[pocari]

haha.. my internet has a very low IQ.. so.. there sometimes it double posts.. or it was me! :P

[sallywi2003]

I would make sure you are ready and not being forced. If you are forcing yourself you will lose some of the excitement from having sex the first time. I would suggest since you are not on the pill to use a condom to be safe. Have him take his time and have plenty of foreplay and make sure you are very wet and ready. If you need to use lubrication the first time it may make it feel better if you are really tight. I would suggest if you are not ready to start a family right away to use birth control pills. Once you are on the pill a couple months and you have intercourse without a condom it will take it to a new level.

[x.st.angel.x]

Is your boyfriend a virgin also?? Have you spoken to him about wanting to lose your virginity to him? Reason i ask is sometimes figuring out what to do together is easier than figuring it out on your own.

[chanzian]

Ya , 80%.........but......i didn't tell him that i want to lose my virgin to him....why should i tell him? .........
Sally: how should i know whether i am tight or not? ....and how to use lubrication/where to use it? ....sorry ..i really lacking experience in sex.....sorry to bother u all ^_^ ...hope u all can forgive me ^^

[sallywi2003]

The way I could tell I was tight was when I started using tampons and the feeling going in. Do you curently use tampons? The other way is when you have foreplay and your BF puts a finger in your vagina how tight is it can he get one fineger or 2 finger in. Have him do this prior to intercourse so you can get used to the feel. This will also help with lubrication prior to intercourse. In regards to extra lubrication you can use KY jelly or Astro glide and either have him put it on his penis prior to entering or you can again have him put it on his fingers and play with you and insert the lubrication that way. The key to the having intercourse the first time is that you are ready mentally and that you are wet and ready for insertion. Foreplay is key.

[jns]

....sorry ..i really lacking experience in sex.....sorry to bother u all ^_^ ...hope u all can forgive me ^^

I think most people on this forum would have loved to get advice such as given on this forum before their first time. Nothing to be sorry about. People here are happy to help if they can.

[chanzian]

Yup,but when i put the tampons inside the vagina i feel....something is moving inside that.....and i try to put my finger in it....it can only fit one of my finger.......i think my one is tight.......but....Can I ask....man like Tight{..} or not?...thanks for the lubrication information ^_^.....

[Hooster]

Yup,but when i put the tampons inside the vagina i feel....something is moving inside that.....and i try to put my finger in it....it can only fit one of my finger.......i think my one is tight.......but....Can I ask....man like Tight{..} or not?...thanks for the lubrication information ^_^.....

Yes, men like it tight, but his size is also important. If he is small it is not going to feel as tight to him as it would if he was a bit bigger... I am probably about as thick as your wrist, so I imagine you would feel pretty tight to me. What is important here is that you be well aroused and lubricated before he tries to have intercourse with you. If not it is not going to be nice for you at all. Give it plenty of time before he tries to put it in, and when that time comes get him to be slow and gentle.

Do you know there is a way to train your vagina muscles, chan? When you go to the bathroom to pee, try stopping the flow midway through. Then start it, and stop it again. This way you can learn how to tighten and relax your vaginal muscles. You can then train the muscles in your vagina any time you like, and no one will even notice what you are doing *_^. You will find that you can grip a man during sex and give you and him a great feeling. Having strong muscles down there will also make your orgasms more intense.

[chanzian]

Lol....like that also can..>_<" .........anyways thanks for u all information .....thank you very much...^_^ ....thanks hooster...u are man right.....can u tell me more about man? what u all like actually .....(because want to make my BF love me more) ^^

[Hooster]

Lol....like that also can..>_<" .........anyways thanks for u all information .....thank you very much...^_^ ....thanks hooster...u are man right.....can u tell me more about man? what u all like actually .....(because want to make my BF love me more) ^^

Darling... You want to know a secret??? Men actually like women like you very very much. You are a special treasure and he should appreciate that and treat you like one. You care about making him happy and you are doing things to make that happen and that should make him very pleased. If he has little or no experience you don't need any tricks. Just hugging and kissing you should be enough for him to get turned on. Just take it slow and let him explore your body, play with it and don't be shy about any part. It is all gorgeous and you don't have to be ashamed of or hide anything. You should do the same for him.

Talk to each other. Everyone is different. Don't be afraid to ask if he likes what you are doing or if he does not. Also, if he does something you like, tell him. If you don't like what he is doing let him know, you can tell him directly or suggest he do something else.

Remember to take it slow and be patient. He might have an orgasm quicker than you might like but don't let that bring down the mood. Next time around he will be much better...

There are entire books about this and I can only tell you a few things here. Don't try to become an expert for your first time. It will get better with more experience. Just enjoy the ride and don't worry. It's a wonderful journey.