This. My fiance thinks that I'm sexy no matter what I'm wearing (and he lets me know it!). Because of this, I am more motivated to put on a thong or a cute bra when I want to feel sexy and get his attention, rather than making a chore of putting one on because he won't think I'm sexy without it. He appreciates it, but he doesn't demand it. I also work with kids, am very active and don't appreciate underwire bras or vicious lacy thongs poking and scratching and riding up at crucial moments or when I don't have the privacy to readjust... it doesn't help that I'm a very small A cup and finding bras that fit at all is difficult, let alone finding affordable bras that fit and are sexy...

That's my personal reason for bumming around in tshirts and baggy pj pants when I don't have to dress professionally for work... it's just easier, quicker, more comfortable and most of all keeps the "fun" clothing fresh for when I really want to drive him wild.

Definitely keep letting your girlfriend know that you love her and are attracted to her no matter what she wears! And there's nothing wrong with stockings as a bedroom-only toy... you might just have to choose something more "practical" like a nice tight sweater for her to wear outside the house and still be comfy.

[WildChild]

There was a time when I loved lovely undergarments and had quite a collection of panties, bras, garter belts, stockings and such. I wore them pretty much daily just because I enjoyed them. But two marriages and a relationship, all with men who couldn't care less, rarely noticed or responded and I just don't bother anymore.

My last husband, when we were newly married, asked, what's that supposed to be? When I wore silky nitie to bed. I told him it was a nitie and was supposed to be sexy. His response was, "I don't care about stuff like that" and rolled over and went to sleep. Think I ever tried that again? Not on your life.

Considering that now, I've gone from being told how hot and beautiful I am, to maybe if he's feeling really observant he might notice when I've refreshed my hair color and say it looks good, it doesn't seem that anything "sexy" would be much worth while. It would just be likely to draw attention from men whose attention I don't want.