[Ashlee T.]

Leave him a note that says "It's over. And by the way, I've been faking it the whole time hoping you'd get better."

Ok ok, well....I guess that would be "mean" but honestly, doesn't sound like he deserves much better than that. One way to scar someone and give them a complex for years and years to come is to tell them they're bad at sex. A good partner will know that not all guys like the same thing, and he will have to lead you and show you what he likes a bit.

Seriously though, do you fake orgasms with him? I mean, you probably do, right? And if you do, then it's not like he's totally pleasing you either....so do you tell him he's "bad" at it? No...because you're not insensitive, shallow, arrogant, and mean. On the contrary, he is. Time to cut your ties and find someone you can have GREAT experiences with instead of hanging around for someone that doesn't respect or appreciate you.

[maverick]

Yes, you need to ditch this loser. I think that his behavior is immature and borderline abusive. It is just going to get worse over time. Potentially much worse. Just for the record, I have never personally experienced "bad" oral sex. The worst that I have ever had was wonderful.

Good luck,

Mav

[WildChild]

Given the number of women who won't put lips or tongue to penis, I'd think he would be happy that as a newbie you are willing to try.

Forget him, but for future reference (we have a ton of threads on this) forget trying to become the deep throat queen and treat it like a big peppermint stick or ice cream cone. Lick around the base and up one side and down the other. Swirl your tongue around the top and put your lips over just the head and suck wettly while gently turning your head side to side. Do little short licks up and down the shaft and then long, slow ones. Use your hand to grasp and work up and down the shaft and up to the head. Believe me once you get going and he gets into it, he won't know or care if it's your hand, mouth, feet, whatever as long as it stays wet, and feeling good. You don't have to bring him to ejaculation. Do it as long as feels good to you. Then if you are all juicy, climb on and get yours. He'll be fine.

You can save all this for someone who will actually appreciate it.

[Jacks-UP]

Sounds like a Jerk I wouldn't waste my time with him you're not bad just learning.

[Guest]

Like the other ladies say, very insensitive of this guy. The fact that you are willing to give him oral at all is a sign that you are a giving person. Any guy that gets just this from a lady must treat her well. This is the ultimate in sexual giving. If you want advice on how to do these things ask the ladies or guys here but don't put up with someone that puts you down. x