[autummleaf]

do women believe life is a fairy tale??

i had been so concerned about my husband's sexual drive but yesterday he came back from visiting his ill dad (ill 2 months ago, sexual problems since 2005) and he asked me desperately for having sex and it was so so good because i felt so desired again , he did all the wonderful things he used to when we were just boyfriend and girlfriend
we had such a great time, we made love twice which is very unusual for us in a day,i put on a sexy outfit and it really worked and i had the best orgasm ever !!!!!
I'm so happy having him around again but I've just realized that i usually get too horny even when he kisses me or just touch me!! o when i feel his perfume, it even does not matter if he hasn't had a shower.is that common?
we're always kissing or hugging to each other or saying "i love you" but as all you know i was worried about the "never in the mood thing" and MAINLY FOR his weird reasons for not having sex!

I've talked to him from the bottom of my heart and explained my reasons for being concerned he understand and says that he thinks that is unfair to judge a man who is not so crazy about sex , despite the fact this men is responsible, cleans up, cooks,no drinking(just socially) no smoking, never says no to my requirements, pays the bills, doesn't go out with friends,do the dishes....and since we're Latin Americans that's very unusual for the "MACHO THING CULTURE" .
he says that is unfair to judge a man who's got an "A" in everything but sex!! like if it was a fairly tale where the prince is:

• handsome
• rich
• skilled lover
• muscular
• cleans up
• cooks ETC ETC....... NO DEFECTS!!! HE SAYS ; do still women believe that life is a fairy tale??
  

[Ivy]

In The Same Boat

I thought I was the only one going through something like this. I'm 28 and have been married for 5 1/2 years and for pretty much all of the marriage I have been feeling rejected and like I'm less than a women. I'm very into sex, I Love sex but my husband don't seem to share that passion. In some ways it seems like, I'm the man and he is the women. I don't know what to do. This has killed myself esteam.

[lauralight]

my x innundated me with sexual offers..

like a doormat, turned me off even more, got even less sex....

[fed-up]

Usually it's the other way around but some men just don't have a high sex drive,could be he has low testrom i spelled that wrong but if he is on medication that could cause it when i was put on propanonol for migraine's my sex drive was gone. Certain heart medication's high blood pressure med's can also mess with your sex drive or he could have ED or hopefully not he could be bi. You just gonna have to sit down and talk to him ask him straight out what's the problem.And just tell him no matter what it is you will be there and help him through what's going on.

[kaylar]

There are many reasons why a man's sex drive
suddenly drops...none are nice.

1) A guy has pretended to be straight, gotten
a woman to marry and legitimise him, now, that
he's 'proven' he is a 'real man', sex is really too
much effort for him.

2) A guy has a **** on the outside who drains
him to the last drop.

3) Something is physically wrong; i.e. a heart
condition which needs immediate medical care

People can say what they wish...anyone who has
lived with a normal male person under the age of
forty knows it is pretty much every night...in fact
the reason that one does not have sex every night
is usually because the woman is the one begging off.

[lauralight]

Every night

What, I'm divorced, my x didn't ask for it every night. Guys get too tired too.

[kaylar]

A normal healthy man, under forty...it's pretty much
every night...pretty much...
meaning yes, you work you're tired and fall asleep
in front of the TV.
meaning, you've got to get up early to go and do
so you don't.
You have been angry at each other since lunch
so don't even want to sleep in the same room.

But when the relationship is fine, and you go
to bed together, sex is pretty much on the agenda.

[sjtorr]

I wish

Kaylar I wish I had your luck with that....
Been married twice, and sex was never a foregone conclusion going to the bedroom. With my second husband, he claimed I turned him on, but yet we'd go for months without it.

There are so many issues that men try to hide, not share, don't want to deal with, get stressed over... just like stress can hamper a woman's desire to have sex, it can hamper a man's too. With my second husband, it was money... always money... he couldn't get away from the stress of it, felt he was letting me down, and that seemed to impact his desire to have sex.

Talk to him... this is one of the hardest conversations to have, but until you sit him down in an unconfrontational way (comfy on the couch with a glass of wine, and just chat), you'll never really find out what's in the way.

[kaylar]

I suppose I just tend to select virile men...
I'm the one who always declines...I've not had
a man decline sex...

[Ivy]

My husband is under 40 and yet we are still having this problem. A couple of years ago we had this big issue where he couldn't get off. At first he keep saying that it was nothing. After I dragged out of him, he told me that it was the money issue stressing him out. We then was able to work it out. But now he is having that same problem again. I know for a fact it's not money this time. I'm just tried of feeling like I'm not desired.