[rcoreyus]

If he doesn't appreciate you, find someone who will. You sound passionate and adventurous in bed. You are willing and eager to learn how to pleas him. If he doesn't realize how fantastically lucky he is, slap him silly (or not) and find someone who does.

There is never a reason to say something derogatory about someone in bed. If they are doing something you don't like it fine to tell them - but find a nice way that doesn't suggest that it is their problem.

[Rediscovered]

Gosh, I agree wholeheartedly with rcoreyus. Your boyfriend sounds like he has fallen into the porno trap where every woman should be perfect like the women in the movies. Meanwhile, his perfectly wonderful girlfriend is made to feel less than perfect.

It doesn't sound like a very balanced sexual relationship and if he is taking more than he is giving, I would take rcoreyus' advice and leave this one to his own devices.

[LilahX]

Hun, is this guy really worth the effort? If you're just new to the whole r/ship/sex thing then set your standards high from the outset and only be with guys who will treat you with respect.

You're young and open-minded and obviously willing to work on a relationship - don't get involved with anyone who isn't the same.

For future reference re 'being on top' - you don't have to go at it like a jackhammer for it to feel good for the guy. I tire easily (I'm old and lazy) but I find if I alternate b/w fast and slow it works a treat. The most sensitive part of a guy's penis is just below the head so if go a few slow and shallow and then go all the way down etc etc it will give great stimulation. Of course it depends if the guy is only after 'the end result' or if he enjoys being teased and the pleasure drawn out. You can take your weight on your elbows which gets you nice and close to him and gives you a rest from taking the weight on your wrists or just your legs. Also try 'reverse cowgirl' where you're on top but facing his feet. This way he gets a great visual as well and you have more room to lean forward and take the weight off.

I hope you're not too emotionally involved here and that you give this guy what he deserves (a shove out the door). Better things await.

[Mes T]

Gosh, I agree wholeheartedly with rcoreyus. Your boyfriend sounds like he has fallen into the porno trap where every woman should be perfect like the women in the movies.

A-ha! I wonder, and think that his mindset might actually come from porn! There should be a disclaimer in big flashing red letters at the beginning of every porn video: "THE FOLLOWING IS FICTION."

[rcoreyus]

I'm not sure why, but it seems the women who are the most willing to please their partners in bed, who are the most adventurous and exiting in bed often wind up with men who don't care and who don't treat the well. It seems like the the reverse is true for adventurous men as well.

Maybe it is simply that the person who is least interested in sex controls that part of the relationship - the more interested person is willing to do anything for more intimacy. The less interested person can get by doing nothing. If thats true, its a sad comment on romance and love.

[jns]

There are many other positions for sex, why limit yourself to just a few (rhetorical)? There are many positions that don't tire the participants excessively. The variety will keep sex from becoming routine. A lot of them are not good for porno since they don't show what is going on to a camera.