[BeautifulxoxoDisaster]

I have been with my boyfriend for a year & have been living together for 8-9 months. Recently he doesn't seem interested in sex. I was first worried that it was me, that I wasn't looking as good as I used to. Then I went and bought something sexy to wear to bed, and when i did...no response. I have never had this kind of issue before. Can someone please help me understand what's going on with him?!

[rhiannon34]

He would probably be able to answer better than we would.

[BeautifulxoxoDisaster]

That's the problem...He won't have a conversation with me about it. I brought it up the other day & he ends up getting angry, yelling & storming off. I just don't know how to get through to him if he won't talk to me about it.

[rhiannon34]

Hmmm, there are so many possible reasons for this. Has anything happened lately like he could not perform, or lost an erection during sex? Any fights or any other change in your relationship? He sounds defensive about it, so there may be something he is ashamed, embarrased or scared to talk to you about.

[Mes T]

It might help to read these two recent threads on a similar issue:

https://www.womens-health.com/boards/sex/28665-my-boyfriends-ended-our-sex-life-i-am-worried-our-relationship.html

https://www.womens-health.com/boards/sex/28599-my-boyfriend-doesnt-want-have-sex-me.html

[kake]

usually it's just stress---although the main sex organ for a woman is the brain, sometimes it happens to men too

[tiff_2187]

I know this happends with my hubby to and he gets upset when I ask him,And there's times I think he's not atractive to me and when I finally put my foot down to ask whats really going on he says I am atractive to you other wise I wouldnt be here.And I ask why he gets mad and says its cause he's ''suppose'' to be able to ''perform'' for me and when he cant he feels ''less'' of a man.But it all depends on things change in relationships,jobs as in if he lost a job recently,stress can be a cause,anything can make a man not be able to ''perform''.Also but he'd have to go to a doctor maybe he has a ''problem'' down there.

[BeautifulxoxoDisaster]

Thank you all so much! I'm going to try being patient & trying to ease my way into talking to him again!

[BeautifulxoxoDisaster]

There has been a few times where he did not last long. He may feel embarrassed...but I don't know how to tell him it's okay! I think if i say something & bring attention to it, it may become a bigger issue.
Thank you for your response!

[jns]

Does he like looking at porn? A lot of guys like looking at porn and it can cause their relationships to suffer.