[Guest]

Baby ur too young!

[stressed]

Well, lets see. Im now sorta in your position. Im a freshman. My boyfriend is too 15 (only older than me by 8 months) and we are both WAY too mature for our age. We've been dating for three months and yeah, Im definatly ready to have sex with him, and since hes had it before, hes ready for me. When he had it he was 12 and he'll admit to not being ready. Hes slept with two other girls (both virgins) and hasnt had sex in 2 years. I really do believe we're ready, but with poor access to nessesary protection, we're going to wait. Im just wondering how that turned out? It would be great to know.

He's 15 and has already had sex with two girls (both virgins), so that's going to make you the third virgin in a row he's going to be with.

Why did he break up with the other two girls and how long have you two been together?

[hppacific]

ok. you're 14 years old and you're dating a 14 year old BOY. you've been dating for a month and half and you want to have sex for the first time. and my question is you see nothing wrong with this?? for one thing once you start having sex your entire child-likeness goes out the window. and i'm not saying that you couldn't be mature enough to handle the emotional side of this because some girls are pretty mature for their age but i can honestly say that i dont think there is a single 14 year old BOY on this PLANET that would be mature enough to handle what you are probably going to experience on an emotional level. and i am not quite sure that you are in love. i think you might be in "puppy love", just excited about the relationship with a cute boy lalala type of thing. i think that you should honestly wait and as one of the first posters said if u live in the US the consentual age for sex is 17 except for in a few states which is 16. i dont think its any younger than that. if your parents or this boys parents found out and were upset about it you or him could get in a LOT of trouble. not to mention if the kids you went to school with found out you dont want to be labled as a hussie or anything that could ruin the last 4 years of highschool for you with harrassment and whatever else. kids arent very excepting and with rumors and things that go around are you sure you really could deal with all that??

[hppacific]

Ah nah girl, Your not too young. Hey I'm 15 and I met this new guy and having a two relashionship problem with two guys and I really want to have sex with the new guy. But no really your not too young don't be worried about the age, It matters on the love

and no offense but you're 15. i dont think that you're all that experienced with this kind of stuff yourself. maybe you should've waited?? im just sayin....

[mommies3]

I to believe you are way too young to have sex right now. I am not as good with the advice as the other posters but i have a little. I to thought i was ready for sex at 14 and my boyfriend was 16. It wasnt what i thought it was going to be and i was by no mens ready. And after the first ime thats all he wanted to do. I even laid out of school to do the things he wanted to do. I also spent plenty of time wondering if i may be pregnant, because the condoms broke several times. And let me tell you that is no fun at 14. Condoms are not a sur fire way of protecton. I did have a baby at 17 and even at that age it is ery hard. Luckily i have a wonderful man. You may be mature for your age but you are no where near ready for the consequences hat come with your decisions. Your emotions are going to go crazy and you are going to be very hurt if he leaves you soon after. I thought the guy i lost my virginity was going to be there forever also, but a month later he was gone and had been cheating on me for sometime. I would think this through very carefully and i would give it 6 months or longer. If he loves you he will respect your decisions and he will wait. You are never as mature as you think you are especially when certain circumstanes come around. I know it is hard to wait because your hormones are going wild but you will be much happier if you wait i think. Looking back on things now i wish i had saved myself for marriage. It truly is something special to give the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with.

[XChiquitaX]

I definitely think that you should wait a couple more years, trust me, when I lost mine I regretted that because of who it was with, you might think you love them now, as I did, but at 21 I now know for sure what to look for in a guy and he definitely wasn't it, if he is 14 too he's still not emotionally mature (I don't mean that as an insult it's just a fact) and as a result younger guys are more likely to mess you around. I'm not saying he's definitely a jerk but he is still 14, like you, so I think you should give it more time till you really know yourself.

On the other hand, if you are going to do it, please make sure you use proper protection, don't believe any of the crazy myths you hear, for example when I was at school there was always this rumour that if you do it standing up you don't get pregnant which obviously is so not true!! So please, if you do go ahead with it, use a condom and make absolutely sure that your boyfriend knows that's what you want, don't let him tell you it's more comfortable without one, another tale that goes around a lot.

Again, I would say you should wait but at the end of the day you will make your own decision so please, be careful!

[emmii601]

I myself am too 14 soon to be 15. I lost my virginity 10 days after my fourteenth birthday to my boyfriend of only 2 months at that time. I can't say i ever regretted my decision, it sucks that i am very young and no longer a virgin but it happens to a lot of people nowadays. Most of my friends also lost their virginity around the same time i did. It's sad to say its become a trend for teens to lose their virginity before all their friends. I was the first of my friends. Which i hated at the time. The only good decision i made was the guy i lost it too who i am still with to this day. A big decision in losing your v card is who you will lose it too. A lot of girls can become very emotiionally attatched to the guy they lost it too. So make sure he is the one. Be careful.

[kayleigh4]

if you don't want to ..don't do it.
i'm 14 years of age myself.. and i've had sex with two guys, the first one i waited 6 months, i knew i loved him.. and i didnt feel pressured what so ever. I enjoyed it very much.. we lasted a year and four months. it was the best year of my life.. and i do not regret a thing.
The second guy, i only waited 3 weeks ,i cared for him, and he told me he really truly loved me, i was stupid.. and i believed him. We had sex 3 times, then 2 days after the last time.. he brokeup with me. and i foundout recently that hes been having sex with numerous girls.. I suggest you wait a while longer ;pregnancy isnt the only thing to worry about ;theres also tons of nasty things out there that you could easily catch. Wait till Y O U R ready, your first time should be very important and special to you. make sure its with someone you love... and if you end up getting scared that he's going to leave you if you don't ..or feel like you HAVE to, to impress him.. DON'T bother. If he doesn't respect you, then he doesn't deserve you.
best of luck. - Kayleigh < 3 x

[girl_scout94]

hello, I know how you feel. I am 16 years old and had sex when I was 15. I can honestly tell you if he cares for you he wont have sex with you. Your parents will be extremely dissapointed. Both of you are going through raging hormones and I know how you feel. I felt like I was ready but after it was done with I felt empty inside and when he left me my world just crumbled down around me. 1 month at 14 is way to soon, I never believed my parents and knoledge untill it was to late.

[thewomennator]

i think if u want to do it but dont get caught...i had sex when i was 15 so honey go on and try it.