[Jex]

About two minutes after my boyfriend cums inside me he just stops, i would love him to carry on as long as he can as he stays erected for atleast five minutes after he's cum, and it still feels amazing for me when he's semi erect and even when he's gone completely down... i have told him all this but he still doesn't do it, how can i go about this and what can i say to convince him to carry on?

Another thing is that when i cum, hardy anything comes out. Is this normal? How can i cum more than just a tiny bit?

[rcoreyus]

Continuing after orgasm is uncomfortable for some men - even if they are still erect. The penis becomes very sensitive - and not in a good way. The best bet is for him to do more for you before you start intercourse so you finish at the same time - or let him wait a few minutes to recover and then start again.

[Hopeless Dork]

Its normal for when you come to not have that much come out. Some women don't release any additional fluids when they orgasm, some its a small little squirt and some its a full on flood... and sometimes the same woman can experience all of those types on different encounters. So, its normal. If you are wanting to squirt more... just make sure your gpot is receiving heavy stimulation and be when you orgasm, use your "kegals" to expel and you will likely have a bigger squirting result... it doesn't matter though. Most women who squirt a lot say the orgasm isn't any better than when they squirt a little. And some very orgasmic women never squirt. Its all normal.

For the other, like Rcorey said, for some guys the penis is just too sensitive to stay in after orgasm. I agree with him that you should have yourself more foreplay so that you have a better shot at orgasm before or during sex... if you still want afterplay you can always have him manually stimulate you.

[Jex]

Thanks for the replies you've answered alot ...
I understand he's sensitive but it's like the mood just switches off completely when he's finished and i always want as much as he can give me, he isn't really into doing things after sex and i am

[rcoreyus]

There is a strange effect in men that right after orgasm things that seemed arousing before, don't for a while. If you want your man to do things for you, it is best for him to do them before he orgasms. It isn't just selfishness, there is some sort of strange mental change that happens. (I'm male and I don't understand it, but I do experience it).

[Guest]

as rcoreyus says, get your pleasure first. this is what I do with my g/f. When we have full sex she'll have one/two orgasms before I get to release. This way my penis is still "interested" in sex and will stay hard. I remember years ago I had first sex with this girl. She went down on me and brought me to ejaculate orally. She thought this would make me last longer as previous guys had gone soft quickly. It had the reverse effect, I had lost interest immediately afterwards. The next time we had sex, she orgasmed several times and I stayed hard for an hour or more. Then I got my release. Try this, get your man to satisfy you fully first and then he can ejaculate. (by the way, men lose interest after orgasm because they have to be prepared to fight /protect themselves/others immediately afterwards thousands of years ago)

[Hopeless Dork]

While my boyfriend will pleasure me after his orgasm upon any indication I want that... I know that he is tired and I know that if he can have it his way he'd much prefer to give me my orgasms before his own.

Its weird because most times after I orgasm I feel energized and ready to take on the world... I am talkative etc... after he orgasms he is more relaxed, sleepy, ready to go to bed and is less talkative lol.

And that seems to be a common difference between men and women... I often wonder if there is some primal reason for that... that sex can put most men to sleep and can seem to energize women.

[Hopeless Dork]

(by the way, men lose interest after orgasm because they have to be prepared to fight /protect themselves/others immediately afterwards thousands of years ago)

I don't understand that part since most men are snoring within 10 minutes of orgasm... thats not preparing to fight!! lol

[JaneC09]

Have him give you an orgasm before he starts. Also, when he's done, if he needs to pull out, just have him use his fingers to finish you off.

[jns]

Continuing after orgasm is uncomfortable for some men - even if they are still erect. The penis becomes very sensitive - and not in a good way. The best bet is for him to do more for you before you start intercourse so you finish at the same time - or let him wait a few minutes to recover and then start again.

Very true. Can he give you satisfying orgasms orally or manually? Maybe those would be an option. If he is kinky, he may even consider giving you oral without you going in the bathroom to wash up. If he likes that sort of thing, he may recharge faster. Maybe 69 would do in such a case.