[Ashlee T.]

That's awesome to hear.

[uglee]

My wife enjoys oral sex (recieving, not giving) and she says no-one before me was anywhere near as good at it. But when it comes to finger penetration, it is very often a "no go area" of sex. She has never been one for experimentation and prefers the old tried and true methods i.e. missionary, doggy and standing....and that's all.

What can I do to encourage her to be more into foreplay and trying new things? I like a lot of foreplay and for sex to last over an hour at least, but she likes about 3 or 4 hard quick orgasms and that's it. I need to find the secret to getting her to just lay back and enjoy long, sensual and very orgasmic sex...can you give me any help?

[mommies3]

I really dont have any advice. This is just how we have always been. we both love the foreplay. The kissing and the touching is just so awesome and we probably do that more than anything else. He doesnt usually last really long. I guess just tell her that you would enjoy more foreplay and you think she would to. Play some soft music and just ease into it. anything you can do for her to get her to relax is great. Some candles, music. Just take any burden she has on her away. That probably isnt much help and im sorry. I have never really given advice on sex.

[mommies3]

He is interested but just not everynight. he likes to build it up and plus he is on blood pressure meds and we had no problem until he started taking the meds. I guess i need to give that more understanding.
he is always able to perform, has no problem with that. Believe me when we do have sex it is awesome!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I just need to be more understanding that maybe every other night is just as good as every night and i really am fine with that.

[jns]

Blood pressure meds can make staying hard or as hard an impossible task. Maybe changing the type of meds
would work. Bring this up with your doctor. Its possible he isn't getting as much sensation as before and doubts of whether he can do it every day have crept into his mind.

[mommies3]

How old are you both? Maybe he's jealous because you got a new toy and he got nothing. Maybe he wants to do it only once in a while to have you beg for it. What did he apologize about, his words or his lack of deeds?

I am 31 and he is 33. Nah i have never tried any toys, he is the only toy i need. I believe the making me wait and begging for it is the right asumption. I have been gone all weekend so i am hoping for a great welcome home. He apologized for everything. We both have a tendency to get irritated easily and he did apologize for hurting my feelings. His reason for being cold with me, is he thought if he did that i would just leave it alone.

[mommies3]

Blood pressure meds can make staying hard or as hard an impossible task. Maybe changing the type of meds
would work. Bring this up with your doctor. Its possible he isn't getting as much sensation as before and doubts of whether he can do it every day have crept into his mind.

He doesnt really have any trouble staying hard the first time around. if we try for a second he has a hard time getting it back up but thats okay once is usually enough. I will mention the meds if has anymore trouble. Thank You