I can't believe I got an infraction for belittling the opposite gender. Nice. On a thread about why men prefer to masturbate instead of sex which belittles men. Okay, well all I can say is I guess there's no easy answer for why men do it. I guess the best way to answer the question would be why do some women prefer to masturbate instead of having sex? Men most likely do it for the exact same reasons.

[MaleMan]

Next question teikyo.

Are you married?
have you ever been married?
and how many years has your longest relationship gone?

(jeopardy theme song playing)

LOL...just messing with you.

[Fallen1]

If you want fair answers you have to look at the situation from both sides. You can't just point fingers and ask why men do certain things then not listen to the answers.

I think you need to take your own advice here. You sure are full of "women this, women that". It seems for whatever reason you are bitter.

As far as men doing everything? No, maybe you have experienced it with the partners you've been with.

My favorite position is being on top and ME doing the work but you know what? My husband doesn't let me do that all the time.

We share the work. He puts out just as much effort as I do.

If either partner is withholding sex then you need to have a real serious discussion about your relationship and maybe come to an understanding you can get it elsewhere. I would never stay with someone who wanted sex once or twice a month or maybe even just a few times a year. No one should do that to the other person. If they didn't like sex they shouldn't have lied about it to get in the relationship.

It's like that joke about the bride smiling at the altar because it's the last blowjob she'll ever have to give. Why would she want to get married in the first place is my question.

[MaleMan]

As far as teikyo is concern, by reading some of his responses and replies, I would assume he is in his mid 20s to early 30s. And has lots of blinders on.

ok...still in ballpark...give or take 5 yrs....dude...lol

[MaleMan]

I do not prefer masterbastion over intercourse. But my wife does make that decision more me...not my choice

As far as teikyo is concern, by reading some of his responses and replies, I would assume he is in his mid 20s to early 30s. And has lots of blinders on.

Some of the things in the article are correct...fantasy has a lot to do with masterbastion (I think) But I guess I prefer the real thing...when I can get it(other issues).

dog

Look, one of you wanted to know why a guy would masturbate instead of having sex. If you want to lay all the blame on a guy for doing it, that's fine. If a woman wanted to masturbate instead of having sex, I bet you would still blame the guy. It always comes down to something we aren't doing right. It's never the woman's fault. At the very best it's both person's faults together, or the guy did something wrong. It's never solely the woman who is to blame. And that's fine on a woman's forum. I can't expect women to except any blame for themselves.

If you want to look up studies by women on why men masturbate, or talk to men who are sympathetic to women on why men masturbate, you're going to get skewed data. What you're really asking for isn't an answer as to why, but a pat on the back that it isn't your fault and that something is wrong with the guy.

Masturbation itself is healthy. Always. You can't catch anything from it, and as well as feeling good, it relieves tension. For a guy to masturbate, it usually means he's horny. If I'm in the mood and ask my SO for sex and she isn't in the mood, guess what: I'm going to masturbate. If she doesn't like it, too bad. Just like if she's in the mood and I turn her down she's totally welcome to handle her business.

If men did everything the way women wanted them to do them, we'd be women, not men. I hate all the cuddly stuff, and all the drama a lot of women seem to be into. I hate Sex in the City, and Little Women, and American Idol. I hope Perez Hilton's website gets shut down. But that's all because I'm a guy. Most guys aren't into that stuff. I don't expect women to be into porn, horror movies, or playing first person shooter video games online. I don't expect them to want to go play Texas Hold'Em at the casino with me or go race cars. There are differences between the sexes. And any guy who is "in sync" totally with his wife/girlfriend and likes things like Sex in the City, just isn't right.

I also don't think it's wrong for a man to want to do things that his SO doesn't want to do. Why can't he fantasize about them? My ex wanted me to tie her up in the woods and have sex with her. Never happened. I had one girlfriend who wanted to do the rape fantasy. Never happened. Should I have put either of them down if they masturbated to the idea? No, why would I?

As for being young, yeah I guess I am young. I'm 37.....

And as for us doing all the work, how often do any of you stay on top the entire time you have sex? I'd love to just lie back and enjoy the ride. But it usually starts out with a few hundred push-ups doing it missionary style, then it winds up being a few hundred thrusts doing it doggie-style, then it usually switches to standing up with the girl bent over doing more thrusts, then if I'm lucky I get to lie back and enjoy the woman on top. At that point my knees, thighs, and legs are all tired from all the activity. So yeah, I do think we do most if not all of the work. God forbid a guy lose his erection during the act, then it's an argument about A) the guy not being able to stay hard, B) the girl not being enough C) How she can play with a toy with no problems. Again, if she get's dry during then it becomes about the man not exciting her enough instead of it being her fault for not staying wet. The same arguments never seem to apply to women.

If you want fair answers you have to look at the situation from both sides. You can't just point fingers and ask why men do certain things then not listen to the answers.

I think we all have to remember that it's very easy to generalise. We all, after all, can only give our view based on our own experiences. I am mostly slightly frustrated as are a lot of men. Bit I also accept that a lot of women are as well. I'm sure that there are a lot of people of both sexes that put a lot of effort in a relationship and get less in return. I guess that just the way it is. Does anyone know of anybody in a perfect relationship????

[LanaBear]

We do actually do all the work in bed, and I think a lot of women forget that.

You have GOT to be kidding me here. Your posts (not just this one, but many others) are so full of generalizations against women it's ridiculous. Don't ridicule US by comments like these. If you are bent because maybe YOU do do all the work in bed in YOUR relationship, then that is something that you need to work on with your partner. This is not the case with many of the women on this forum, so your generalizations will not get you very far here.

[x.st.angel.x]

Well said CW